I hardly know where to start. I got a job at Toys r Us for the Christmas season. I had surgery (ablation) and the surgeon came out and told hubby I had severe endometriosis and I needed a hysterectomy. Hubby chickened out and wouldn't consent to a full one so she did a partial. I started work a couple of days later - dumb, I know. Actually, I got two jobs, one in the mall, but the superviser was a jerk so I quit after a month. Wowee, working is painful, but at the same time it distracts me from the pain. When I get off and drive home I really stiffen up and it's all I can do to crawl up my stairs and go to bed. Besides making a few dollars, I've lost almost 40lbs and am wearing my skinny clothes again. I'm going to continue working very part-time for the time being. I'm having the rest of the hyst. done soon and also am on a waiting list for surgery on my hip.
Son's life is ever so much more exciting these days. He totalled his car in march, and got a new one for graduation. In Nov. someone hit him. (younger son totalled his 3 days earlier) see the reason I got a job... Anyway, older son got his car repaired and had it 2 wks and we had a snow storm and then heavy rains plus high tide. On his way to work he got caught in a flood, everyone in front of him and behind him got flooded. Our insurance totalled the car. This is the son who is supposed to go into the AF in a week or so. He tells me beginning of Dec. that he is bleeding rectally. I figured he was constipated or had a hemerrhoid, or something. He says no mom, I am bleeding through all my clothes. I took him to doctor and it wasnt his rectum it is above and doc says he needs surgery right away. It is called a pali something, but basically it started as a cyst and got infected and ruptured. The surgeon cut a big chunk out starting at his rectum up to the top of his crack - no stitches, just a wet to dry pack twice a day. I really thought I was through with his bottom after he was potty trained, but no. I am the only one he will let do it and it hurts like the dickens and makes him cry every time. It takes a very long time to heal, so the AF looked at his medical records and said he can't go to bootcamp before June.
On top of all this, older son's girlfriend confided in us that she was physically and mentally abused at home. Mom is a religious zealot, but at the same time is torturing this poor girl. She is in her third year of college and is an english major. Her mom refuses to support her including dropping her from med. insurance so she can;t go to the doctor. Fortuately she got a lot of scholarships, but it's not enough. I've heard her mom's tirades on voice mail and read as they texted back and forth and it just breaks my heart. Her mom told her not to bother coming home for Christmas because she is dating my son. She ended up in the hospital at college because she had collapsed in the shower. She goes to a private christian college and they are letting her do the upcoming semester on-line. We took her in and bought her winter clothes because she had none and new shoes because her feet were literally wearing through her old ones. She recently told me her mom set her up with a "nice" boy from church and he repeatedly abused and raped her. She finally got away from him, but mom won't forgive her for dumping him, and she is afraid to tell her mom what he was doing. Mom made it a point to tell her that the guy who was abusing her was coming to the mom's house for Christmas.
wow, I've written a novel, so I better stop.
Oh please keep going novels are good. I love novels. You write and i will bye. Hows it end i was getting into really. You are a busy lady. This is good. Everyone is lucky to have you in there life. Keep up the good work Mom. Good luck with the hysterectomy if that is what you have to do. Is there anyway to keep the overies. Hormones are a good thing if you can keep them. But if this must be done the best of luck and god speed t recovery. Oh keep a close eye on that boy. My dad had this and it was not good. Dad went septic. He was in intensive care for three months. Even had a relapse of infection after he had been home from hospital. Well dad has about two feet of colon left. The infection ate it and killed it. Scary stuff. So do not let a chill or sweating or diarea go untreated for the time being. But your son should be fine as he had the surgery but watch him closely and make sure he knows to let people know if he does not feel good.wow Milly, that is scary what your father went through. It was not IN son's rectum or bowel it started far above at the top of his butt-crack. Sorry to sound crass. The doc said he was blessed with a hairy butt and once he is completely healed (it has to heal from the inside out) he will have to shave in the crack or use nair for the rest of his life. Hubby and I have decided to look into laser hair removal for that area. What bootcamp recruit is going to be allowed to nair his hiney I ask you. He wouldnt do it even if it was allowed.
Life is never boring with children in the house. Besides destroying cars, neither child has given me an ounce of trouble. The one I was just telling you about to this day, tucks me in bed and fills my water glass.
Oh well that is good the cyst was not in his bowel. I meant sons girl is lucky to have you as well as your kids. I am sure you are lucky to have your kids also. I am waiting for a new novel via telephone to come in the morning. The kids were around and the person could not talk said i will not even believe it. So i just keep getting left hanging on the novels tonight. It seems to be the trend. Life is simply full of drama. Some not so good. Wow your poor boy. That must be uncomfortable. I break out from nair and it leaves the hair on me. Just never worked for me. So i could not imagine doing that to my hiny.it is taking forever to heal. I'm afraid the drama here never ends. It will be a sad time when the house is spotless and void of kids. Not just mine, but their friends as well. Ours is the hang out spot and I love them almost as if they were mine. Younger son is just 16 and graduating in June and going off to college. Older son, who knows... At least his gf will still be living here. I've never had a daughter to dote on, so we have fun together. We may paint one wall of son's room pink while he is in bootcamp. Yes they are cohabitating, I feel he is old enough and willing to serve and die for our country, he is old enough to experience some of life's pleasures as an adult. They still are getting to know one another. They only met two weeks before his surgery, so it's been all about his butt, lol. He could not sit or walk or anything for 14 days. Had to stay lying on his stomach the whole time. Fortunately, my work had this incredible sale () for a queen ize self inflating mattress set up in the livingroom for them so I could monitor his pain. His gf was good about giving it to him during the night and writing it down with time given. They really haven't dated much because sitting hurts too much and he cannot bend down to pick anything up just yet.
Oh my gosh, Deb! your poor son. That just makes me hurt to think about him having to endure that. My youngest sister, now in her 50's, had a pilonital (I KNOW I spelled that wrong
You are a terrific Mom. I don't even know that many boys would even tell their Mom about that. It's a great that you have a good relationship with your boys. And taking in his girlfriend just shows what a good heart you have!
That's why you son is still tucking you in at night. Because you deserve it and he know's how special you are.
Hugs, Nini
That's it Nini! He had a Pilonital cystectomy.... you're good!OMG your poor son!!! I hope he recovers sooner then what they are saying. When is the AF letting him go into basic? His gf sounds like such a doll!!! She is so lucky to have you in her life to take her in. Your other son is only 16 and graduating from hs already???? WOW!!! Good job on raising those boys mom!!It's so good to hear from you Deb. Sorry things so are hectic for ya...I know about having a house full of teenagers!
Take care of yourself and eat well, you're over doing it but I know you realize that.
Sorry its so hectic, but at least you are keeping your sense of humor - which gets you through anything. Take care ~~ Cathy
Cathy, it wasn't what you are describing. Nini nailed it. I'm so tired of looking at his hiney, but he won't let dad anywhere near it. As soon as he is completely healed we are going to send him to have laser hair removal done in that area so he wont have to deal with this again.
I'm feeling quite worn out. I stayed in jammies all day and cleaned. I took down the tree and packed up all the decorations, moved all the livingroom furniture back into place, vacuumed and shampooed carpets. I also made dinner for my family and all their friends and tossed in a couple of loads of laundry. I have at least 4 loads to do tomorrow... It's nice having time off now, but I am still working just as hard. I seem to get into a rut and prepare the same meals over and over, so I guess it's time to pull out the old cookbooks...
How are you guys doing?
Deb, it is good to hear from you. YOur hysterectomy will be the best thing you have done for yourself, but give yourself some time to heal. I am so glad the ablation went well, and you were able to work.
Gosh, I am sorry about your son, and his hiney. What an ordeal that was, but at least he told you and you can help him through this. You are a wonderful mom to both of your children. I hope there are no more car wrecks in your family and you can rest and relax when you are off.
Take care and keep us informed!
Hello Deb!
Well... I asked about ya and here ya are!
I hope the hystorectomy goes well, and sorry to hear about your son, I hope he gets better soon.
I am tired of looking at my son's bootay too, since he is now wearing under-roos he keeps mooning me and everyone else. He thinks it is funny.
Be well and rest.
Hi Deb, I know what your son is going through. I had the same thing almost a year ago. It was awful. Make sure he rinses it well with water. Did they give him pain meds? He sure will need them. It took me 12 weeks to fully heal but that's with ra. Usually takes about 4-6 weeks. Hang in there and take care of yourself too, don't over do it!