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I don't know how many of you have been watching on ABC the show What would you do??  It is where they have actors play out a situation, in public, like kids attacking a homeless person, doing damage to a car, a shopkeeper insulting a young muslim girl,etc.. They have been interesting to watch to see how we the people react to things that are not right.  Tonight was a real upseting one.  They had an overwieght actress sitting on a bench and she was being accosted by 3 teenage girls who are calling her a pig, fatty, whale,so many ugly names, hardly anyone came to her defence, they watched and but kept on walking.  One woman who did intervene was from England and she literally broke down and cried when trying to explain how it pained her to see these kids attack this innocent woman because she was different then them.  Another woman stepped in too, and tried to get the girls to go away.  Even the girls, who were accosting the overweight woman in the experiment broke down and cried when the  English Woman was trying to explain how the words were just so hurtful to hear and the girls said as they were saying the hateful words they were shocked that they could even do it and how much easier it came to saying them when they kept on going with the name calling during the experiment.  Then the news team changed the 3 girls to 3 boys and they started the name calling, several people did step in, one was even going to beat up the boys for their viciousness, until the news team stop him.    They say that this experiment had the smallest number of people who intervened on the behalf of the victim, the overweight woman.  Just before they packed up to go a older woman came up to the actress and told her not to listen to those mean kids and told her she was beautiful, the actress broke down and cried beacause of those  words of kindness from this complete stranger.  Have we become so insensitive, to how we treat others??   That if they don't fit the perfect mold then they are nothing but garbage to the general public.  I am sorry that this is so lng but this experiment really got to me and made me wonder why we allow things like this to happen.  Why are not more people speaking up when our fellow man is being treated like garbage and not with respect? Has the race of man become so shallow??  What do  you think???? meme2008-03-25 20:39:36I saw that too, Meme, and it actually made me tear up.  It was a very disturbing comment on our society.Karen it was a good thing my hubby wasn't home I was crying like a fool over it!!! Why have I never heard of this show? What rock have I been under? When does it come on??? Katie it has been on Tuesday night on ABC at 10pm It is called Primetime What would you do??  Some of the experiements are so so but they have had a few that are quite the eye opener.  One where there was alot of reaction was where they shopkeeper refsed to serve the muslim girl, both actors.   There was alot of outrage as to how the woman was treated, but then there were also alot of people who just ignored the situation .  The shows have been interesting. meme2008-03-25 21:12:03Oh. Well that explains it! I'm usually watching all the recorded stuff on the DVR before it gets deleted, or I'm heading to bed.

Why is it on so late!..........oh wait, I have a DVR! YAY! Hi Meme, I haven't seen the show but yes I would tear up too, I also get teary if I see people on here being treated cruelly, it is no unnecessary in this world, I am sure it feels much nicer to pay compliments than to insult someone.  This board is pretty good though, if someone is receiving  a hard time, usually there are enough people on heer sticking up for the person being mistreated.  Regards Janie. ^ Girls are just horrible bullies sometimes, aren't they. I am appalled at what I hear girls snigger to each other when they think no one is listening, and even when they know someone is listening. This program reminds me of that Michael Moore show where he put a man lying on the ground on a busy street in 3 different countries. In England and Canada, someone came to their help with minutes, but in Times Square, people just walked by them. It is easier not to get involved, but at the same time it is inhuman not to. I've seen people walk by an elderly gentleman having an epileptic fit on the street in my home town, so America Jr, aka Australia is perhaps just as bad._popupControl(); You always hear that children are cruel, but it's been my observation that we don't get much better when we become adults.  I didn't see the show but I can just picture it.  How sad.  It says so much about our society in general and none of it's good.  I blame the media for most of the mess we've become.  I saw this show as well.  I guess what made me think, was why was it more women would come to help the woman than men?  Even when they had the guys teasing/calling names, still there seemed to be more women coming to help this woman.  Even though these women that came to help could have put themselves in danger, they still tried to help this woman.  What's going on with the men that not many stopped to help?

 
Janie...I agree with you about how we see it here on this board.  The way some people here treat others is basically the same as what I saw on the show. 
What is appalling though too is if you have been watching the show over the weeks that it has been on, in most cases quite a few people came forward to help the person in distress, but because this person was overweight hardly anyone came to her aid this was the poorest response for people coming to someone's aid during the shows.  People are taught in this country that if a person is overweight, they are lazy, stupid, and don't deserve respect.  Why have we come to this, because some idiots decided looking like a skeleton is the in thing to do???   Why is being overweight make you a second class citizen?  This society of ours needs a big makeover. meme2008-03-26 06:31:32Katie I must be living under the same rock as you...I havent even seen this show advertised....I want a DVR
But I think that this show is a really good idea, it *should* be on earier in the evening..I think, from what you describe it as, would be a really good show for kids to watch..Kids need to see that just becuase someone is different that it doesnt mean that they are bad people.   Yes we *in general* have become VERY shallow...Nobody wants to get to know others because of the fact that they are different.  Rich people dont want to get to know those that are less fortunate then others and at times it goes the same way.  We need to teach our children that it doesnt and shouldnt be that way.  Every person has something to offer other peope and we dont give them the opportunity to show that.  Oprah's show The Big Give is allowing people to "pay it forward" if you may and showing that you dont have to give people houndreds of dollars to make them happy.  Being there for them, being a shoulder they can cry on, being genually nice to them goes a long way
Maybe they will come up with more shows like this that will get people to watch and start thinking again.  To me this would be a good show to use in the classroom with junior high and high school students, to help them learn by example.Well, my husband and his comments about overweight people and how he acts so superior to them is the same, and guess what with this last bought of Pred that I am still on...yep...I am back to 200lbs.  He will not touch me unless I am losing weight or have lost weight.  I figure I have gotten the most physical touches from him when I am in a size 10-12 or the coveted size 8...yep, then he would chase me, but not even a holding of the hand at a size 16-18.  So...it is nice when the discrimination is far away...but I live with it daily..watching when and what I eat.  Shelly I am sorry, you deserve better.  I am no petite thing either. I am lucky my hubby loves me no matter how I look.  Shelly you will always be beautiful to us I hope this makes your day.  oxoxoxo  meme
Meme...thank you so much!  I needed that...I am working to try to get down the effects of the prednisone, but all of my tendon and joints are swollen still.  I have to go get my Rx of Arava, and then hope that there are no unbearable side effects and my liver behaves, b/c that is the only drug left until Orencia and Retuxan get approved for PA. 
 
Thanks meme and give your hubby a huggle!
Shelly412008-03-26 08:50:16A couple of years ago I volunteered at my kid's high school, helping out with a program called "Celebrating Differences".  It was a week-long program with a variety of workshops, classes, brainstorming sessions geared to increasing the students sensitivity toward others.  It brought in parents, and other members of the community as well.  It was an amazing week and one I am so proud to have been a part of.  If you have the opportunity to bring this program or other similar programs to your community, I highly recommend it.
 
The most amazing part was an assembly at the end of the week, where a pre-selected group of students stood up and talked about the mean things that had been said and done to them for a variety of reasons - being gay, Asian, black, bipolar, special ed, having gay parents, Jewish, fat,  breast size,  where they lived, etc.  Everyone in the audience was in tears as they told their stories. 
 
Then in that warm, understanding atmosphere the microphones were put in the aisles, and other students were invited to come up and tell their stories.  Because they felt safe and accepted, many, many students came forward. You became aware just how vulnerable all of us are, and how insensitive you as a person can be, without even realizing it.  Many, many lessons were learned through that program.   It was one of the most treasured memories of my life.  And it has made a difference in our school.   I will be right there volunteering the next time they offer this program - it is recommended that they do it every four years, to reach all students.
One person can't change the social morals or lack of in a society. However, change doesn't have a chance of happening unless comes to the forefront AND that would be me.

Without question I would approach these ill-raised teenage girls and boys and not condemn them but to ask them how they would react if these same insults were being hurled at a family member (they probably don't have fat friends)? If this didn't get results
I would take out my cell phone, take a picture of the teenage girls only and transmit it over the web and for sure to the local media.  As I said before, "there would never be a picture of the victim because this person has already been embarrassed enough."
I searched for it on the DVR, and I can't find it. What day does it come on, and what channel? Are you sure it's ABC? Katie, it's on ABC at 10 eastern time.  It may be listed as Primetime - it is technically the show Primetime, I think.  Kind of like "To Catch a Predator" was.So the name of the show is Primetime????? I'm confused. *sigh* It doesn't take much to confuse me today LOL (or anyday?)Yep Katie at 10 pm on ABC now it may not be on next week I thought they said something else was going to be on that night I will check and let you know for sure. meme2008-03-26 19:55:47So.......
 
 
Monday - Friday, 10pm on ABC, the show is called "Primetime"?
Tuesday night hon it is called Primetime: What would you do??  It may be pulled for a while since all the shows have their writers back and the networks want to get them on to get viewers back.Ooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh
 
 
okay! I get it! Thanks!
It's hard to decided what you would do in a situation and what you wouldn't.
 
I have stopped kids from picking on a kid, i have stopped someone from robbing someone (stupid of me), but i did jump in at those times to help.
 
But, as i got older and wasn't in my low 20s, i started to see things that i didn't notice before.  I saw a bunch of shootings and stabbings from people who were picking on people etc.  I got to the point where i would look over a situation well before i would try and stop it.  My thoughts changed once i got married and had my kid, I am never alone with these situations and i am afraid of putting them in danger.
 
We do help in any situation we can like when the old couple needed the tire changed on the highway, he had his arm in a sling and she was not a tire changing looking woman.  So i told my husband "you should" and he finished with "i am" and went back around and helped them.  They were are their way to the hospital cuz he broke his arm.
 
But, situations like that we help with, it just scares me today with so many young kids not being raised right, that they might attack us for trying to help.
 
Nobody will ever know what they will do, until they are in the situation.  I just hope that i help when it is needed.

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