OT: UGH Neighbors? What do I do??? | Arthritis Information

ARGH!! Okay, we live in a small apartment building - 2 units downstairs, 2 units upstairs. We're on the bottom. Everyone's front door is outside entry.

The lady directly above us HATES us. Don't ask me why, because I don't have a friggin clue. The only thing I can think of, is waaaayyyyyyy back in the day, her son left beer bottles in my parking spot and I hit them (couldn't see them the way our driveway is) and I went off on him and made him pay for my new tires. (Was NOT the first time, nor the 100th that he'd left trash in my driveway/front door area either) Aside from that, I've never even SPOKEN to these people.

So the constant problem that we have, is that every time there's a noise, she calls the cops on me. We live RIGHT by the base, so when they do their war games, our walls rattle with the bombs. BOOM BOOM. Now, I know I'm a military brat so I can tell a bomb blast from someone stomping on the floor. But I didn't honestly think it took a genius to figure that out. She's called the cops on me, saying the bomb blast noises were me beating on the walls.

Now, first of all, why the hell would I randomly beat on the walls? Second of all, if I DID want to beat on the walls, would I really beat in such rapid succession(sp?), pause, and do it again? I mean really.

So anyway, since the new neighbors moved in next door to me, in the downstairs apartment, every time THEY are loud, the lady above me calls the cops on ME. And I'm pretty well sick of it at this point. It's now almost midnight and I've just been woken out of my "I'm ALMOST asleep" mode by an officer. UGH.

Who do I bitch to about this??????????? Cause I'm really just tired of her ass. HI Katie, the local council can give her a warning to leave her neighbours alone, or you can take her to court to get a stop on her being able to approach you or have anything to do with you. Sounds like she likes bothering you, so collect as much evidence as you can, just in case. Hugs Janie. I wonder how many times she calls the cops on you when you are at work? Did you explain any of it to the officer? I would maybe call the owner or manager of the biulding? I would maybe even move. So sorry. Go back to almost sleep. I was wakened by itchy knees. Well i can think of lots of bad advise. Things you shouldn't do that would really irritate her. LOL But we are above that. So i will keep my bad advise to myself. When you wake up vent. Tell us more.In these situations it's a good idea to document everything. Maybe contact your landlord and ask them to intervene, but do it in writing so you have a record of it and any responses. Sounds frustrating.I had apt. neighbors like that too way back when I was your age. It is very frustrating. I now live in a house that is surrounded by 150 preserved acres of farmland. That took care of that problem!document things and get your landlord involvedKatie,
I don't know how to deal with people like that.... If you discover how to, please tell me because I n eed to know too. There are some people Iknow who react in ways that just defy logic.... I have a stinking rich neighbour who is jealous of little old ME!!! And I am a very ordinary person... Excuse my language but if I yawn this person gets jealous.
My only way of dealing with this neighbour is to ignore her.... but sometimes it is difficult.
Anna
I know it seems like a last resort, but I would seriously think about moving when the lease is up. This is surely affecting your health. Good - luck. I would call the cops on her next time war games happen. justsaynoemore2008-03-22 07:07:36 [QUOTE=justsaynoemore]I would call the cops on her next time war games happen. [/QUOTE]

OMG I love it!!!! I work for a company the owns and manages apartment communities.

First document everything. Any time you contact your landlord put it in writing. If there is trash left outside by her family take a picture. If she calls the police on you get their names and contact information of who talked to you. if she talks to you directly document the time and what was said. This will protect your rights.

You can call the police on her and file harrassment charges against her and then provide all your documentation as proof.

You have the right to live peacefully in your home.

What do the cops say when they come out, I would think they would be sick of her calling for no reason. hahahah Katie I just had the GREATEST idea...you can dress the kitties up in something to make em look like manson (the singer people not the serial killer) and have em go scare your neighbor LOLLMAO Shan, you're weird. I love it.

Karen, when I try to speak to her she acts like she doesn't know english and runs into the house, or into her car. If I go up and knock, WHEN I KNOW SHE'S HOME, she will NOT answer the door.

The cops roll their eyes. Last night I stood and explained to him that she's always calling when it's not me, it's the people next door. He didn't seem like that was anything new. I mean, it was OBVIOUS to him that I was alone and in bed when he knocked. Ya know??

I would LOVE to get to her, and just be like LOOK LADY - you live in a FRICKIN apartment building you are GOING to hear your neighbors. If you think or believe other wise you're an IDIOT. >.<

OH OH I FORGOT!!!!

The night her son popped my tire with his beer bottles - my friends husband had to come out and help me change it. She came out on her porch and apparently was cussing at me in Spanish. I don't speak spanish so I had no idea, and I didn't say anything or even look at her. It was bad enough that my friend's hubby finally stood up and yelled at her, and she went back inside (he's mexican LOL) He said he would not repeat to me what she said because it was *terrible*

So yeah.

I just saw in the newspaper a woman was prosecuted for too many unneccesary complaint calls to the police, think it was in Anchorage, so maybe it's not a national law. The next time the police come, ask them what they think you should do, they must run into this all the time. Do they go talk to this woman, after they've talked to you and found that it was unfounded? They should tell her to knock it off or she'll be arrested for bothering the police.ahhh katie,babe, man i can relate!!!

I lived upstairs, and for 2 yrs , everything was fine. w/ the downstairs neighbors.

I always check w/ neighbors, to make sure my tv isn't too loud.. then the b*tch.. got sick and stayed home allll the time.

All of a sudden, tv too loud (same volume, as it been for YEARS)

umm i slammed the toilet lid down too hard..

Vaccummed too late..

and ohhh get this, the very rare time, i had people in (just when the RA was starting , and needed help to clean, etc, she'd complain about me having people over.. OMG

and that they stomped up the stairs too loud.

Constant, constant, .. b*tching and not just to me, but everyday to my Apt manager..

ANd my friends..

ohh the worst.. she even complained that i was typing "too hard"

It was horrid, and there was no reasoning w/ her.. (and she was a huge gossip and

anyway, ended up Alienating every single one of the neighbors, NO ONE talks to her and hubby now, they all despise her. HA!!! evil grin..)

For me, this was a weird blessing , in disguise, we tried mediating w/ a neutral friend ( mine, lol) and the manager.. nothing was going to work..

So.. I ended up having to move, but since i was being forced, i got to stay in

the same apt complex, ... way over Opposite site, different couryard! Yay!

They, the apt manager had the maintence guys MOVE me, everything!!!

FREE..

and I got the one other apt, in the whole place, that i really loved, PLUS..

its a 2 bedroom (section 8 housing is weird, but hey i get to pay the SAME Price as a one bedroom (and i made sure to mention this to her!!! LOL)

and best of all, its downstairs, in the back.. REally nice apt!!!

no more stairs..

so really Huge Blessing in disguise!!

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i'd file a harassement charge against her and Restraining Order, that she can not be within 500 feet of you.. or 50 .. whatever.. thats what i'd do!!!

See how much fun, she'll have having to stay away from you, like if she wants to go out, but you're right there.. ..ha!

LOL Whispered I love you woman, you crack me up!

Deidre - I wonder if that's a law here. I think I'll ride it out with one more call to the landlord. And the next time the police come over, I'll ask them what to do too.

Thanks guys!!!

Years ago in an upstairs aparment I was renting the lower floor

people would call the police on me for all the "noise " I was making

and the officers could see that they woke me up most times or I just

got home from work as they were arriving . I finally called the landlord

and told him what has been going on. He checked out my information

and kicked the little weenies out .

All those months I put up with their sh*t and all I had to do was make one

phone call . The next people that moved in were wonderful .

If the landlord does not know what is going on they can't help you .

It's always been my experience with crazy people is to act crazier than them, and scare them off. I stick to calling the cops when the war games are going on - you have to fight dirty to win this one. Katie, I feel for you. My experience is that neighbor disputes go on onto somebody moves or dies.

My theory is that they start innocently, with a misunderstanding or something, and one party keeps feeling completely wronged while the other party is oblivious they are doing anything at all. So it escalates.

Some of my neighbors probably think I'm mean or a you-know-what, but if something bothers me a lot, I will speak with them about it. It always works, because I think people are generally considerate and want to be good neighbors.

Hubby, on the other hand, is not what he would call "confrontational" so if he doesn't like something, he just calls the police. Which is why we are glad one set moved, and are still waiting for another to die LOL. He makes everything so much worse - who wants the damn police showing up?

Another theory is that even if the annoying behavior has stopped, the complaining neighbor doesn't get over it. We had a terrible problem with barking dogs. They barked all day, at anything and everything. Also, their yard smelled like a cow pasture. When we tried to talk to the owners, they said they never heard them bark and (I'm not making this up), "We're physicians."

It was so bad, all of the other neighbors would gather in the street trying to figure out what to do. "They are both doctors! Can't they afford to move somewhere better than this?", we would say.

They finally did move. But to this day, even a normal amount of dog barking upsets my husband. That experience has caused him to 'focus' on it too much, I think. Another neighbor says her husband is the same way about barking now, too.

I know what you mean about dogs... a few years back we had many unchained, untrained dogs loose in the neighborhood. They barked incessantly and crapped everywhere. Their owners were gangmember (seriously) and there was no negotiating with them - I just called 911 when one of their neglected beasts was prowling my yard. We finally got rid of all those @sswipes, and now an elderly couple has purchased one of the homes that used to house the thugs. Well, they're very nice but they're hard of hearing and they have two small dogs that bark incessantly. Several of us have asked if they can do anything about the dogs barking... but I honestly don't think they understand the difficulty the rest of us have with this, as neither one can hear worth a damn! They have stopped letting them out before 6:30AM or after 10:30PM, so maybe there's hope. I don't want to call the authorities, because the dogs aren't a threat... and I don't want them to move and have thugs back in the 'hood. I bet they can hear them. They just don't 'hear' them, like when you can listen to your own kid have the umpteenth tantrum and it doesn't faze you.

These people would say, "We can't keep them in, they just bark to go outside." No, they are barking inside and you don't want to hear it so you put them out!

ive never had neighbors that were like this...the first place i lived w/ hubby we had a WEIRD neighbor livin upstairs that was i dunno REALLY odd..but nothing bad...and the neighbor we have now (that is unfortunitly moving) we snowblow their driveway and they will mow our lawn in the fall cause they have a riding mower so yea we LUCKED out!!!

Diedre...I think thats a national law...you can get charged BIG time for calling 911 to many times something along the lines of it takes them away from the REAL and worthwile 911 calls
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