It is something me and hubby have been disagreeing on. And I want all of your opinions.
Is "Failing to mention" lying?
Hubby asked what took me so long to get something at the deli. On my way there I "bumped" into my ex. I was standing in line while I was critizing him, and moving up when the line moved up. I did not say much just, "Damn, your getting old!" and the ex did not even know it was me so he did not say much but "Hi!"
I answered hubbies question which was "What took you so long?" I told him about the lady who kept adding to her order, and the man after her who could not decide between mash potatoes or fried okra, and the man that was behind got tired of waiting and walked off. I never mentioned I talked to the ex. Hubby knew the ex was in the store we saw him, and hubby said he better on walking or he would get a size 13 up his a$$...lol. Men!!
In my mind standing in line talking to someone is not what made my trip the deli any longer. Now if he would have asked what I was doing while at the deli I would have mentioned I talked to the ex. I am not afraid of hubby, he is all talk and no action...lol.
I did not mean to hid it, I just answered his question.
He said I "Failed to mention" and that was lying.
So is it lying?
I would rule: NOT LYING
Thanks Hulagirl! Me too.
I VOTE "NOT LYING" ALSO. OBVIOUSLY, HE'S MORE THAN A LITTLE JEALOUS. THAT'S WHY MYSELF AND HUSBAND HAVE BEEN APART FOR 3 YEARS.... HE'S JEALOUS BECAUSE I WORK IN AN OFFICE OF MEN...HE'S JEALOUS OF YARD MAN, POSTMAN, MY KIDS, MY DOGS, MY FRIENDS, ABSOLUTELY REFUSES TO ALLOW MY EX TO TAKE SON TO SCHOOL AND SPORTS, THEREFORE WE ARE NOT TOGETHER. I HAVE NEVER DEALT WITH A JEALOUS MAN BEFORE AND MINE IS THE WORSE...IS IT INSECURITY? HE'S A PILOT AND IF I MISS A CALL FROM HIM (I'M SHOWERING OR OUTSIDE PLAYING WITH DOGS) I MUST BE WITH ANOTHER MAN... I AM ALWAYS ON DEFENSE WITH HIM, THEREFORE WE ARE NOT TOGETHER. TOO STRESSFUL AND SAD BECAUSE WE LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH. HE GETS MAD, HE GETS ANGRY AND ALWAYS WALKS OUT. I'M FAIRLY ATTRACTIVE BUT I AM 50, HAVE RA &nbs p;
I HAVE NO RELATIONSHIP WITH MY EX EXCEPT RAISING A CHILD WITH HIM...WE HAVE JT CUSTODY. HE IS A GOOD DAD AND IS ALWAYS WILLING TO HELP WITH LITTLE GREG IF I'M NOT FEELING WELL. HE IS ALSO A "DAD" TO MY DAUGHTER FROM A PREVIOUS MARRAIGE AND EVEN HELPS ME PAY FOR HER COLLEGE. HE HAS HIS OWN LIFE, I HAVE MINE BUT WE 'DISCUSS" ISSUES THAT ARISE WITH OUR KIDS TOGETHER, I THINK IT IS IMPORTANT FOR KIDS TO SEE THEIR PARENTS (EVEN IF DIVORCED) GET ALONG AND WORK TOGETHER. I GET ALONG FINE WITH MY HUSBAND'S EX WIFE. EVEN THO ME AND "big greg", MY HUSBAND, ARE SEPARATED, SHE LETS HER SON COME VISIT US. MY STEP SON RYAN IS A TEENAGER AND MY SON LITTLE GREG LOVES HIM DEARLY, ME TOO. WE ALL GET ALOG FINE. SORRY, I'VE RUN ON AGAIN......ANY IDEAS OUT THERE ON THIS SUBJECT??? I hate to be the doomsayer....but having a very jealous husband myself, I refer to it as the "sin of omission" Whatever's in your heart dear.....listen to it & there's your answer.
Lulu My ex-husband was like that. I couldn't go to the mall with a girlfriend for an hour without him calling me and saying "What the hell's taking you so long?" But he sure could spend all day/evening at the golf coarse and never call to tell me where he was. (Sweeeeeee...getting off topic here; sorry) No. I'd say not lying. HATE JEALOUS MEN!!! A little jealousy is good for your ego; but some men can ruin a relationship with that crap!! The second go around I nipped that in the bud. I don't put up with that, period. OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH JOONIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just kidding!!! you're not in trouble hon.
My vote is: you are not a liar, but I would have wondered why you didn't mention your ex. After all, he is just that, your EX. Sorry Joonie, I know you wanted a vote, not an editorial. Hubby is not a jealous person. He just has something against the ex-boyfriend...it is a long story. If ya care to hear just let me know and I will elaborate.
Nothing happened. Let it go. Not a lie. Barb
Joonie..I hope i didn't offend you, it's just that I know what it's like to feel guilty when you're not & you just have know that God knows what's in your heart regardless of what hubby thinks. Lulu My
hubby and I have an agreement to give eachother enough respect that if
we have the urge to cheat on the other person to tell that person
before hand so we can end that relationship first. Life's too short and complicated to play games besides we've both been married before. You are kind and funny and lovable!!
Don't ever feel lonely, we all love you and are right here
oops almost forgot......definately not a lie deleted
have gone under the "small world" thread.
It was weird up unto about 3 years ago. I could do that. Now, I do not get much of a feeling. I guess the ex has let me go...lol. deleted Yeah, I think our message board needs some "old" drama...lol. Jooni: When you have time, would you please explain why your ex is your ex? And please explain what Miss Piggy is. Thanks so much! :-)
Lulu Ok, I will work on my "Stories" later tonight. Right now I have to go get a shower and give andrew a bath, so we can be ready when hubby gets home @ 3:47pm....lol. So, I can go see my mommy again!! She has me some Legos!!!
Stay Tuned!! deleted deleted deleted Karen - he might as well have been my ex husband. We were talking marriage and kinda engaged. My mom says she thought we were already married. I wanted to marry him. I guess he did not. *shrugs* entertaining reading. fools they are :-) HUBBY GUY FRIEND ACTUALLY HAD SOME ETHICS AND TOLD YOU SOMETHING WAS GOING ON....SHOWS HE RESPECTED YOUR MARRIAGE. GOTTA KEEP AN EYE ON THESE GUYS....PLENTY OF WOMEN DON'T CARE IF THEY ARE MARRIED OR NOT AND GUYS LIKE ATTENTION WHEN THEY DON'T ALWAYS GET IT AT HOME (WE KNOW THEIR FAULTS). YOUR EXPERIENCE IS VERY SCAREY FOR A WIFE AND HOPEFULLY YOU NIPPED IT IN THE BUD. delete Joonie I was on my way up to bed to tuck in and watch some soapnet...but your story was more interesting!! We Love you!!! Lovie Your Welcome Lovie! Anytime! Just think that was the condensed version...lol.
Mina
My husband and I are high school sweethearts. Started going together
when I was 15, married at 20 and had our first and only child at
25. We just had our 25th anniversary on 8/1.
He used to be a very jealous bf...then went into the Air Force to Italy
for a year and came back a different person as far as jealousy. Over
the years of being married, we had our bumps in the road, but managed
to stay together.
Sometimes ya gotta jerk them back on with the chain
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