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This is all kind of weird for me on what is going on .

A year ago a friend of mine got a puppy and sense I am home more than she is she
asked if I could be the baby sitter . Of course I said yes .
My friend was working 10 hours a day and really did not have the time for the puppy.
So my husband and I talked to her about training her dog . Leash training , house
training and just good manners .
Of course she loved the idea , and we were not charging her for any of this.
Well every day we have this dog we work with her and take her on field trips to
some of our favorite hiking spots that she just loves. She is with us at family
outings and is just a little charm to all she meets .
We have trained her to have such beautiful manners that all are so impressed.
My friend has called us her co-parents for about a year and sense we have her so much
we have paid for her hair cuts , nail cuts and all her flea and tic meds.
I have always asked my friend before we do anything with her dog  but her response
is always " she is your dog too " But I still ask.
My friend mentions alot that she is so happy that the dog loves us so much and that she knows the the dog is in great hands all the time. She even said that days ago.
 
Well the problem is I got an e-mail from her yesterday that she does not want us to take the dog anymore . I have called her to ask her what is going on and she will not give me a straight answer.
I don't know what to do . This dog will be heart broken not to go for walks anymore.
My friend is not the walking kind of person and will only walk the dog in the yard to go
potty and feels this is enough exersize for the dog .
I can't believe I am heart broken over a dog , But I am .
                                                                                         
 
Loving my dog the way I do I can understand how attahced you can get to an animal.
 
This is a stange situation and it's putting you in a strange position. I doubt you're going to come out the winner in this situation as sad as it may be.
 
You and your husband sound like great dog owners. You guys should get a dog of your own to help ease the hard feelings. Just a suggestion.
 
Your friend is not doing what's best for the puppy....but it's unlikely you're going to change her mind.
 
Good Luck.
hi maimi.. thats the problem whith animals you can get attatched to easy.
maybe the dog was getting to atatched to you and your freind di not like it..
here in the uk there is a dog sitting service. for people who do not want to put
there dogs in kennels while on holidays etc.. a person such as yourself registers
whith them and chooses types of dog they will take care of. and what dates they want
them and get paid..a small amount.. they supply all for the dogs..
thinking of your post again i find it pretty bad this person emailed you.
instead of face  to face... I think your friend realizes the dog is more yours than hers!  I would be sad, too, but agree there is probably nothing you can do.  You have done a lot for free to help your friend, but on the bright side it does sound like the dog has given you a lot of joy in return.

I think now that you know how much love taking a care of a dog, it would be a good idea to get one of your own, like others said.

And I bet her dog will tear up her house while she is at work....the poor thing isn't used to being alone and bored and will act out, I bet....
Yeh , I do think the dog will act out . She is a real sensitive lettle girl.
We did talk about getting a dog but my husband thinks that my friend will get bored with the dog and we may end up with the girl . We ended up with the ladies cat because she did not like her anymore. And Honey Pi does love it here .
I am around alot of dogs as part of my occupation , I train dogs for a living and create
health treats for dogs . So I will only be lonley for Elizabeth . 
                                                                  I think she's going to be sorry she cut you off.  You've been a wonderful friend and went above and beyond the call of duty.  Some pound puppy would be so lucky to have you.  I'd be willing to bet she's going to miss your help, even if she is jealous of all the time you've spent with her dog.  Whether or not she'll come around is another matter.  This may well be the end and the poor puppy is the one who loses.  Fortunately, young dogs are pretty flexible so hopefully he'll adjust to his new life.   Dogs often have better manners than their owners. hi maimi.  i am just in shock!   i love my dog more than most people.   and we sometimes keep our neighbors dog when they are on vacation.   we love him  and my dog loves him too.   shame on your friend and to tell you in an email!   just let her know you are available for the dog's sake.   so sorry... it is like losing a best friend (i am refering to the puppy).   maybe the owner will come around.   the owner does not realize how much work her puppy requires because you guys lovingly do all the work.  wonderwoman

She sounds jealous to me like she realized the dog would rather be with you.  It's her dog?  Seems to me it's more yours with all the time and money spent.  You've paid for hair and nail cuts, and the dog's flea and tick meds?  They are the responsibilities of an owner.  Makes me wonder if she is that neglectful with the dog or was using you. She's not even woman enough to tell you face to face-she sends an email.

I know how you feel.

My daughter was in a sticky situation and asked us to look after one of her poodles for a little while.
This lasted for eighteen months on a full time basis.
When she said she wanted the dog back, well, you can imagine, we were heart broken.

Julie and I had become so attached to this little mite but the day came and he went.
A few tears were shed that day, and a few more over the next week.

The happy ending was when she handed us one of his pups twelve months later.
This one was for keeps and I am so fond of what I call my mate.

I hope that there is some sort of silver lining on the horizon for you..
HI Maimi, a very cowardly thing to do via email!!!!  I feel she was jealous of your love for the dog and moreso the dog's love for you.  It is a real shame as you obviously care so much, I feel it may get too much for her and she may well ask you to have him back.  Has she spoken to you since the email, I would put it right on her and tell her how unfair she is being, then if she doesn't care how you feel, at least lets pray she cares how the dog feels.  We have a gorgeous dog and if anything happened to him, we would be heartbroken, he really is one of the family.  Give it a while and if you don't hear anything then go and choose a very lucky dog to have you to look after it.  Regards Janie.  Having my own "pack" of dogs... I know the feelings you are having.. and I'm so sorry that your "friend" is not considerate and appreciative of all that you have done to help her.
 
I am glad your life will still be filled w/ animals in your business, but someone such as yourself should truly consider making a puppy or dog your own... they would be incredibly lucky animals.
 
 
Thank you all for your kind words . I do think that she may come around after she realizes
how much work Elizabeth is .
It is funny that whenever the dog gets out of her house , leash free , she ends up at
our back door sitting on the deck waiting to be let in .
I'm sure we will see her there sometime soon .
I do think in time that we will go to a shelter or rescue to find a great pal of our own.
But my husband wants to wait and see if we end up with Elizabeth after all .
Who knows!!
I am just curious, to how much time, your friend actually spent w/ "her dog"

Personally, can you just keep the dog?  Sounds like she lives nearby tho, and I agree w/ the others, she sounds jealous..

At least, you learned a hard lesson, I really don't think , you can "share' a dog, they become sooo much part of your family.

I could never part, w/ any of my cats~
 
I'm sorry you're going thru this and Seriously.. an email.. ?
 
hugs~
She had the dog at night time and parts of some days off .
We use to say that I was the active fun mom and my friend was the
cudley mom who lounged on the sofa or bed and watched tv with
Elizabeth . And that was my friend saying that .
I just hope she gets the dog out for long walks so she does not end
up being a fat lazy kind of dog .
 
 

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