Hi
Being new, I have a gazillion questions...The big one being "why me?" Do
any of you know of any books or websites about RA/chronic illness and
why and the steps one can go through to deal with this?
Also:
When I have mentioned RA to people, many say "you are too young for
that" and then blow it off like it's the common cold. I don't think many
people really know what it is and how serious it can be. What are your
thoughts, any similar experiences?
And...
are you on antidepressants, do they help? I am soo depressed and can't
ever remember crying this much. I want to go on them so i am not a pain
in the a#$ to be around. I feel bad for my husband, family, kids, and
friends. I am no fun anymore. thoughts?
Thanks everyone
Susan
I agree that most people don't have a real understanding of RA. But who can blame them? I didn't know much about it before it got me. I can't tell you how many people have said "arthritis? you're to young to have that". But that just opens a door for me to tell them what RA really is. As best I can.
I just want to encourage you though Sushu. RA isn't always as bad as I think you're thinking it is. I take MTX and enbrel and together those meds have made me almost normal again. And believe me, that's alot. I spent several months as a useless bundle of pain that kept me crying all night and vegging out on paim meds all day. I felt the kind of guilt you describe, my poor family, stuck with me like this.
I guess everyone here can relate. It's hard to not be who you've always been. But that doesn't mean that life can't be full of joy and fun and activity and happiness and love. It only means that soem things might be different . You are still you, and you're still the person that your friends love and your kids need and uyour husband cherishes. You just need a little time to get used to this. Please feel free to ask a gazillion questions, we all have.
Linda
I've been listening to "you're too young for that" ALL MY LIFE. After a while, you just roll your eyes and go "no I'm not" I've found a couple of answers that get people #1. "No, RA is an autoimmune disease which means it's caused by my immune system not behaving the way it's supposed to, and attacking my body" That one usually leaves them going "duuuuuuuuuuhhhh" and they realize they have no idea what RA is anymore. But my FAVORITE answer to "you're too young for that" is ---- "no I'm not, and neither are you." HAH! Okay, let's start at the beginning, Susan...
Hi Susan and welcome!
I say 'death by arthrisis' that I saw posted here and was surprised at the looks I've got.
THe only book that made sense to me was the New Arthritis Breakthrough by Henry Scammell but I have heard good things about the books Cordy mentioned. Scammell's book is from an infectioul etiology tho.
Hugs,
Pip
infectious...that should read infectious!
Pip