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Giving you a update on my daughter's breast cancer. She started chemo october 20 she was fine the first day of chemo but we are now going on the 3rd day and she is sick and has alot of pain in her back she said she feels like she has the bad flu but nothing helps the pain She said she can't eat because everything tastes really bad. I did tell her she has to eat to stay strong. 1 dose down 5 more to go. They are giving her very strong chemo because it was in limp noudes. I feel so helpless not being there for her. I am flying to charlotte NC oct. 31 to spend a week with her and maybe I will not come back home for a few weeks. It depends how I am doing with my RA. She has a son 3 years old so he is very active. And she is so tired. I told her she needs her rest to and to eat well if she can. I hope no one ever has to go threw this with there child. It is so hard. She has alot of people praying for her and that love her. We think of her everyday when we get up and go to bed.

I will add her to my prayers. Does she have anyone to help with her son? It would be nice if someone could take him in the afternoons to play with other kids and wear him out, so she can have a nice nap. Talk to her about maybe signing up for Meals on Wheels. Her dr. will have to sign her up, but someone will bring her a very nice hot lunch everyday and a bag lunch for dinner. I delivered them for a while when I lived on the east coast and loved it. It's really a great program and it won't cost her a thing. It's also a great way for someone to check on her daily. Praying for your daughter and family.  Has she tried broth and bread, my uncle lived off of that when he was on chemo.  My heart goes out to you and your daughter Joan. Praying for stregth and wellness for both of you.

Me too, Joan.

Will pray for her!!!!!!!!!Well, I know it's not a popular idea on this board, but in this situation I would highly recommend a puff of marijuana.

I hope the treatment is successful. How stressful and scary.Simple foods are best to get down when she is feeling like this.  Those envelopes of dry soup mix, a boiled potato (or baked), soft boiled or scrambled eggs, jello, ramen noodles, french toast with cinnamon and maple syrup.  She should let the doctor know if she is really sick because they can give her something for that.  I just thought of little tiny meatballs cooked in the oven and then a favorite gravy poured over them, something like a swedish meatball.
My Dad liked all kinds of cereals when he was doing chemo.
I hope she gets through this quickly.
AnnI talked to my daughter a hour ago. I check in on her everyday twice a day. I call her. Also she has a boy friend that is going to be a doctor. Cancer reseach. He has 7 years done and 3 years left. She told me tonight that she tought she could not go to chemo anymore because she can't stand the pain. And sickness she is very tired to. She said she is seeing double I think it's from the 3 chemo meds there giving her. I told her I know this is bad but Please hang in there for your family and son. I know she finally broke down and cryed. Oh god you just don't know how I feel. Sad and sick. I don't know how to make it better for her. All she says to me is mom you just don't know how bad it is. I do know and thats why my heart is breaking. She has 5 more dose left of chemo and 6 weeks of radition everyday.

One of the hardest things to do is to watch your child suffer. Especially when you are unable to make them feel better. Hang on- you will both get through it- just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep talking to us- we're here for you!

I am so sorry your daughter has to go through this, but tell her to hang on and it will get better.  The more protein she can eat the better.  It will keep her feeling stronger and help keep her blood count up.   That's important, because if her her blood count drops too much she will have to delay her treatments.   She should also stay in touch with her oncologist and give him information about how she is doing - he may need to modify how he gives her the treatments.

My prayers are also with you and your daughter. I know it's so hard to try to remain strong when you are feeling weaker than you have ever felt. But, you are right to encourage her to try to keep going for her son. As you know, we can do a lot for our children that we couldn't face if we only have ourselves to think about. Oh, I am so sorry that your family is having to deal with this. I feel so bad for your daughter. Please please go and stay with her until she gets done with the chemo. It is so important that she finish. There are meds she can take like Zofran for the nausea and make sure she gets some pain meds. Maybe just being there will help her get through it. It is so hard for her with a three year old.   Keep reminding her to take it one day, one hour at a time and there are better days a head. She needs to keep her nutrition up while on chemo. Make her food that sounds good to her and encourage her to eat even if she is not hungry. Make sure she is rinsing her mouth several times a day with saline rinse to prevent sores. If she gets the mouth sores, she is less likely to eat as it is very painful. Good luck and keep us posted. Hugggs, LoriI'm so sorry for your daughter and your family.  It's especially tough when you're far away.  The 31st is not too far away.  Tell her to hang on and you'll be there soon.   Prayers being sent your way. I am so sorry for your daughter and your family.  I will keep you all in my prayers.  Tell your daughter to eat her food with plastic forks and spoons.  Metal silverware makes the food taste funny when you are on chemo.  My cousin is a nurse who works in oncology and told me that.  I hope it helps.Like Lorster said, her MD can prescribe anti nausea medication for her that will help. She needs to tell him how much pain she is in, that needs to be addressed too. If she can't eat or drink as you know she will become dehydrated, she needs to tell the doctor if she can't eat or drink, they can give her an IV and rehydrate her if it comes to that. I see people all the time that come to the ER who are on chemo and just can't keep anything down. I'm glad you're going to be with her, it will give you more of a sense of control and youcan be really helpful to her despite your physical limitations due to RA. Who doesn't want their mom when they're sick? You and your family will be in my thoughts :) Wendy Joan - lots of healing thoughts and prayers being sent your way and to your daughter.  My good friend is an RD and she says the trick to cancer treatment is to keep them eating.  Even if its banana ice cream at 2am, go find it.  Anything, absolutely anything that she can tolerate, like Ensure.  Just tell her to keep eating no matter what.  Take care and I hope your trip goes well for you.  Cathy
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