At one point in time | Arthritis Information

There was a point in time in mylife when I felt secure, loved and simply enjoyed life.

I laughed, joked and thought, life just not get any better then this.

I had made many mistakes during this time, made several bad choices, believed the wrong people.

I have worked hard and convinced I was being used, but I enjoyed the work so I never saw it that way until I was convinced. That was poor judgement on my part.I lost a lifestyle and hope and someone dear because of that. Maybe it was the meds, maybe it wasn;t even me, maybe it WAS RA. But all in all I cannot blame anyone or anything for a choice I made or the life ihave to lead now but me. Whether it was pressure or rejection or illness.

I come here and I have learned so much from so many different people. SOme agree , some disagree, but the commonality of quality of life remains. The feeling of total loss is evident in many. Some have overcome that feeling, the lucky ones have been able to move on in their thinking.

It is more than RA or Fibro or the medicines, or any other diseases that come with it. It is the life that we lead and are in that is the most important.

Acceptance goes a long ways, and makes you feel better. Hang in there ~~ CathyI don't thinkit is acceptance, it is more..."I give up".Yeah... some times you just have to "give up". You might have gave up for a day or a week or even years, but when you do that it can also motivate you to accept it and move on as well. I do the give up thing, but I do not stay long in the give up mode, some thing usually makes me want to move on and accept what has happened.

Like when I started Humira, I am afraid of needles. To me that is the end of my world. I had fought so long and hard not to go that route. I eneded up giving up and giving in and doing what I was told. I still was not a happy person about having to be jabbed with a sharp, shiney, metal, foreign object every week. Towards the end, I accepted that I was to the point in my J/RA that needles were always going to be a part of my life now. I am now on Remicade, and still a little iffy about it. But I have accepted that it is for the best.

I hope you can come to terms with with what is bothering you soon. If not we are here to listen to you. I thought that my lifestyle would change when I first got Ra ( and it did for a while )

until we got the pain under control . Some things have changed in my life , all the things I loved to do had to be altered .I loved playing tennis , man I could play some mean tennis,

I was out there every day possible with my husband . But with the joints hurting from playing I had to quit .

I now do easier things on my joints like snorkeling , walking , I still love being outdoors and try to find thing I can still do .

I still have my blue moments when I think of the things I can't do but I also remember the things I can do . And that is what gets me through the sad times .

I also have a very supportive husband and I have this forum to go to , I just wish I would have known before that forums existed .

Washcloth , we are here to listen whenever you need a shoulder , we have all been there

and know how important it is to have support to get through the bad times and the good .