OT: Yay brother in law in jail! | Arthritis Information

For years, since i was about 15, this man has been in my life making my sisters a living nightmare.

From actually trying to drive her off a cliff, trying to stab a police officer and drug addiction, my sister's life has been horrible. Her kids turned out wrong etc.

Anyway, my mom called yesterday to say her 14yr old was giving birth (baby up for adoption but she will be in baby's life) and also told me that my brother in law went to jail for beating up two guys in a bar.

Since they have some sort of new law in Washinton state for repeat offenders, he has to be there for 3 years. "yippy".

My sister is a bit lost, having not worked for so long, done drugs for so many years etc. she is afraid she can't do it. She never gives herself credit and always wants others to take care of her.

Now it is just her and her 14yr old daughter and I really really hope this gives them the chance to make it right. He was a horrible husband and parent which is why their daughter ran away.

I feel this is god's work and I pray so hard that now they can make their lives the way it should be. She needed so bad to be without him.

Thanks for listening. It's a sad situation, but a great thing for a new beginning.

Oh... Edited this in.... it was a boy born at 9am this morning :)

bubbagump2008-02-14 00:04:13HI Bubbagump, I am pleased for your sister and her daughter, congrats on your new nephew. My own little sis had similar problems with her ex, she thought she would never cope without him, he was sent to prison for drugs, and she managed so well without him, it was the break she needed. He left her with a 2yr old and a 5 yr old, and no money. She is now remarried and very happy. So tell your sister to never give up. It will just take time and patience from her, her friends and her family. Best of luck, from Janie.

Blessings come in all ways don't they?

Hopefully your sister will take this opprotunity to get her life on track and learn to manage on her own while he's gone. She can do it. Sometimes being thrown into a situation like this is the best thing that could happen to a person. She might not look at it that way right now; but with any luck, she will one day.

Wishing your family well.

She's never been alone. She is 41yrs old now and hasn't lived a day without a man or my parents in her life. So she is paranoid on how things are going to go. The good thing is that she was the one that always supported the family when they weren't on money from the state (she gets money from the death of her first kid's father and money from state for her husband's mental problems).

I have been praying for her, she lives too far away to help personally, i just hope she takes this time to restart her life.

Thanks for the comments :)

Please do some online research and find the nearest domestic violence shelter. They will let you know what programs are in place to help people like her. This break, and with help from them, she can regain her life,

Hugs,

Pip

edited because let has an 'L' in it.

Pip!2008-02-14 14:04:50Talked to my mom today, she said she already contacted a shelter and they were going to take them to a new place after she gets out of the hospital. She was in one a year ago when he went into the mental institution for about 2 months, but she got out and went back to him. I hope she stays and gets help. They were giving her psychological help, a place to stay and helped her find a job, which she quit, but they can help her again.

She used to have a great job working at an antique dealer, she has always been into old things and i think she should try and go to one of those again. It really made her happy when she worked there.

Wow! Like Lovie said, blessings come in all ways!!!

It is NEVER too late in life to do ANYTHING! I have a lot of hope for your sister!

It's hard to be so far away from family when things like this happen, isn't it? *hugs* Anyways, you're a good sister to care so much about her, despite all that's happened. It's sad how many "families" turn away from each other when things get hard. So Kudos to you, too!