i seriously had no idea i would tick off as many people as i did when i said goodbye. and i said it because i'd already started talking to people here, and talking to them about different forums with interests outside of RA, hobbies, mutual interests.. so i did have an investment here and without this place i wouldn't have learned more, felt more comfortable aggressively seeking treatment and a more prompt appointment with rheumy.
that's why i logged on today, to say thanks. saw rheumy today, got appointment bumped up a month. on meds, better pain management. in the last week+ i've managed to communicate with my loved ones better and found many great and informative resources. logged on to say thank you. the board was a bad fit, i watched multiple people i'd come to quickly like ripping each other apart verbally. if i didn't like all the parties involved i wouldn't have cared. but it's really confusing when people who are making a positive impact on my life are verbally ripping other people who are making a positive impact on my life. every person typing out messages on these forums is a real human, sitting on the other side of a screen. and i wouldn't feel comfortable in a room with people 'screaming' "you are all B****s" and i didn't feel great being on a forum where it seemed to be happening several times a day around the time that i joined. it doesn't mean that the caring, helpfulness and encouragement some people gave me here didn't mean a lot to me though. you can be ticked with me for saying goodbye. and yeah it wasn't a good fit at the time and i obviously wore out my welcome by saying anything about it. but it also improved the quality of my life so i logged back on to say thank you. i would have been miserable for an extra month waiting for an appointment if i hadn't found resources like this forum, i got saved a month of frustration and pain it looks like, so yeah, i logged back in to say thanks.
Glad things went well for you at the RD. You should stick around, as you can see the bickering is at a low point now. This board goes through phases. If you can handle that you'll get along fine here. :)I never meant to offend anyone with this post. I have deleted it.