Thank you Starperson! I've been reading some of the posts and have already learned alot.
I'm so glad to have stumbled upon this forum.
Hello! Glad you found us, but sorry for the reason you needed to.
What treatment is your husband on? How long has he been diagnosed? How was he diagnosed?
Best wishes, Shug
Welcome to the board. Sorry you have to be here. Sorry to hear about your husbands DX.
Welcome to the forum!
I am the one with RA but my husband is my care giver. I can tell you what he does for me that helps me through all this mess my body is going through.
He listens. He knows I know that there is not one thing to do to make it better but he listens to everything-good or bad-happy or sad. He goes to every doctors appointment with me and he has educated himself about this disease and knows the right questions to ask. He holds me when I cry. He gets up with me at night when the pain is so bad I can't sleep even though he has to work the next day. He has slowed to my pace and never pushes me beyond what I can do. Most of all, he is there. He loves me and makes me feel like I am the only person in this world.
Just be there for him and be his biggest cheerleader! Hope all goes well but keep in touch and ask questions. There is not a stupid question when it come to RA. Come here and scream when YOU can't stand it any longer. It will be tough on you as well. You will go through all this with him and it will be hard on you. Take care of yourself-he is going to need you.
He was diagnosed several weeks ago although he's had the symptoms for months now. He originally went to our family doctor who diagnosed him with gout. When the "gout" never went away he eventually recommended a Rheumatologist who diagnosed the RA. He was on Prednisone but the doctor recently put him on Methotrexate because the Prednisone was causing kidney stones. Poor guy cant seem to win for losing right now.......
Anyways....thank you for the welcome! I look forward to learning all I can about RA and what I can do to help him live his life to the fullest. He has always been so active and full of life. I hate to see anything curtail that!
Thank you so much ToBePainFree! I am and always will be my husbands biggest fan! Listening is what I do best and the learning is what I'm looking for. You have already been a bigger help than you know and am exactly why I am here!
MrsJdt2009-07-13 10:44:50Hi and Welcome. I was dx in Nov of 1991. What I can tell you without a doubt in my mind that you have already done the most valuable thing and that is to love him enough to care that this is happening to him. Many of we singles out here and all of us divorce's would give nearly anything to have a supportive spouse through this painful and heartwrenching journey.
It will get better, then it will get worse as it ebs and flows year after year. Make certain you have a Rheumatologist that is willing to "listen" and willing to try the new meds after all other meds have been tried. It may take awhile to find the medication that works for you.
You will get a lot of help on this board, this board is filled with RA and fibro inflicted people that have been through *ell and back with this disease so there is a lot of experience, insight and knowledge from individuals taking the time to help out.
Good luck and glad you found AI.
Hello and welcome. I have to agree that the best thing you can do for your husband is be there for him. My hsband and I have been together for 16 years and he's wonderful. He can't do a lot for me except picking up my slack. Your husband will have good times and bad, he should try to be active during his good and rest during the bad. You will get lots of wonderful support here, I know I have. Take care.hello Mrs.
Welcome to our board..... Your husband is a lucky man... I know.. I'm a lucky woman ;) and have the love and support of a good husband. It makes alot of difference when your spouse, friends, and family try to understand and help.
Best to you.
How are things going for you and your husband today?
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