I don't usually vent my frustrations but I am holed up in my computer room. My husband decided to have a weekend get together with his mom, sister and two brothers and their wives/husband. We prepared for weeks for this get together and had all these plans and adult time to catch up on what has been going on in everyones lives. A week ago our 21 year old daughter moved back in with us because she is between apartments (the house she was renting was sold) so we took her and her boxer in which is fine for short term.
Well, nine kids from ages 11 to 2 showed up, unexpectedly as well as 5 dogs. Our daughters dog, who is in heat (great timing) almost killed one of their dogs in the middle of our kitchen. We no longer have beautiful wood floors, they demolished two screen doors and slashed a hole in the trampoline over a foot long (so, it is basically garbage).
I am beyond pi$$ed.
And I know that memories with family and family in general should be more important than our house and material items...and they are but we did not expect all the kids and animals.
If my husband and I owned animals we would never take them to someones house without asking. I told my husband that this would never happen again. I love his family but this is out of control. They are here until Tuesday
I do want to add...the owners of the kids have had a great time because the rest of us have had to police thier kids for 2 days while they have laid back and thoroughly enjoyed their stay.
Anyway, I feel better now. Thanks for listening all. Wow. I don't even know what to say to that. I'm shocked that people would come into your home and behave so badly. And be so oblivious to how rude it is.Well Linncn, to make matters worse. One reason for the adult get together was because Garys 58 year old brother has less than 6 months to live (end stage lung disease) This has been super stressful for him. The sister brought all her grand kids and one brother brought a grandkid. We are appalled they had no more respect for their sick brother than they do. This was to be a quiet rest time for him and for all of them to just talk and say what they wanted to say to him. This chance won't come again. I'm sad for him.Lorster, that's so sad. Did the sister not understand what this was all about? I hope your husband can get some time alone with his brother some other time. That's gonna be a hard goodbye. Like Linda, I don't know what to say other than how rude to treat their hosts like this. 2 more days...........and a lesson learned. Damn, I hate to have to learn like this. Take care. LindyOMG I would be seething. You are a saint for sticking around, I would be out the door and at a hotel for the duration. Did anyone offer to pay for the damage? I feel for you. My mother-in-law breaks something everytime she visits us, but she never seems to mention it. I find out after she leaves when I discover whatever it is she has broken... This last visit she couldn't avoid letting us know that she had shut the garage door on our van when the door to the trunk was open. Ugh.
What a nightmare. Did they not realize the intent of the visit was to spend time with their brother and possibly say last goodbyes? It's one thing to show up unannounced with your own children, but why would they bring grandchildren. If you still have a few days, I would set some rules going forward - like watch your own kids, pick up after yourself, etc. I hope you and your husband find some time to visit quietly with his brother.
I don't blame you for being upset. If it were me, I'd be looking for a hit man. The only saving grace is that you tried to give your brother-in-law special time with his family. You can be proud of that. Shame on them for screwing it up. Some people are all id.