I have been sick since friday afternoon. I had no energy and couldn't get off the couch except to run to the bathroom and let the dog out. It really sucks.
I hope all is well and I again apologize for posting while on so many painkillers on wednesday after my surgery. I was more than a little out of it and am quite embarrassed. Hope to hear from you all soon!
Chris
Awwww Chris nothing worse than pain from teeth.... (I shouldnt be saying that on this board should I?
Here in sunny scotland (Yeah we've had sun for 3 days), the men think its good to do the dentist without pain relief (its a real neanderthal way of thinking...you know manly!!**), anyway on that note, why not have the whole lot out and a load of falsies save you all the hassle.
I know, I know, not helpful.
Not sure if this would help in your case.....but it sure wouldn't hurt to try.
Hope you feel better soon.
Thats the problem...I have a temporary "flipper"(two false teeth on a pad that looks like a retainer) in my mouth that doesn't fit right. It is putting pressure on where the dentist extracted my teeth and drilled into my jaw to put in posts to hold the permanent teeth whenever they come in. So, my mouth is on FIRE. Plus I was exhausted and had diarreah...and now I am thinking the diareah is caused by the antibiotics he gave me. Yuk. I am at least able to post today and sit up. Now all I want is a cold coke and a cigarrette. I think I am going to get one now!
Peace
Chris
Hi Chris, We are here for you! My gosh you have been through too much....I hope it stops soon. Yes, with our regular aches and pains from RA and then on top of that 'tooth problems' no wonder you are hurting. Take care and be good to yourself. LyndaChris, you have so been having a rough time, mate.
AWW Chris I'm not even gonna tease you today, you really have had a hard time. Sorry
I guess I need to pray and continue talking about it. I had thought of suicide. However, I have 3 very sweet little girls that need their daddy. Nevertheless my thoughts of a final solution that would end all of my pain sounds very attractive. What do I have to offer my wife right now? Nothing. Absolutly nothing. I feel like a drain on society and on my family. I used to be a hard working, ambitious person. Now it's all I can do to shower every day. I can barely eat and don't sleep well, but somehow managed to put on 35 pounds. I feel utterly horrible about myself. I know this isn't a personal counseling venue so this is the last you folks will hear of this.
Peace and long life,
Chris
Yo, Chris! I know what you are going thru. I have had a many of times felt I was a drain on society and that I was worthless, and all the stuff you are talking about. But once I started to feel better, I seen that I was none of that.
Right now, is probably not a good time to talk to your wife about getting back together. I know you feel abandoned, but it sounds like she is having a hard time dealing with this just as much as you are. Maybe her living with her mom is a good thing. Once you get to feeling and doing better, then you can talk to her about getting back together.
Right now you just sound like you are in a lot of pain emotionally and physcially, and not in the right state of mind to talk about getting back together. I know you want her by your side, but you need to choose someone else who is willing to stick with you and put up with your mental state right now, and that person to me sounds like it would be your mommy. I say go to your mommy's house and tell her what is on your mind and she will be there for you no matter what.
Please, Chris talk to your mom. I know she would be happy to give you that extra love and caring only a mother can give her child and that is what sounds like you need right now. Not your wife. You need someone you see as for you and not against you.
Much Huggs! And feel better soon!
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Totally agree with Joonie Chris. Remember your meds can be downers too. Pain certainly is. It will get better. Promise. Just don't do anything rash and hang out with us gals and we'll have you laughing in no timePlease talk to someone who can help you start climbing back up.
Chris,
Sounds like you have had a rough time lately.Hang in there it WILL get better. You (we all) have a lot to offer to the people in our lives. It has just changed from the way it used to be. Take some time to adjust. You may even want to talk to a counselor. It is not a matter of being manly or not it is a matter of dealing with life for yourself and your daughters. Even though they are little YOU are the most important man in the world to them.
Take care of yourself so you can be the parent you want to. Feel free to PM me anytime you need to.
Jay
Chris, regardless of what happens between you and your wife, always keep your daughters in mind. Nothing on earth can replace my daddy, and I KNOW they feel the same way. My parents could divorce tomorrow, and hate each other, and I wouldn't care. He's still my daddy. Always and forever. Daddies and little girls have an awesome bond and you are SO lucky to be a part of that. All you have to do is be there for them, trust me. I'm a daddies girl!!Thanks guys, and particularly thanks to Joonie who talked to me on the side and brought me out of the worst of it. I was just devastated the past couple of days. I hurt and had all this emotional trauma going on after seeing my wife all dressed up to go out without me. It just sucked. I was alone and feeling ill and just to the point of not being able to take it any more. But, I will fight my way through this. Thanks to ALL who responded. I feel so happy here.
Chris
Chris, I'm glad to hear you say that! One foot in front of the other, one step at a time, we all keep going. We have people who love us and need us, and our love for them pulls us through everytime.
I also think it doesn't hurt to ask for help. Maybe you need to talk to your doctor, and see if he can give you some medication for depression. There are many folks with RA who take medication to help their depression, and often it has pain relieving actions as well.
We're all just doing the best we can with what we got! I know you are really reeling right now from the changes you are facing in your life, but keep looking forward and don't look back. Things will get better!
Chris,
Glad I helped ya to feel better. Just remember talk to someone when you feel that way.
Huggs!
I take the maximum dose of cymbalta, a strong anti depressant. It works great. There are just some things that no medicine can compensate for. I am putting one foot in front of the other. It's all I can do.Chris, putting one foot in front of the other is everything, mate. If you can just do the next tiny thing...you will be okay. A friend of mine used to call it doing the next indicated thing. Just do the next indicated thing and then the next.Hi all! I went back to the dentist today and he kindly adjusted my little prosthesis so I am in less pain now. He gave me more medicine for infection and a few more percs that I am taking as directed. (No more loopy nights)
Anyway, I just finished doing all kinds of housework and lawnmowing. I also got on my hands and knees and cleaned the kitchen floor, so my house is in much better shape today and I feel much better about myself for cleaning it.
Thanks for all your support guys. Oh....Joonie, SOME guys CAN vacuum! It's all in the wrist!I was off-line over the weekend but glad to see you are feeling better! And, YES, WHY do we not just bend over and pick the whatever the hell it is up?????? Michele, I'm jealous. I want a Dyson. It's gonna be my next vacuum, can't wait for the one i have to break down.
Oowww.... a Dyson.... that is like the Escalades of vacuums!!!
I am the one who is bad about sucking up everything. I have killed all the vacuums we have had. For a few years there, MIL bought me a new vacuum each christmas as I killed mine sometime in the middle of the year, and she felt sorry for me having to sweep pine needles from the tree outta the carpet for months after the tree was gone
Oh and also how we left our christmas tree up for 8 months one time because I did not have a vacuum to suck up the tinsle. It was a fake tree people. We rarely get a real tree. One year we had the fake tree up until 2 months before we had to put it back up again.
Things can't get any worse so I assume better comes next.
I hope it lasts and lasts.
Peace,
Chris
Hey Chris glad you're feeling better tonight!
I put my Christmas tree up early, sometimes Thanksgiving, but I have it down the day after Christmas. I hate a tree with no presents under it
I used a friends Dyson vacuum one time and that was the heaviest vacuum I ever tried to use! It killed me [QUOTE=joonie]Nope, not for us [QUOTE=cskalski]
Things can't get any worse so I assume better comes next.
I hope it lasts and lasts.
Peace,
Chris
[/QUOTE]Lindy...there is a lot more traffic and people here since 97 but DC is still DC. I live in Springfield, VA actually (12 miles south of DC). It is gorgeous outside right now. No humidity, 72 degrees. Perfect. I love it when fall starts!
Did you have any cars up on blocks in the yard and major appliances on the porch?
Karen how did you decorate a hearse for Christmas? I'm drawing a blank here
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