Well, I finally did it. I told daughter that she could not join the "dance company" at her dance school. I said that I could not do three nights a week taking her to dance, traveling for competitions every other weekend, taking son to soccer two nights a week and taking each of them to their religious ed. night classes. She was OK with it. I capitalize again - OK - with it!! I was shocked. I could kick myself for trying to figure out how the heck to deal with their schedules and stressing about them. I told her she can take as many dance classes as she wants as long as they end no later than 9pm. No travel to other local statesmor counties for competitions. Son's soccer is close by too and husband can take him to that on Sundays while I take daughter to her confirmation classes. Son's soccer practices are literally 6 blocks from my home and I actually ASKED someone to carpool with me. This is all new to me as I hate hate hate asking for help or being perceived as weak. I had a total meltdown w/husband this weekend and his big argument was that I don't communnicate w/him. He said I lead him to believe that all is fine yet inside I"m stewing, brewing and angry and pushing myself too hard to get it all done. I sort of feel ok but I still feel sorry about not letting daughter do her "company". She did tell me - on the positive - that she wants to go to her guidance counselors office tomorrow, get her working papers and apply for a job in town after school. Bravo????i'm glad you and the husband cleared some air....