I have wonderful friends who are supportive of my RA condition. I have trouble with curbs and getting in and out of cars, but I can still get around without too much trouble. I am just slower than I used to be. When I go out with my friends, someone always says "I admire for you for getting out and coming with us." I don't quite get this. Am I supposed to never leave the house? One of the hardest parts of this disease for me is losing my independence. I try not to be a drag and I don't think they think I am. I really don't want help with things I can do my self and i wish they wouldn't fuss over me. Maybe I am being more dependent than I think. They always encourage me to go with them. Does anyone else have this problem? I guess I should be more appreciative, and I am. I just don't see why they "admire" me for going out. anniemax, feel very grateful that your friends care for you so very much. I for one have no friends to coax me out. I don't think you're being to independant at all and as I see it they are in aw of what you can do. So, get on out there and have as much fun as you can!Snow Owl.. what a great response!!