guilty | Arthritis Information

There are times that the pain can be so bad from a flare up and I know that my husband tries so hard to understand what I am going through. But I do know it is hard for someone to really under stand unless you have Ra.

In the past when my husband would have an ache I would do every thing I could to help him.But I would also feel like "you have no idea what real pain is honey".I never really verbally said any thing like that to him until recently. And I am feeling guilty for minimizing his pain because it is not as severe as my pain. His usually does not even mention something going on with him unless he is in alot of pain.

I find myself glaring at him in not a nice way because I know he will be fixed and I will never be fixed.

I so want to get back to where I can feel for him when he is sick or hurting. I think I am jealous and I hate that feeling.

Does any one else get those feelings with the one you love?

I have to put my hand up to having feelings like this sometimes too Maimi. When I'm thinking like this I mentally tell myself to be thankful that hubby doesn't have a debilitating illness, cos if he did, my quality of life wouldn't be what it is today.

I couldn't run my wee farm without his help as I'd not be able to afford to pay tradesmen for cartage and heavy jobs that I can't do. In saying that, he's much happier fixing mechanical things than driving to other farms to pick up trailer loads of hay or new animals for me though. LOL

I have to admit to doing this too. I don't mean to, but geeze louise, if they only knew...

My own family does not remember just how much pain i constantly am in because I still run around cleaning, up and downstairs doing the laundry, etc. and I look fine. I finally gave up the majority of cooking. There are 4 other people in this house who are fully capable, so why not give it a shot.