Tonight I am anxious because my MTX was not delivered as it should have been... and I need to take my dose on Saturday... *big sigh* I will work around it but why should we have to?
Why should you need to feel guilty if you aren't up to doing the physical? why should we feel that we can't just say that we aren't able?? I would tell them that I couldnt' if I was asked for something I can't fulfill...
when I need to drive a distance, I wear arm braces which make me hold my wrists in a way that doesn't hurt..
I hope your day with your daughter is wonderful.. enjoy her playing time... and I hope you find you don't need to fear what may come
You are a normal person too! You just have an illness. Play it by ear. If you feel up to helping do what you can. If you don't just say I feel so bad but you'll have to excuse me today my RA is really giving me trouble.
You'll be fine apnut- I know it!! Enjoy the tournament!
I am so glad to here iam not the only one that has these feeling's. It's so funny because a few years ago I had this feeling ( Yeah give me piece of that) I can take all you can throw at me. For the most part the people there are really nice this year . Most of it is stemming from my own feeling's of being inadequate(mis-spelled). Even though my daughter's arm is broke and not playing just yet. I still want to support the team. I know it's just me..... Can you please pass the Xannaxanxiety
Of course you're anxious sometimes. You're dealing with a chronic illness that affects every part of your life. But you're still functioning, anxiety and all and good for you!! You have the upper hand in the end, the anxiety does not. Your past attitude of "Yeah, give me a piece of that" has served you well. As time goes on you may find other ways to support the team that are not so demanding physically. In the meantime, don't feel guilty. You're doing all you can.
I find the anxiety generally comes in two forms: will I be able to do what I want to do/have to do? And how will I be judged for not being like everyone else?
The first one is tough, because we never know what we're going to get on any given day. All we can do is prepare...resting up ahead of time, taking preventative meds, making contingency plans, and just having the right "tools" and help with us.
The second one is harder...not because we can't control what other people think, but because the problem is really in our own heads. As SnowOwl said so well, they're really not all that concerned with judging us, because we're all too busy judging ourselves and feeling guilty.
Take a deep breath, try to give "the judge" the day off and enjoy.
I too have alot of anxiety. I used to be a "control freak" (named by family). It used to drive me crazy when the house is a mess. I realized that I can't do all I used to and tried to let it go but was not able. My dr prescribed me xannax and it helps. I only take it when I feel stressed because it does knock me out. It hard for me not to be able to do the things I used to do. I had my own cleaning business, was girl scout leader, sunday school teacher, cub master. I had to quit doing so much and people really understand I am sick but when you say ra they think it's an old folks disease and say I am too young. Then I have to go threw the whole spew of it which in its self is enough to stress you out just trying to explain to people what it is. LOL
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