Hi all I know I am not a veteran to this board like alot of you are but I signed on last night to read the most horrible things about people, our board members! What the heck is going on? I know others have said that we ARE adults here and I came to this board for advice which has been great! I have corressponded with many nice people. I know the world is not all rainbows and sunbeams, I think we all know that especially since this is an arthritis board.
I think the nastiness if you must should be left for pm's if you must. Some people evidently have some issues in life that carry over to this board. It just so reminds me of grade school and high school. I assumed this was a place to get info and see what other people are going through and I know it is still somewhere lost in the garbage.
As far as moving from board to board , the old saying does go..Variety is the spice of life. Go explore and see other places for RA , There is no harm in that. I tried to start the chat room thing and Mrs. A, hillhoney and kelseysmom were more than willing to give that NEW place a try. The people (a different board) couldn't have been nicer and more welcoming. See we can all play nice!
Thank you Chrise, you voiced my opinion as well.
I have been wondering what in the world happened. I was off for a few days and came back to lots of nastiness. Not something I expected.
Andrea
Try not to be too offended by it. If you'll notice it's only a few people that continue to junk up this board.
It comes and goes....rarely does it last too long.
Don't give up on us.
Thanks Lovie. I am not offended easily. Way more important things in life to enjoy to waste on being offended by someone's off day. I do enjoy coming here to find interesting/helpful ways to deal with RA and I really enjoy just talking with people about life in general. It is an escape for me.
Andrea
Like Lovie said it does come and go. So, stick around and try not to read to much of the nasty posts... they will fade away, eventually, and the board will go back to being supportive and caring like it was, but with just a few less wonderful members that got ran off by the trauma drama.
I understand what Chris and Andrea are saying. I guess for those of us who need a soft place to land...this is not one. I have needed a soft place for the last eight months and although I have seen better days(much better days) in my current state of despair...I think I need to go somewhere that is soft and genuine.
I know...don't read, but it spills into every topic and every post almost anymore. I have a few friends here that I love and will keep in contact. I guess it might be time to move on.
Awwww... Shelly I will be sad to see you go, but understand why. I know you will come back when things get better and when you are able to contend with the madness again. I missed all the fun again. Shelly. Don't leave the board. There are two negative threads on the boardIt's been a full moon. It will pass soon. Don't let it scare you off and don't read them if you don't want to. Let's what I do. It's not always like this. I have gotten lots of good advice and support here and talked to some pretty awesome people. It's not all bad.
Didn't realize its been a full moon! No wonder!
Hope you don't go. Try to avoid the nasty posts & look at some of the cheerful stuff, like those recipes! I plan to start trying some of them out soon...
Perhaps after we've decorated for Christmas we can post photos? Just a thought.
I love the idea of posting Christmas pics! It's so much fun to see everyone else's trees.
I've been reading the boards for two years now, and I post very rarely. Usually only if someone asks for information or advice that I actually know something about.
It seems like everyone is looking for support here, whether it's physical or emotional, and with RA there is a lot of emotion. But when I open the main board, it seems that between the OTs, the spammers, and the fights, that there is very little left that actually concerns our disease.
I just skim through the Roxy stuff, and all the arguments, and only read the actual RA posts. They are always helpful and interesting.
I agree that the disagreements should be aired through PMs, and not on the open boards.
Wishing you all a Happy Holiday season, and hope that the pains, both physical and emotional, will be soon be lighter.
Ellie
Ellie, dont be afraid to ask a question that you may have even if its been asked already. Bringing the question back up may help a lot of people that dont realize that a perticular thing may not be normal. Lets post Christmas decorations I think its a wonderful idea! I haven't got any up yet but hopefully I will this weekend. How I dread lugging the boxes from the attic!Yea thats a good idea Chris. I dont have any up here at this house but we started doing some decorations up at the new house so next time we go up ill take some pictures and post them
oh Chris, I did want to tell you that the other site that you had posted about w/ the real time chat room was a really good idea. I haven't been over there since that day we talked on there cause things have been soooo busy over here but after the holidays im sure I'll be back over there.
shelly - there is no need to be dramatic. the drama is mostly contained to a few posts and if it affects you so terribly much, why don't you just skip the posts when you know they are going in a direction you don't like?shelly- i hope you'll stay or at least come back. i'm sorry that you have been having such a rough time the last bunch of months and i hope things start to look up soon. if you need a soft and fuzzy bunch of support i will be there to offer what i can.