Kind OT: I'm So Very SAD | Arthritis Information
I just got thru talking to my brother, and he asked if I wanted to let his friend take over his website I have been doing for 6 years now. He said since my health was more important then me having to worry about updating his website. And since I have not updated it since 9-07 and it needed to be updated, that he feels I should let his friend take it over.
I am just so very sad, right now. I cannot stop crying. It was MY website. I made it what it is today. His friend is going to probably to revamp it and do away with all of my hard work.
My brother's website updates depend a LOT on me searching the internet for information to update his website. It is not like it is an easy subject to find information on. I use to spend 6+hours a day looking for new information for his website to update it with. Then the president of the chapter stopped emailing me stuff like meeting munites and event information, because he was too "busy" or forgot to email it to me. It was a pain to have to email the guy everyday just to get one thing from him to update the site with.
I have NO MORE websites! I lost 3 other websites to the same friend because my brother felt I was not able to keep up with 4 websites. Now I have NONE!
Yet, another one of my dreams crushed to dust because of my health problems.
I am just so very upset. I just want to be able to do the things I want to do.
Can your start one of your own?
Joonie, I'm sorry to hear that. You say your brother asked you if you wanted the friend to take over....maybe he was asking to see if you felt it was too much? Or do you think he was trying to say that he wants to switch it? I understand how upsetting this must be, and I wouldn't want to let go of my creation either. When I created a little wedding website for my first marriage, I left it up for years just because I didn't want to take my creation down.
Anyway, is there a middle road...like either the friend gathers the info and you update the site, or vice versa? Or is there another site, maybe a smaller one, that they could give back to you?
I am sorry for your loss, because it is a loss. I hope that it's a temporary one and at some point you may be able to do more again.
Why haven't you been able to keep up with it? Can't you do it? You spend hours a day on line.....couldn't you be dedicating some of that time to that project? Seems like the perfect job for someone like you. You are good at that sort of stuff.
I'm sorry you're sad....but I think you're giving up too quickly. Surely it doesn't require 6 hours a day if you haven't touched it since 9/07 and he's just now cutting you loose. I'm sure he can accomidate your situation.
I think you should ask him to give you another chance and push yourself to look at it as your at home business and give it your all. Can you honestly say you tried your hardest?
I understand what you are saying. My husband is type 1 diabetic who is leaglly blind. he also builds and maintains websites. At first he just did them for family and friends. He now has about 7 or 8 paying customers. He went to restaurants who do take out and delivery, the small ones with out a site and offered a small site with just the contact information and menue for free for a few months and then if they liked it he would sit down and talk to them about how much to maintain and make any changed they wanted. it really has worked. His one stipulation for the sites is that if they want the content changed or updated they must provide the content. He tells them that they are the experts on their business so they know what is best for thir business. Give this method a try. You may be suprised on the result.That is just it... it is my baby, so to speak. I put a lot of years, and effort into that website and made it the best out of all the other chapters websites on the internet. His website even out page ranked the official - head office - website at one time. But then I got worse and I tried to keep it up and find what I needed to keep it #1 in search engines for those specific keywords and phrases.
His website was/is the ONLY of the chapter websites that is interactive and where the visitors had new content at their finger tips every week. The other chapter websites and the official head office website does not provide that kind of interactiveness. They only update their website with their own chapter events & information. My brother's website includes every chapters events & information. We are the only ones with interactive practice tests. An E-Newsletter that use to get sent out every 2 weeks, by me.
I done his website free of charge for all these years. The only thing I wanted from doing his website is the knowledge that came with doing something I so LOVED and taught myself to do. I mean I know I am not the best at creating websites and still have a lot to learn, but that is what his website was there for, for me to learn.
I have not been able to keep up with it because the content totally depends on me. I have to scour for hours in multiple search engines, 1000's of websites and then hope that what I do find is approved to be put on the site. Adding the content and creating a new page takes a lot of mental power. I have to be able to remember codes, which I have not been able to do as of lately. My mind has been feeling really pushed to the limit since around November of last year. I have never felt so mentally drained in my life. It actually hurts me to think... I am forgetful, I have a hard time staying on track, I just cannot concentrate well. Making a website takes a lot of patience and concentration.
It might seem like I am giving up too easily, but I am not. It just hurts me more because I have let down my brother, and the 1000's of visitors each month. I have tried to update his website and send out the newsletter, but it is just too much for me, right now.
When I have good days, I do not want to sit around and update his website, I want to go and do other things and spend time with my family.
It is that it is too much for me to mentally retain right now. I know he is right. He did say when I got better, if I wanted the website back I could have it back. But by then it will not be my baby, it will be his friends and no use in me trying to take it over again.
He asked me before when he was down for Thanksgiving if I felt I could keep the site maintained and I told him yeah, but I could tell he did not think I could.
Joonie I can see why you would be sad.
Maybe you could tell your brother that it isn't too much work. And to give you another chance.
Maybe something bigger and better is waiting out there for you .
Keep your mind open to new things .
Thanks for the replies. I am sorry to unload it on ya'll, but hubby could not talk, he was actually working, and my mom was not home. I had to get it out somehow.
I am not as upset, now. Have thought about it and probably for the best. Now I do not have to feel so guilty about not being able to do it.
Thanks everyone.
I am just hoping that what my RD has been saying since I have been seeing her is true, if so then I will hopefully be able to work on websites once again and start maybe my own business out of it. Until then, like my brother said I just need to focus on getting better.
It just still hurts because I know all my work will be lost, because the guy that is taking it over will revamp the site and give a whole new cool look and all. Not complaining there, but still 6 years of work down the drain.
Well, it isn't really down the drain. It served it's purpose. Your bro was obviously happy with it. It still had value Joonie. But I'm glad your handling it.Yeah, but the new layout for that website just got put up on it in October of last year, so it kinda was not fully born yet. I know he appreciated what I done because it kept him from having to deal with it. Sorry you are feeling so low but it sounds like deep down you know it's time to let go. Why put the pressure on yourself when you are not feeling up to it?
This stinking disease robs us of many things we used to be able to do and when it robs something new we have to give ourselves time to grieve our loss.
That doesn't mean it it's permanent. That's what my son always says to me. Maybe soon your medicine will take hold, you'll feel more focused and take over again!
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