I started to post on Jode's post but didn't want to take away from hers, but her post helped me, I'm not alone. When I was on predisone I couldn't even say my grandkids name, I knew who they were but would call them by the wrong name, hard to explain. I forgot everthing. well that was years ago, yesterday I did it again, I know what I'm trying to say, just can't get the right words to come out....I can't help, but worry about whats going to become of my husband and me. You see he's been loseing it for years now. He has no trouble with names, but sometimes he has no idea what going on. someone can be talking to him and he has no idea what they are saying, he hear what he is thinking, he's like a kid making up a story and he believes everything he says. He think people tell him stuff that they don't. we can be a few houses from our home and he'll be mad because he thinks I'm somewhere else and not going home. We have lived here 32 years. We can go out to eat and he gets lost going to the bathroom. most of the time hes know hes loseing it and gets very worry and tells me I should put him in a home. I told him I was loseing it too and maybe they could gives us ajoining rooms. than we have a good laugh. I have to keep his meds up and give them to him. the last time we were at the Doctor. The Doc. looked at me and said you really have your hands full, I feel for you. He asked me if husband would get lost in the parking lot when he went on out the door. I told him yes, it was hard to tell where he would go. If I try to tell him anything he get mad and says he wants to move to an apt. I get so mad and upset over things that I lose control and scream, which don't help the problems....sorry just needed to vent... these two nuts have been married 50 years, no wonder we're crazy LOL.
Rusty, I'm really sorry you've so much to deal with. I know it's trying to say the least. My father was very much like you describe your husband for several years before my mom finally did have to put him in a home. He had violent tendancies though and became far too much for mom too handle. I'm not saying that it'll go that way for you and your husband, I'm just trying to say that I can empathize. I understand a bit of what you're going through. Maybe you can find a support group for yourself?Hi Rusty, I feel so bad for the two of you. It's a daily struggle for both of you and frustration is at a high level. If your husband has a diagnosis of Alzheimers there is medication that can slow the progress of the disease and that in turn helps the patient on a day to day basis. In fact there are several medications for Alzheimers. Has he had an Alzheimers medical work up? If not, please talk to his doctor about diagnosing and medication. Keep us posted. Lindywe were told about 30 years ago, that he had signs of Alzheimer, but he worked and drove for years after that. He gave up driving on his own after a wreak where he turned in front of a car. He told me he couldn't drive no more because he wasn't paying attention when it happen. Like I said he knows most of the time that he loseing it, Thats what hurt, when you know whats going on and can't do nothing to stop it. He is now 75 so I think a lot of it is dementia and age. I'm 65, and I hate to think where my mind will be in 10 years, all the meds I'm on don't help.
He has never been violent, he wouldn't hurt anything.
Rusty, There's a medical work up to determine if the person truly has Alzheimers and it shows on a MRI. If he has the work up and MRI and is diagnosed then the meds may help him and in turn help you. You might be forgetting things and not functioning right due to the stress level you have from dealing with your spouse. You probably are perfectly fine except for the stress. Stress can cause us to do some pretty crazy things. I know, been there, done that. Please talk with his doctor about diagnosing and meds. If you have grown children, get them involved. They may be a big help to you.