when a doctor lies to you? | Arthritis Information

went back to the doctor today and she told me she wasn't sure if she got all the cancer, that after surgery they tested the area around it and found more and had to go back in and do more surgery, and it was on the bone....She lied to me the day of the surgery she told me and family that she got it all and that it was not in the bone.....how do I ever trust her again? if you can't trust the doctor who can you trust?

I do have an appointment thur. at the cancer center. A Radiation oncologist and a medical oncologist, today she was talking stuff like taking part of chin out and taking a place from the arm to patch it, deformery and all that good stuff. I don't think I will ever trust another doctor. She didn't need to tell me all the day of surgery, but to tell a complete lie.

I still can't eat food, I have a hole and open sores in my mouth and it still hurts like crazy, there was not enought skin to cover it all, she pulled all the lose skin there was from my chin area, it looks funny, she did one skin draft. she said it would be a long time healing to eat soft food, I have already lost 8 lbs ans I'm sick of everything soft....but that the least of my problems....sorry to keep coming in here about cancer, I just been coming here so long for the RA and you alway been here for me.

Rusty,

I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. I can't imagine what you are going thru.

One thing you might consider...I suspect the doctor believed that she got all the cancer. However, the specimens went to the lab and that is probably where she got the information that there was still cancer there.

I bet it is hard to trust anyone, let alone dr's. Please think about it from another aspect: that she/he got the final test results back and that is what she is going off of today.

Best of luck to you

Phats

On the day of surgery they found it after checking another place, and went back in on the same day and knew it was on the bone because she scraped it off. I had two surgery in one day is the way she put it. she was done and ready to leave and checked the resaults and went back in. I don't know, I think she shouldn't have gave me hope that wasn't there and than tell me 11 days later, she should have told someone what was going on. It's hard enough waiting on test and not knowing, now I can't even believe the Doctor when she gives me the resaults, I just don't get it. I have a hard road ahead and now I can't trust anyone.

Oh Rusty- I am so sorry to hear this! Of course you feel mistrustful! If I remember correctly you weren't all that happy with this doctor before the surgery either. Is there anyone else you can see? I'll be praying that you find a good doctor who can make you well.

Don't you ever apologize for coming here with your worries- what ever they may be caused from! You are important to us!

I am so very sorry to hear you are going through all of this.

I am sending prayers and good thoughts your way.

I do hope you told the doctor how you feel. I can understand why you feel that way. I am sure I would have felt like that also.

I am so sorry. Please confront and act as necessary so this doesn't add to your worry. You have enough to worry about, try to get this off the list...prayers your way!!Rusty - you have a free pass to let us go through this journey with you, we will all learn.

Perhaps now as you get away from the surgeon and into oncology, it will improve. I would definitely request all my records from her and get the recommendation from your new oncologist for a surgeon they regularly work with and respect.

We are pulling for you in here ~~ Cathy

justsaynoemore2008-08-04 17:37:41PS You are allowed as much of your favorite ice cream milkshake you can handle :) My dear Rusty, I cannot imagine what you are going thru. I have been through it with several relatives, but one can't truly understand without having lived it.

I do understand your being upset and untrusting of the doctor. Did you let her know that you were disappointed in her for not being honest with you the day of surgery?

Take care, Sweetie. You can ALWAYS come to us!

Much love, Nini

So sorry Rusty, you're going through so much. I would (as suggested above) get a copy of your records so you know if she lied for sure and then I would confront her. You should be able to trust your dr. If she did lie, I would be looking for a new one.

God Bless you and come back anytime and vent as much as you like.

Rusty..so sorry. I don't trust doctors either, but ther comes a time inyour life where you have no other choice. Prayers sent to heaven for you. Hang in there please!

Love Cinda

When it comes to cancer, most doctors are battling your disease while trying to keep you from being discouraged. And they can't predict how successful they are. No matter what they say. If you don't trust the doctor, find another.

I'll keep you in my prayers. I know it's tough.
Dear Rusty,
I am truly sorry for all you are going through. No Dr. should ever lie to or mislead you and you are right to feel distrusting of the Dr. Oh I am so sorry they did that to you. I will being praying for you.

{{{Much Hugs}}}
Mom2

Rusty, You are going through a tremendous struggle right now, and I have to agree with what Cathy said. Now that you are seeing an oncologist, they deal with many different surgeons and can probably (tactfully) direct you to someone who is a better fit for you. Not trusting your surgeon has to add so much more stress, whis is what you do NOT need right now. I am praying for you.

Deb

Hi Rusty,

I didn't trust my first surgeon either. My oncologist sent me to a different surgeon who was fantastic. Please hang in there and ask your oncologist if they can recommend someone else. You need to feel you can trust your medical team; that is very important moving forward with your medical plan. Hugs and prayers are still being sent...Hiking_gal

II agree that the most important thing as you battle the cancer is to have a doctor that you trust and feel comfortable with. Even if you confront this surgeon, you will never again completely trust her. The suggestion that you rely on your oncologist to recommend a surgeon when needed is an excellent one. You need to be able to put your health in the hands of people who wiill treat you as a partner.without trust you will doubt your recovery.. it's important that you have faith in your dr.. I hope the oncologist is much better than your surgeon was..

I will hold you in my thoughts..