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We got home late Friday night.
If a funeral can be pleasant, (or dare I even say it..fun?) thats how my sister's funeral was.. At one point we gave her a standing ovation..
The kids behaved absolutely perfectly.. Jakie slept through the service and Ally just sat quietly. Other times they talked with family, ate or just hung out.
My sister lived in the house I lived in as a child, nestled between 2 creeks that meet at the far end of their property.. So we played in the crick all morning long, then after the service and feast, we came back and played MORE in the crick..
The yard was full of the tents that family members slept in and dogs and cats ran around playing. One dog got into a porcupine, so 2 of my brothers were up til 4 am pulling quills.
3 of the cousins talked a bit, then my youngest brother spoke, (10 years older than I) then I spoke.. We just talked about memories etc, but I was also asked to read "When I am an Old Woman.." since according to my cousin I was the absolute most appropriate person to read it..
When we got home we saw that our handyman had assembled the big wooden playset for the kids.. They woke up and saw it when they looked out the window, and have been outside pretty much all day..
I will always miss her, but ya know we did the typical Pesko family funeral.. My sister wasn't there, she donated her body to the Albany Medical School.. ( we have not had the guest of honor at the last 10 pesko funerals.. all donated their bodies.
I'm sad, yeah.. but strangely enough..happy.. like I say.... LIFE IS GOOD!!..
Celebrations of life are a wonderful thing -- in my opinion (and I understand not for everyone) much better than formal funerals. After my dad's funeral I swore that nobody on "my watch" would be subjected to that (it was a travesty and really wanted to deck the minister). I have since conducted memorials for my mother, brother and husband and numerous friends. So much more personal - and i understand the "almost fun". Sorry for your loss, though, Kathy. Kathy, it sounds as if you have a wonderful family! I too believe in memorial services and I think that donating your body is a very nice thing to do. Who knows, it could save another loved one. I know that you will miss your sister, but Thank You for sharing your experience with us.
Kathy - It sounds like a perfect funeral. A great way to celebrate your sister's life. I think she loved it and I cannot think of a better way to honor a loved one. Welcome home.
I am certain you will miss her but it is obvious you have wonderful memories.
Kathy, what a beautiful way to honor life! I know your sister would be proud of her family. Your outlook is an inspiration Kathy, thank-you for sharing with us.
What a wonderful way to celebrate your sister's life. I agree totally that celebrations are so much more civil than funerals. I want a bluegrass band, feasting, dancing and maybe a tear here and there. Glad you're back to your home safe. Take care. LindyI agree..lovely way to honor your sister's life.
Hope you're doing ok, Kathy.
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