This reference came off the Spacedoc.net web site but my husband says it discribes very well what you all are going thru. The web site with the story on spoons is as follows:
http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/2004/11/the_spoon_theory.p hp
Very interesting site! In fact, I bookmarked it. The message boards there look promising for obtaining good info also. Thanks!
ETA: Went back to that site when I got a few extra minutes and read the "Spoon Theory", and yes, it pretty much tells the tale. I just may use it in the future to explain "things" to friends and family. Again...thank you!