You do not have to feel shame or apologize to ANYONE for your illness. You didn't choose this disease, it chose you. It is yours and your RDs job to put forth the maximum effort to bring this under control. If you don't, then you can start apologizing.
Roxy, I feel for you and I do understand what your going through. I've been there. Many of us have. It seems like the process of treating your disease is going in slow motion but the pain itself is not. As you've probably heard, it takes time to find the right mix of meds to get you on the right track. The day will come when that pain goes away and hopefully stays away or at least becomes a heck of a lot more manageable. If it makes you feel any better, do you know how you always say, "I wish I could go back in time and know what I know now?" Well if I could go back to 1986 when I was dx'd and know all that I know now, I would be very optimistic about living a fairly normal life. No surgeries, no disfigured hands, no bad ankles, none of those crazy things that have settled themselves into my life. I'll be the first to tell you, it takes time to treat this disease, and along the way things will be rough and you will be discouraged. Don't give up! You will get better.
Allen
[QUOTE=bingethinker]You do not have to feel shame or apologize to ANYONE for your illness. You didn't choose this disease, it chose you. It is yours and your RDs job to put forth the maximum effort to bring this under control. If you don't, then you can start apologizing.
Roxy, I feel for you and I do understand what your going through. I've been there. Many of us have. It seems like the process of treating your disease is going in slow motion but the pain itself is not. As you've probably heard, it takes time to find the right mix of meds to get you on the right track. The day will come when that pain goes away and hopefully stays away or at least becomes a heck of a lot more manageable. If it makes you feel any better, do you know how you always say, "I wish I could go back in time and know what I know now?" Well if I could go back to 1986 when I was dx'd and know all that I know now, I would be very optimistic about living a fairly normal life. No surgeries, no disfigured hands, no bad ankles, none of those crazy things that have settled themselves into my life. I'll be the first to tell you, it takes time to treat this disease, and along the way things will be rough and you will be discouraged. Don't give up! You will get better.
Allen
[/QUOTE]OOPsie. Guess I don't know how to use quote.
I wanted to quote that the day will come............. I need to hear that. Thank you so much Allen. I don't feel like I fit in in my world anymore. I have lost much of my sense of humor, playfulness and many of my interests. Makes me wonder what I have to offer. I love reading posts from people like you Allen that are doing better. I need to hear that. It amazes me that this all started just last Sept. Do things usually go downhill this fast?????? I hope that I can focus on something else besides ra soon. I would love a day I forget that I have ra. I am afraid my bond with my husband is going to suffer, I don't feel loveable
THANK YOU ALLEN and all of you on here that have given me encouragement. I so don't know how to be ill
And well Roxy you have yet to run away with your tail between your legs. You have dealt with it to the best of your ability. Just a lil' impaitent but you would not be human if you were not impatient. Impatientance is understandable when you are in pain, because when you are in pain and hurting that is all you think about. When the pain is under control and it will be soon, you will realize how strong and how far you have come in dealing with things out of the norm.
You will learn to deal with this and realize that God has bigger and better plans for you, even though you do not think so right now. But he does.
Ahhh Thank you Joonie Girl. It all seems to change day by day. I feel pretty good this morning. You are so right. I have never been patient in my life anyways. I am goal oriented. I see something that needs to be done, I take the steps to do it. It is just ra zaps the life out of me so often. Being so dependent on doctors is really hard for me to handle. I have never been one to let others make important decisions in my life. I depend on your sense of humor to bring a smile to my face and you do that so often. I am looking forward to a new day. God is teaching me plenty of lessons!
I am not going to take my zocor. I think it is contributing to the flu like symtoms. See if that helps. Hey Joonie, How do you use that quote thing?
We've got several men here...but rarely do they get involved in the conversation here. I for one am very glad you are part of our group.
Maybe you can get some of these other men to join in!!
Allen, I second that. It is good to hear from a compassionate man and you have so much experience to share. WE NEED THAT OTHER PERSPECTIVE !!!!
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Ditto!!
I am happy that we finally get a mans point of view. I always wondered how men handle RA. I mean ya'll have to stand to pee....we get to sit and take the pressure off our feet, hips, and knees...lol.
I'd almost rather stand and pee half the time...it's really hard to get up once you sit down for such a short period of time!!
Yes; I'd rather stand.
[QUOTE=roxy]It is good to hear from a compassionate man and you have so much experience to share. WE NEED THAT OTHER PERSPECTIVE !!!!
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You hit quote and then you delete the parts of the quote you do not want. and always type what you are going to type under the [/quote] tag.
Okay ladies, you have to figure that at some point we guys have to sit on the pot also. So having experience from both POINTS OF VIEW, it's easier just to stand there and get it over with.
P. S. Thanks Lovie and Joonie and Roxy for your kind words.
Hey Allen. AT LEAST YOU HAVE OPTIONS