As you all know the last week or so on AI has not been very pleasant at all!!! I for one want to make all the hard feelings between members to go away. I propose we all take an oath. The oath goes as follows;
I promise to be more cosiderate of my fellow members on AI, that I will think before I post something that will hurt another member's feelings, but if I do post and it does hurt another member, that I will apoligise. If I am the member whose feelings were hurt that I will be gracious enough and accept their apology. we are here to be each others support and cheering section. We are here to hold each others hand when the time is needed.we are AI!!!
Let us all take this oath and from this day on we start anew. xoxox memeI completely agree with your oath meme. Good concept. I
realize that much of what has been happening here lately is ancient
history repeating itself, so let me predict: it won't be the ones who
genuinely agree with the oath that will be the problem. I thought
that, as a group, we too came up with a very good set of ground rules
to live by. But someone felt it was just a "protocol" that she
didn't have to live by, even though she had agreed to abide by them. Meme, No disrespect to you..what you're trying to do is very nice, but it's a fact of life that there will be people that just will not get along with others. We all have people that we don't like or just tolerate. It hapens all the time. I believe Roxy has done very well here trying to be supportive to anyone that needs help. She's also been extremely tolerant of the rude posts of the people that basically ran her off RAFriends. Why they have to keep this going only shows how childish they are and I believe most people here have seen that. Even the post claiming to be supportive or apologetic are nothing but attemps to further harass Roxy. I'm sure most here are not that stupid...we can see through this nonsense. These people will continue no matter what anyone says, so let them...let them show what they are all about. I for one find it rather sad that some people have such empty lives. Kind of reminds me of the bullies we all used to see at school when we were kids. Every school had them. That poor kid that didn't like himself so he had to make someone else feel bad to make himself feel better. As a kid I hated those kinds of kids, but as an adult I feel sorry for them because they have such horrible lives...very sad. Roxy's a strong person..there's no doubt about that. I'm sure she can handle what these people have to dish out. After all, they are just words. At RAFriends I felt bad for Roxy. What happened over there was rotten. I've changed how I feel though...it's Joonie I feel bad for and the others that hide behind different names. Kelly Irish and Kelly I am putting this post here to ask this nonsense be stopped. I am tired of coming to this site and see people going "well it is this person's fault or that person's fault" for the pettiness. I hate to say it but there is too much blame going around and the blame game has become really tiring. I guess it isn't going to stop because people can't be grown up enough to say enough is enough. Someone's got to keep putting in the last jab the last hateful word, how sad. I know there are two sides to every story, BUT I AM TIRED OF HEARING THE SAME STORY OVER AND OVER!! SO PLEASE I DON'T CARE FOR ANYMORE RESPONSES, JUST PLEASE TAKE A MOMENT AND THINK OF WHAT MY EARLIER POST IS SAYING AND AGREE THAT IT IS TIME TO MOVE FORWARD. I remain respectively a friend to you all. meme Hi Meme, I know you said you didn't want any further posts to this subject but ironically I feel compelled to reply. I joined AI back in July of 2005 and it was very supportive for me when I needed support the most. I met a lot of really nice people here, Joonie, Roxy, Kelly, Dave, Lovie, mags (murphette) and quite a few others too. When RAF first opened up, I admit I did not spend a lot of time posting here anymore, but I always checked back and read everyone's knowlegeable posts. I find this board to be informative and compassionate but it lacks the "play pen" that we have over at RAF and that's what I like. The jovial nature of that board. Please don't get me wrong, I really like this board too. I have been catching everything that has been going on here of late and it is very sad. I have not said anything because I don't want to get involved and pass judgements on others that may hurt their feelings. I believe that it is life's protocol that if you don't have anything nice to say... then don't say anything at all. But that is just me, call it my sunshiny nature, some people may take offense to that nature, but nevertheless..that is me. If you have a point to make, then do it with taking the other person's feelings into consideration, apologize in advance if you think you may offend somebody, because we are all so very different. We will always meet people in life who enjoy the "drama" or consider themselves "victims" but this is a message board that hopefully provides support and laughter to our fellow members. I can't guarantee that I will post here often but I know I will always check in and see how everyone is doing and hopefully pick up some words of wisdom or support. I have no problem taking the oath, it's an oath I live by in my regular everyday life anyways. I think it's a good idea meme, and thank you for starting this thread. I'm sorry If I seem out of line for not respecting your latest wish, but like I said, this is one time I felt I needed to respond. Roxy, I'm sorry but I just have to say one thing. At the time when you left RAF I was going through a very busy time and I didn't get the chance to visit often, so I missed a lot of what was happening to you. I read your last post...your "goodbye" post and I was confused, I thought you left of your own free will. I understand now that you were having problems at the board and I'm sorry for that. I hope you're doing well. Once again, I'm sorry meme. Jackie.
Meme~ I appreciate your effort Sweetheart. I had just about decided to stop posting all together. I'm so saddened by the current events that are happening. I have grown so close to so many here and at RAF as well. The continued referral to RAF and the problems that have arrose here sickens me. There are more than 300 active members over there and these problems that are currently going on are between a small group and I for one am very tired of us all being grouped in together when that is just NOT the case. Dave; I could not agree more with what you have said. It's a shame. Just a shame what has become of a select few. If those involved only realized how their actions are affecting others that they have considered friends I honestly believe this could all be put to a stop. The ones that are affected the worse you have not heard from. They are the devoted members that have been the most supportive and the most caring toward everyone of our members. You have not heard from them because they have far more class than to participate in such childish behavior. These that I refer to no longer even visit here and this is what upsets me the most. We have asked continuously for those involved to please take their snide comments and constant bickering out of the public forum....but it's obvious that some simple do not respect the request of others. I will not be leaving here....or RAF for that matter. I depend on the support of so many here; I will not however be commenting on any of this foolish behavior and I advise others to follow in this example. It has already been shown that when disrespectful comments go unrecognized they quickly disappear into the background. The more comments made the worse things get for everyone. Again; Meme~I'd like to thank you for your suggested pledge and I for one pledge to follow it. I hope others will as well. I'll be around....Although likely not very active on the boards until this storm blows over. If anyone wishes to talk to me you can always send me a PM. I do check that on a regular basis. I don't want to get into trouble by posting, but I've made an observation here. I see apologies by various posters but no efforts to for other parties to say "I accept your apology, let's put it all behind us and go forward". Mom always said it takes two to tango and I can see that here. There are people aplogizing and extending an olive branch, but no one on the other side to take it. Until it goes both ways, I don't think this will end.
Meme, I applaud your efforts in trying to make peace. I rarley come to this forum anymore, my time is better suited doing other things at other sites. I hope that one day peace will return. Mike Oh Good another junk food friend
Let the hamnugers roll...and the FF too.
So I was shocked, felt betrayed, taken advantage of, and finally, after being told to "get off" my "high horse", I was educated
I felt sad for those who were looking for true support then, as I am
saddened for them in the present situation. Then, there was
moderation, which was childlishly referred to as "censorship" rather
than simply trying to protect those who genuinely wanted support, not
vendication. Here, apparently there will be no "censorship", so
we will all have to watch and pray it turns out better than before.
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