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when i am hurting i get so mad/angry not always about the disease but little things that have happened that day or in the past.    maybe things i could handle when i was not hurting.    how do you handle your pain?   i have people i vent to when i am upset about something, but i have run people off too with my fussing.   where is the balance?   I journal and have for many years, its venting to an ear that never gets tired! lol, I also don't dwell on it a lot. hi wonderwoman.. the sad thing is i have found as time goes by pain becomes the norm..
and you learn to adjust and deal whith it... i have found it is better to shout at the wall
than to pent all the frustrations up...

wishing you well.. Boney
When first diagnosed, i wasn't angry or mean, i just cried a ton.  I was always depressed and wanted to be alone in peace.

Ah, yes... the urge to "reach out and punch someone."  I know it well, as do most who have the misfortune of having been around me when I've been having alot of pain. Coping with pain is one of the hardest skills to learn.  I say it's a skill because it takes repetitive action to learn to cope.  There are 2 things that I do that helps me cope - read a really good book and do my art.  Being creative is the best thing I've found to keep my body and mind active when pain hits.  I don't have time to dwell on the pain when I'm creating. When all else fails I take pain pills and find a quiet place just for me.  Lindy 

SnowOwl, good post.  Your post is a good reminder to all of us. Lindy

wonderwoman
A friend I used to work with back in NYC had a small toy dump truck on his desk. It was given to him by a former friend to remind him of all the times he dumped on her. I like the symbolism don't you. Friends aren't always your best place to unload.

Pity parties aren't well attended either. All of mine have been depressingly quiet.

Anger is like pain. It's a signal that something isn't right. Just as some pain isn't worth any concern, I let most things just roll. Not worth it. If it's a big deal, than I roll.

thank you snow owl for your wisdom.    i just need a hug from you.  wonderwomanI do the same thing as Snowowl, I scream. Good thing I live in the boondocks so no one can hear me. LOL I also turn up the music real loud and sing along really loud or talk to my dog. She listens, I swear she understands everything I say. I tell her "Meemaw hurts Roo come see me". She comes and lays on my leg or whatever is hurting and the warmth and weight helps. She's a little chihuahua. She's my 20 year old daughter's but she bonded with me cuz' I am home with her all the time. I forgot to mention......I turn up some heavy metal rock and just sing and she sings with me. LOL I get really short tempered and snappy when the pain gets bad. I think its a lot of frustration that causes it, plus maybe it releases certain hormones that are released during menstruation as when I am in pain the guys in my family think I have got my monthlys. Either that or I am just a grump lol

Pity parties aren't well attended either. All of mine have been depressingly quiet.

Anger is like pain. It's a signal that something isn't right. Just as some pain isn't worth any concern, I let most things just roll. Not worth it. If it's a big deal, than I roll.

How true! I like this idea!
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