OT- And then came stress | Arthritis Information

Seems that just as i am getting my problems resolved or at least i am making progress, the rest of the world is falling apart. One of my brothers is having the worst time with his marriage. The inlaws came for a ten day visit and suddenly his wife left the state with his baby. They have been married for years and this is a pattern. But in the past there was no baby involved.

A 16 year old girl i know is having trouble with dcfs. The baby is nearly three the girl is a good mother. The babys father is older than her and not supposed to be around. How ever after four years this is a family. So basically they could loose there child for being spotted at Chunky Cheese. A friend of mines step daughter. The girls real mom aloud her to date an 18 yr old when she was 12. Not an excuse for the boy but he is from a different country. But if you saw them and new them they are just a family rasing a child. So it's like a forced divorce being brought down by dcfs. The boy was never charged as the mother had aloud it. When the girl was 13 the school kept threatening her with having her child taken away for being irresponsible if her grades slipped a bit. She flipped out and ran off with the baby's father. Then a few months ago dcfs found out they were in the state and took the baby for a thirty day evaluation and returned her. But said she could not be around the babies father. He has always been a good provider the baby girl and the 16 year old mother love him. It is a mess. The girl is really flipping out now. The little girl just follows her Mom around. Where is Mommy?, where is Mommy? She has only been back from foster care for a month. How do you tell a little girl she can not live with her Mom and Dad because they took her to Chunky Cheese.

And some one else i know is in jail for being stupid. That is always the case of people being in jail.

Anyway it is like what next. One of my other brothers called and i said is everything alright. He had just called to chat, how refreshing. I am getting pariniod, the drama is never ending. So i am having trouble sleeping as my brain will not stop thinking. As my heart is broken for my brother. He has been the main caretaker of his little one. He works at home. He misses his baby. I am sure he will see his baby again but it still breaks my heart as the child is his whole life. Thanks for letting me vent.

Milly - vent away, we are lucky to have a place to do it rather than acting out violently or inappropriately towards family and friends. Instant gratification is the evil of this world - we are now conditioned to believing that wealth, health, true love, and a trouble-free life is guaranteed from watching fantasies on TV. The truth is that the only thing you can control is yourself. Everything else is what my husband says is the "sideshow", and it's hard to ignore when its close family and friends. I use to be able to reach out and help others, but it's impossible now, I can barely do the basics myself. And it was heartbreaking for me, as I was raised to reach out and help others. Milly, I read your posts and you are a very giving, caring person, always there for any of us who is struggling more than usual, and that is a rare trait. I appreciate your presence on this Board. Take care ~~ CathyHi Milly, yes, vent away, sometimes it is nice to read O/T stuff, I don't mean that in a bad way, yours is bad news, and to vent here like JSNM says is no problem, if it helps you, keep doing it, as we have all said before, it is a choice for us all to make if we want to read the O/T stuff, good luck, hope your brother can sort his life out soon. Best of luck, Janie. I am so sorry to hear this. Dysfunction runs rampant in my family as well. Now I will get in trouble for stating that....believe me.

All you can do at this juncture is be supportive and kind and listen, compassion helps. We all have this ideal of how we want our lives to be and some do get to haev that ideal. Others of us do not. Maybe from bad choices or maybe from listening to the wrong people, it is endless, a lot of variables..

Just be supportive and know that you can come here to vent. Sleepless nights due to stress is hard on your body and your mind.......I know......let us know how we can help.

Keep in mind that takes 2 to form an argument. 2 people can hurt eachother pretty good.

Try not to worry about it...easier said than done I know. ((hugs))