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I have mixed emotions on how my grandma died. I know her body gave out at the end and took her, but how she got there wasn't a good trip.

She was perfect and i mean PERFECTLY FINE when she went into the nursing home last month. She told her kids that since her friend was gone that she needed to go into a nursing home or something. She could bathe, change herself, feed herself etc. she was fine, just a slight vision loss, but totally good enough to bring into your home but none did, they just threw her into the nursing home.

As soon as she was put there, she sank into a depression, wouldn't talk to anyone and eventually just died.

I know she was 90yrs old, but she was perfectly fine, she just wanted to live with family but they all said they were too sick when I know for a fact my parents could have taken her in. I thought about it but i am accross the country and she wanted to be near her kids.

Part of me feels they helped her die. I don't want to feel that, but i do.

I needed to vent, thanks for listening.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Grandma, Bubbs. It is always so hard to lose someone who has been a part of your life forever.

It does sound as if she died of sadness. But, as you said, she was 90 years old and her body must have just finally given up.

I know how hard it is to accept that her children could not take her in, for whatever reason. Try not to be too hard on them. I don't know what your relationship is with your family, but, hopefully they are in touch and supportive of you. Have you talked to them since your Grandma died? I am sure everyone is grieving and they may be regretting their decision to put her in the home.

Please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of your dear Grandma.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Much love, Nini

I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better about the whole situation. Your anger is understandable.I'm real sorry for your loss. I've lost both of my grandmother's in the last 5 years and it's a very sad time.So sorry for the loss of your grandmom. No matter what their age you are never ready to lose a loved one. Hope happy memories soon replace the sadness in your heart.My grandmother on my father's side passed away not that long ago. Sort of similar to what you described. She had just reached the point where things were just a bit too difficult to manage on her own alone. I think she was there at the home maybe a day and she passed away. 99 years old--a few months shy of her centennial here.

Some things are just too hard to understand. You have my deepest sympathy. Grandparents are the people we most often wish would outlive us.

I'm so sorry for your loss of your grandmother...doesn't matter how old she was it hurts just the same. I hope you can find a peace with your feelings about your family members. I pray for God to wrap you in His comfort and ease your suffering... Grandma's are so special. I'm so sorry for you, and I hope you're able to get through this without any arthritis junk, loading you down. It sounds like she had a good, long life. It's great that she was so active, for so long. It's so painful to lose someone you love dearly.

In my family, no one was able to care for my grandfather when he felt he could no longer live on his own. But he seems pretty happy now, he's 94 and half the time doesn't realize where he is- sometimes he thinks he's in a train station in England, or a school, or an airport. He'll say he's just come down from the mountains or from the Iroquois Falls. He's always having adventures, never leaves the building!

I do hope you can resolve your issues with your family. That must be an added stress on you.

With my deepest sympathies~
Aud
So sorry about your grandmother's passing. My sympathies are with you and your family at this difficult time. I lost my grandma in 1996 and miss her still to this day. We were close. I miss her hugs. She gave the best hugs, she was big and soft and easy to hug.

I feel for you. Hang in there!

Sorry for your loss.Thank you everyone.

I feel bad cuz i am the only grandchild that won't be at the funeral and we have an extremely large family. She had 6 kids and they had an average of 3 or more kids each, my mom had 6.

Thanks again, your kind words do help :)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'ts hard not to feel guilty not to be able to go to your Grandmother's funeral, but it truly is ok. I couldn't make it to either one of my Grandma's, but I realize now, I didn't have to be there to share in the memories. It's true that your sadness will eventually fade into "remember whens..." Please take care of yourself.I am so sorry for your loss. My father in law passed away a week ago today and it was a complete suprise. He went in to the er last wednesday night with a blood clot in his leg. We were there for hours and they ran a bunch of tests and said everything would be ok. We left at 3 am to go home get some sleep and he passed 10 minutes later from a ruptured aorta. He was only 65.

I am very sorry to hear about your Grandma and hope that you can find some comfort. My children are having a very rough time dealing with Grandpa's death right now. I think that with parents and grandparents it doesn't really matter your age or theirs it just hurts like hell because you loved them so much.

You are in my thoughts and prayers!

reegie2008-08-07 07:10:42I am so very sorry for you loss, it is always hard. Especially when you know it was not a health issue but rather from depression to be with her family.

So Sorry.