Well... a couple of weeks back when I was on the 25mg of pred, I decided to try on my wedding ring and engagement ring since my fingers looked skinny again.
I put them on and took a shower with them on, to clean them up a little, as they were looking a little dusty and dull. So... I put them on and went to sleep with them on because I could not get them back off as my fingers has swelled a little more after my shower.
So, the next morning hubby asked me why I was wearing my rings. I told him because I wanted too and I could! Then I went into telling him that he could wear his but he chooses not to. He said it was because I do not wear mine. WHATEVA!
Anyways... I would like to start wearing mine again, but my fingers are too swelled to do so. But one good thing about when I tried them on last time, before I took my shower, they actually fit a little more snug than when I first got them. So, I would not really feel like I would lose them because they might fall off.
I actually stopped wearing my engagement ring after daughter was born so I would not scratch her with the diamond. Then I had to stop wearing my wedding ring because my fingers were swelling and they were cutting into my finger.
Joonie, I've had to have my wedding rings resized 3 times. Now that the meds are working and I'm losing weight I need to have them resized once again. You can get a guard that fits in the back of your ring and it has a little spring thingamabob and it will keep your rings on if they're too big. If they're too small you'll just have to have them resized. Can't help you with your hubby......Lindy Joonie this is something that Justin and I have talked about, since we know I may have issues with my ring down the road. I'm going to get a very nice chain that I can wear my ring on, for the times when I'm too swollen to wear it properly. Maybe you could do that?Oh yeah... let me tell you... sometime last year, hubby wore his class ring to work. YEAH! Not his wedding ring... his CLASS RING!!!!!
His excuse use to be that he snatched his fingers in the rack when he use to work at his other job, which he came home one night with his finger gouged and bleeding where he did get it caught.
Now his excuse is... it is too small. Then he tried it on, but his class ring still fit. I told him "Lose weight fatty!" LMAO!!! Might as well hurt his feelings while he was hurting mine.
No, cannot wear a necklace, I hate wearing necklaces. It just feels like I have something heavy around my neck.
Oh well... I might as well sell my engagement ring... will probably never wear it again.
Anyone care to buy a 1-carat diamond ring?
I wish that it was different. Sending you hugs.
Jen
I am sorry too, Jen. But at least hubby does make it known that he is married. But he has had a few women where works think he was joking around with them about being married. They would say if you are married than were is your ring, and he would say "At home with my wife." But oh well... like MIL said... to some women, if they want a guy they do not care if he is married and have a ring on. Which is probably true. My wedding band (believe it or not) broke. I still have my engagement ring, but I don't wear it often. I don't want to wear it to work with the animals, and the truth is, I usally just forget to put it on. I'm not a big jewelry person, never have been.Not a big jewlery fan either. I wore a ring on just about every one of my fingers when I was in 10th grade to about 11th grade. But then I just stopped wearing them. I have all kinds of jewelery and there for a while I would ask hubby for jewelry for christmas or b-day, but he would not buy it for me as he knows I would not wear it after he bought it for me.
I do not even wear a watch. I did for about 6 months after MIL bought me this pretty watch for christmas, but... I stopped wearing it around the summer time.
Jewelry just feels like it weighs me down.
That's a great idea Mary, that is what I was thinking when Joonie mentioned selling hers...
Hubby bought me a beautiful 1.4 carat diamond ring that I cannot wear. I've tried greasing my finger up to get it on, but it just won't budge. I know I should have it re-sized, but I am afraid the jeweler or someone will switch out the stone, which he spent ,000. It does have the serial no. engraved on it somewhere not visible. Does anyone have any experience with this?
Katie, I saw somewhere that jewelers can put a springy type band on the underside of fine jewelry, similar to what they do with stretchy wristwatches only much tinier. That is what I would like to do...
I've thought about that as well. I'm a paraniod person when it comes to good jewlery. When my mom bought me diamond earings, I used to press the back on them so hard my ears would swell. So I would end up being more comfortable wearing it on a necklace! :)Does anyone who has been here for awhile remember who the member was that had their wedding ring tattooed on their ring finger after they developed RA? I thought it was such a lovely way to still show your commitment to your marriage and your vows, when rings were uncomfortable.
I am sorry that I forgot who it was, but if you are still here, please post the photo again for everyone to see. It was a beautiful tattoo and a great idea.
Oh yeah!! We've talked about that too! I don't remember who it was, but it is a great idea! Yep...have not worn my wedding ring for almost two years now. I did wear it when I was on pred, but as soon as the dose went down/my fingers went up. Mine is nothing special, and I will probably never get anything else. Hubby doesn't care about jewelry. I LOVE rings...but not worth the fight.Karen, as I was reading through this thread, that's just what I was going to say..tattoo it! Of course you want to be really, really sure before you do that...
I wear both my engagement ring and wedding band when I can, but some days with the swelling it's just the band, which is slightly larger. I couldn't believe a nosy woman at work was like "where's your ring?" when I only wore the band. She was looking at me like that meant I was leaving my husband or something. People are weird.
As for my hubby, he told his first wife that he didn't want a ring. He doesn't like jewelry and doesn't even wear a watch. But she "surprised" him with it at the ceremony, and even though he didn't want it, he wore it for 20 years until she broke his heart. So I figured there wasn't a snowball's chance in hell that he was going to wear one with me, but he actually said he wanted one and he never, ever takes it off (I always take mine off at night so I don't gouge one of our eyes out in my sleep, and I don't put them back on until after I shower in the morning).
I think these guys that say they're not wearing one because you're not wearing one need a little smack upside the head!
Oh and Deb, I almost forgot...when you take your diamond to the jeweler, you should look under a loupe (magnifier) so that you can see the serial number and have some sort of written documentation for it. If it's certified, you should also check that any markings on the certificate match the stone. Then when they return it to you, you should look at it again before accepting it back to make sure it's got the same serial number and same markings. But the best thing to do is get a recommendation of a trustworthy jeweler. I believe there are even some jewelers who will let you watch as they do the work so you can see they haven't switched stones.
Thanks for the suggestions everyone.... but I will have to say "Oh HELL NO!" about the tattoo ring! I mean do you know what that involves? Well do ya?!Well, if no needles, you can always draw one on with magic marker.
http://www.arthritisinsight.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27 87&KW=tattoo+ring
Ummm... yeah.... that looks like way more pain than I want to go thru... and then what if things between me and hubby do not work out? Then I am stuck with a damn tattoo that will remind me of him and the pain I went thru to show how much I love him. Yeah... not gonna happen.
Besides I am one of those people that when someone "breaks up" with me I give them back every damn thing they ever gave me and well... that would mean I would have to give him my finger to give him back his "ring"
I will see what he thinks of that, we each get to draw a ring on each others finger. He probably will not let me do it, as he is not the type of person that will... do something that is "cute". He is cute, but he is mean little booger!
I bought a pack of 17 colored ones that I have been wanting for a few years, they had them marked down to . I put them back twice, and then the third trip to wal-mart that week, I just said to hell with it and got them!
What? I need something to make me happy since I cannot have a KITTEN!
But I guess it is in limbo somewhere? I do not know.
He is a pansy. He said you know how much that will hurt? There is no fat or muscle on a finger and it will just be bone. I replied with "whatever you PANSY Bitch ASS!!" He said ok fine if you want to do it we will, but you are going first. And I replied with "Yeah right! SO you can back out?"
Anyways.... I threw the idea out there and he shot it down. I even threw out the draw one with sharpie LMAO!