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do you want to hide when you feel bad or is it just me?    i want to close the house up and not let anybody in and act like i am not home.  what is wrong with me?   do you think i am depressed?   i have been on antidepressants (alot of different ones)  before only 1 helped but it made me very nervous and by evening i was worried about everything.  and anxious.   so i quit it.   anyway my question is do you want to stay away from others when you feel bad and hide?Yes, if I feel real crappy, and I'm not depressed.  I have a habit of putting on a smile and minimizing my situation with friends.  I don't want to be a complainer all the time.  When I'm really bad, I want to put on my jammies, hit the bed, watch tv, play canasta online, etc., but I don't want to talk to anyone or have people over.  I thought I was alone, lol......hi wonderwoman. sorry to see you feel like this.. i prefer the company as it keeps the brain
occupied. i like to get out of the house as much as possible.. stay on top of illness.
the strange thing about anti depresants is the side effects can be depression and anxiety
same as pain killers can give you a headache... work that one out.. If I'm feeling crappy, I usually retreat to my room.  I will venture out to make sure everyone is fed and clothed in my house, and to issue orders to the kids regarding chores.

If I'm feeling down, I tend to want to be alone.   Sometimes, I start out feeling depressed, but then along the way, I end up doing my best thinking and problem-solving during that time.  I don't think there is anything wrong with isolating yourself once in awhile, however, I'd be concerned if it was more than a day or two or happening more frequently.  

[QUOTE=JasmineRain]If I'm feeling crappy, I usually retreat to my room.  I will venture out to make sure everyone is fed and clothed in my house, and to issue orders to the kids regarding chores. [/QUOTE]

Oh, and my husband does the same thing if he's feeling down and out.  With two young boys in the house, there is little chance for peace and quiet around here!  The constant din can definitely make a funky phase 10 times worse, so we make sure that we each get the space and quiet we need.
Like most of the others, I, too, want to be by myself when I feel bad. It's natural to withdraw if you don't feel well. It's ok to be depressed if you don't feel well.

I've noticed that in a lot of the medical stuff I read, that there's a big push to get people out of being depressed and back to work or whatever. They really are clueless about the need to heal and renew. Like this giant SNAP OUT OF IT! Doesn't work that way. It's often why so many people cycle through one depression after another. Even if you aren't miserable, you need to be able to go off and relax.
When my joints are aching and that tired feeling takes over the mind and body, I retreat to my bed along with some good books. It's ok to have some down time.I always tend to isolate myself when I am unwell. I know I shouldn't, but I recover quicker from my flares that way, and I'm a much nicer person when I'm not flaring. I find talking and social interaction to be quite a bother when I'm in pain and sleeping 16 hours a day, so I save it for when _popupControl() I feel better.
I feel that way sometimes. If I'm feeling crappy, I usually prop myself up on the couch with lots of pillows and my heated throw, and relax. I have two boys too, so it isn't always quiet, but they know when I'm feeling crappy to help me out and to settle down. My hubby has taught them well! Me too!  I try not to be too grumpy but I find it hard to be happy and chatty when I have been hurting for a while.  I try to always let hubby know when I am too that point so he doesn't think its him or he did something wrong.  Its hard though when a particularly bad flare goes on for weeks/months.  Just getting through my workday is WAY more people time than I need. I DO!  I retreat to my bedroom and I don't answer the door or the phone.  When I feel bad, it just seems to overwhelming to deal with anything or anyone.
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