OT: My mommy - Another long post | Arthritis Information

 

I had not been to visit my mommy, since last Monday. I just did not want her to see me when I am not doing well, because it upsets her so much.

 

First thing she said was, I was wondering how you were doing. I said I am "okay". Of course she knew it was a lie. 2nd thing she said was so what did the doctors say? Then my sister turned and looked at me with that "Do not answer her" look. Then I said which doctor? She said which ever one you visited the most recently. I was like Oh yeah... I had to reschedule my thyroid dr appt for august 19th. Then that kinda changed the subject, and then I completely made it about her visiting doctors. and she forgot all about my doctors visits and all. She did not know I was going in for a TEE. I chose not to tell her. I was conflicted about to tell her or not the day before I was to have the TEE done, because I was being put to sleep. But hubby agreed that I should not tell her and so I did not. I did not even tell my oldest sister, she is a worry wart and she has enough stress and problems of her own.

 

She told me that her incision got infected and she was put on antibiotics. She said she feels better after being put on antibiotics.

 

She said she hates getting in and out of the bed, because the bed is too high up and she has to be lifted up and then when she lays down forr them to pull her up to the top of the bed, she has a hard time breathing. And she hates it even more when they do all that work to get her into bed, only to have to pee a little later. She says it hurts her chest more to get in and out of bed, so she stays in the recliner until everyone is ready to go to sleep then she goes and gets in her bed.

 

Oh and then my right leg started hurting me while I was there. my sister came home and turned the AC down to igloo. So... it made me hurt more and worse. Then my mom looked at me and said "I feel bad for you." Then I said nah... no need to, it is just my right knee. But I was hurting really bad. When I got out to the card I cried because of the pain.

 

It just upsets me that I cannot tell her my problems like I use to. Now, I really do not have anyone to tell my problems to.

And I wonder where I get it from?

 

I'm glad your Mom made it thru her surgeries. She'll start to get better now. Her pain will ease.

 

And so will yours.... it is a disease of many ups and downs. You know you have been worse. And you got better. You will get better again.  I sure have missed you!Joonie, you will always have us. I know it's not the same as mommy, but soon she'll be better than her "old" self and you can lean on her then. Until that time we have lots of shoulders for you to lean or cry on and boundless hugs! Joonie, I doubt this will help much, but could I ask what kind of bed your mommy has?  I got mine the Craftmatic which is basically like a hospital bed; then found out later insurance (Medicare) would have covered the rental on a hospital bed.  This really helped both my mom and dad in getting out of bed as they were having the same problems.  Sorry your mom isnt out of the wooods yet. To me, this is a good place to VENT!! I don't see you as a weak person. I see a young person struggling to keep things inside, trying to keep yourself together. Sometimes it's just  not possible . When I am down emotionally, it's the worst feeling in the world. Maybe you could stay at mom's while she's at the hospital? I can't imagine how you feel, mom in the hospital , you want her to get better so you can give her a big hug. You can't control things so she doesn't hurt, it's very frustrating. I hope you both feel better soon. You are very welcome in this house of pain. You can vent all ya want and start to feel better! I agree with P&P get something done to your house so you can get around better. Hope you both feel better soon>[QUOTE=patandpaula]Joonie, I doubt this will help much, but could I ask what kind of bed your mommy has?  I got mine the Craftmatic which is basically like a hospital bed; then found out later insurance (Medicare) would have covered the rental on a hospital bed.  This really helped both my mom and dad in getting out of bed as they were having the same problems.  [/QUOTE]