Whoa!!! Hold on a minute here. Why are you worried if you're being a bad friend? It sounds like your "friend" is the one who should be worrying about her conduct. Stand your ground, don't give in. If this is all it takes to ruin your friendship with her, she wasn't a friend to begin with. You have to take care of yourself and think of yourself first. It's obvious your friend doesn't. She cares about her dog.....period. Some friend. You did the right thing. Don't back down. Thanks.
I know deep down I am right. It's just hard because she is one of the few "friends" I have in this "new" town.
Jesse, I won't back down. I have made up my mind and told her she can change hers if she wants to.
It would be a different story if the dog was trained, but this dog is definiely not. She is too much to handle. Pit's are strong dogs!
I'd be scared to have that sort of dog around my poodle in the first place....but then again; I'm not a huge animal fan....but my poodle-pie is different.
I think it's pretty rude of her to even ask you and put you on the spot when you've already told her you didn't think you could keep the dog anymore. That was your nice way of telling her no before she ever even asked again. Shame on her for not taking the hint!
Try not to worry. I'm sure the girl is just frustrated because she's likely to have a hard time finding someone else to do what you were doing for free. (Free right?) To board a dog while you travel is a lot of money....but that's what you have to do if you're a dog owner. Their not like gold fish; they have to be watched. You can't expect other people to take on that kind of responsabilty.....especially if it's often and especially if it's a dog like that.
She's wrong....You're right. Stand strong sister!
Christina- I would never dream of asking a friend to watch such an unruly dog, and to ask a friend who has an illness is totally unthinkable. I had a similar experience a while back, I used to look after my cousins little boy who has ADHD(hes 13) , he is the nicest little boy and I never found him that difficult but I was really ill one day when she asked me to sit with him and I told her I couldnt do it , she got really funny with me and hasnt spoke to me since.I was really hurt but now I think its her loss.
You are right to say no.
Lovie you are so right. That is another concern of mine. I don't want her dog around my poodle. I don't trust her. But I don't have the heart to say that to my firiend. It wouldn't be fari to little Maggie to be petrified in her own home all weekend. She really doesn't like the dog.
And Lisa you are right it is her loss. Your friend shouldn't have gotten weird with you if you weren't feeling well. People just don't seem to understand. I know my friend doesn't at ALL.
My two cents goes with everyone else's. I've paid neighbors to feed/let my dogs out for a long weekend or something but I wouldn't ask a friend to keep them at their place. Especially a big aggressive unruly dog like a pit bull mix. And espeically not a friend that told me it was hard on her. She was wrong, you were right.OH that is the other thing. We have done this MANY times before and they have never once thanked us or done anything for us. Maybe one time they took us out to dinner for watching their dog(s) for like 4 days but that is it.
The more I think about this the more angry I get! it is ok to say "No"
and you don't owe anyone an explanation
If it really bothers you and makes you feel bad that you can't watch her dog (and it SHOULDN'T!!!)
How about calling her up and suggesting some other friends she has that might be able to do it, or suggest a cheaper boarding house for her. So she can't say you didn't try or didn't help! You do NOT need to do ANY of that, its just an idea. You can just walk away and it's TOTALLY acceptable.
She's being a creep, plain and honest truth hun. *hugs*
You did the right thing, and I would tell her later how it makes you feel when she asks and she knows your condition. I think the unfair thing is that she asked in the first place.
I had to do the same thing for a very good friend of ours, and he said...I hated to ask, but I know how you are about your doggies and I just want him to be treated well. He even apologized for bringing it up. Now if a MAN can figure this out...surely a gal can get a clue!
How Rude of her!!!
offer her a list of boarding kennels.
if she cant get anyone to watch her dog its probably because she has gone through every one of them and they are refusing to do it.
You dont owe her anything.
Yeah this is a pretty sad day. I am so upset right now.
I emailed her back after she gave her snippy reply and further explained why I couldn't take the dog in my apartment, and I told her again that I would go to HER apartment and stay with the dog a few hours a day if she changed her mind . Which is what I told her before and she still hasn't replied back yet, which is very unusual.
Whatever. I don't need that in my life. I have enough stress already.
Oh brother, that's not a friend, that's a user.
Some people just dont realise how uncaring they are, its just in their nature. I absolutely love my daughter but sometimes I wonder if it was really me who raised her. If it has been planned that I will baby sit for her and something comes up like a doctors appointment, or an emergency vet visit etc. she will get angry as it didnt go her way as planned. Luckily she ends up appologising afterwards for being a grump. But I know of others with attitudes like that also. Unless you let her know your feelings,you will hold a grudge and put a barrier on your friendship. She may be glad for you to actually explain your feelings.Well my brother had a friend with a pit bull. He would pet the dog and got along with it fine. But one day it just attacked him while he was walking up the drive. It really tore up his hand. His friends found a new home for the dog immediately they called the authorities and said hey our dog attacked our friend for no reason. They really acted like a good friend to my brother. Your friend is putting your poodle and you in danger in my opinion. And well there are some people that just like to take advantage of people. I stay away from these kind of people.I don't trust pit bulls. I know there are plenty of people who have them and they have never had a problem, but when my dog is only 4-5 pounds, it only takes one bite for her to be gone even if it just playing. I never let her go near the dog so I don't know why my friend would think this is ok.
Oh and just for an update, I haven't heard from her at all, but I did find out that she is still leaving the dog at home and another friend is going to go stay with it a few hours a day. Just as I suggested I would do, but I guess she doesn't want my help at all now. Very mature.
I have had friends like this before and it never ends well. Why do I seem to attract selfish people who only care about themselves. OH god I hope I am not one of them!!
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