My first major fight! | Arthritis Information

Today my hubby stayed home to spend some time with me and the kids. (aww) He took us bowling. I have my ball picked out, the kid's shoes on, balls for them and ready to roll. I stand up, line up my shot, and go to throw the ball and WHAM-O! A hideous pain shot through my hip and I thought I was going to look like the biggest dork and wind up on the floor. Thank goodness, I recovered and just hopped on my good side back to the chair. Of course...not trying that again. I felt like the biggest loser. Can't even bowl with my *** family. What kind of crap is that? Needless to say, my husband bowled my game while I became the cheerleader. Talk about depressed. This stupid disease sucks!Sorry, to hear that, schell. I am sure once you get the right combo of meds you will be able to bowl with your family again.

i am sorry. i understand. my son has never known his mom well and i seriously doubt my daughter remembers any different either. somehow they are learning from this awful experience. I have a 16yrold at home she plays club and school Volleyball. Sometimes it is depressing cause I can't manage to go to her games. I know they don't think about it when they talk about how good the game was. And you only wish you could be there. Schell I hope you do remain to at least be-able to be involved.

Bye the way my highest boweling score was ....don't laugh!!.......an 84.... I can sympathize with you about the bowling. I love duckpins and bowled in leagues for over 30 years. I haven't been able to bowl in 7 years. maybe you should try my hubby's approach. He walks up to the line, bends over, puts the ball down, and pushes it down the lane. And he DOESN"T have RA.lolI had to give up horseback riding and it makes me feel awful because now my husband can't go and he used to love it. He was able to go last fall when my daughter was visiting, and only because I insisted they go, but other than that, he won't ride without me. He never complains but, I understand how you feel.

As for your family, I feel certain that the most important thing for them is to have you there, even if you're just cheering them on. Everyone loves to have a cheerleading section. And even then, if you have a bad day and can't go at all, they will have had time to adjust to the changes and will understand that you would do it all if you could. It will probably be harder for you to adjust than for them. They know you love them and want to take part in all the family acitivites. But remember they love you too and they want/need you to do what's going to be best for you. They just want you to be part of the family, in any capacity that you can be. I feel certain of that and will also remind myself of that periodically.

My husband, daughter and I always went bowling before i got sick, there were a ton of things we did and can't anymore. I feel bad cuz all we do now is sit at home and play video games and everyone is becoming "round" :)

I wish it would go away and i could get my life back.