I'm always sick | Arthritis Information

it seems like im almost always sick or having some weird health problems, almost always

btw i also have a problem with my heart

and my left lung never developed

oh and i got psoriasis too, so im super sick

ALL THE TIME

why me????

Oh Star sometimes it is hard not to ask why me. You have been through so much in such short period of time. Your little body has seen its share of illness.

It seems that I have always been sick throughout my life also. I get over one thing and then another comes along. It get to the point where I don't know how it feels to not be sick. My daddy was a minister and I was raised in a Christian home and my belief in God is very strong. Daddy and I talked about this so many times and when I would ask "why me" he would answer with "why not you". That is one thing I have come to terms with. I believe that God has a plan and my illness is part of that plan. Maybe Star, you and I are going to be able to help someone else through our illnesses. I understand that there are so many people that do not believe the way I do and maybe what I have said sound stupid but this is the way I cope with being sick.

It is not fair Star that you should have the troubles in your life at 14. My son is 28 and I can not imagine what your parents feel watching you go through all of this. I get be side myself when he get the flu or a cold!!!

I wish I had some anwers for you and could make since of all this stuff you have to indure on a daily basis but I can't. What I can do is pray for you Star and I will and I do eveyday. I say a prayer for everyone on this site everyday that they will have a less painful day and their stresses be lessened.

I do hope you have a great day today Star and thing start smoothing out for you.

StarPerson121, I offer you a challenge to test the theory that attitude counts. Begin by asking yourself some basic question and answering them with absolute honesty:
Why is what other people _think_ about me so important?
Is how I look, physically, a true reflection of who I am, at heart?
Am I truly always sick, or have I had some rather routine childhood illnesses and accidents and some less than routine illnesses in puberty?
Are my illnesses a descriptor of me? Of who I am and what I am?

Now, for the challenge—for ten days think about attitude, and ask yourself how a change of attitude might change the course of your day. Begin each day by making a positive statement about the day and about you. Although positive affirmations have been the source of laughter in comedic sketches, the practice actually has a great many good points.
[Quote=Rheumatoid Arthritis: keeping a Positive Outlook] There's good scientific evidence that a positive attitude is necessary for optimal physical health.
It's the mind-body connection. As studies have shown, your state of mind is an essential element in your health and well-being.[/quote]

Realistic optimism…a concept that has come of age, so to speak, for each of us who has a chronic illness. However, like much of the rest of life, chronic illnesses have an ebb and flow: sometimes pain and discomfort at high, other times, mid-level, and at other times is seems as if the illness has vanished. Rather than looking at the negative side of your question, “i wonder whats gonna happen next...” Slightly alter your attitude, and your perspective, and ask, “What wondrous thing is going to happen now?”

The second part of the challenge: during the ten days, do not seek approval from anyone but yourself; do not focus on how badly you feel, but rather on how good you could feel with a brisk walk in the sunshine, thirty minutes of exercising in the pool, or simply sitting on the grass beneath a tree and listening to the music the breeze creates as it moves through branches and leaves. How many different species of birds can you hear, see, identify?

There are literally hundreds of WWW sites that discuss the body-mind connection, realistic optimism, and how one’s attitude colours how they feel and how they behave. Use your favourite search engine to seek out more than a few and read what some people have experience by simply changing their mind, their attitude.

To paraphrase JasmineRain, count your blessings each day, NOT your curses. Surely you have some blessings, say eh?
ooh a challenge, so i wanna try it

gonna be hard, to be positive all the time

for 10 whole dayz

Star~If you're going to do it....do it. You started off right there negative. First you'll have to understand what positive is. You can't say I'll be positive for 10 days but it will be hard. You have to say "I'll be positive and I have the power to do it!"

Great post Spelurker. Fantastic advice. I'm a huge believer in positive thinking. We can't change the things that happen to us.....but we can change the way we react to them. My favorite book of all times is The Power of Positive Thinking. I read that when I was younger and I still practice it on a regular basis. It's human nature to be negative....sometimes it takes more work to be positive but it's well worth it to put forth the effort. You'll find this to be your best tool in all aspects of your life.

As you drift off to sleep each night fill your head with NOTHING but positive thoughts. Add this to your 10 day challenege: "Tomorrow is going to be a great day! I can handle anything that comes my way. I'm strong, smart, healthy, attractive. My healthy issues will not run my life....I will run my healthy issues. I'll stay positive no matter what's happening around me" Add anything to it that you wish your life was and keep doing it everyday. Over time you'll find things getting better and better for you.

This is great advice for anyone here that is being pulled down by negativity. Focusing on our problems only makes them worse. We have far more power in our lives than we realize.

so u think positive too?

does everyone??

Why does it matter what "everyone" does or does not do? The challenge was issued to you, in a very specific and succinct way.

You seemed to have accepted the challenge, but with negative reservations. Then your very next post re: going bowling was filled with negativity...

Your realistic optimism seems to be stuck below the horizon in some bog of perpetual complaint. I am beginning to think that you do not have any blessings in your life. Is it true that you are simply cursed without any light or positive expectation or optimism?

Poor boy, poor lad. To be mired so far down in the bog at your tender age borders on the tragic. How CAN you alter your attitude, your point of view, your perspective, your expectations????

I too read the Power of Positive Thinking when I was younger. It probably had a bigger impact on me than anyone or anything else in developing. I've tried to live my life with positive thought. Positive thought allowed me to be successful in all aspects of my life. You can't banish negative thinking entirely but you can learn to work with the negatives so they don't rule your life or thought. There's so much more positive in life than negative. Lindywell, we could always make a list of postive things that have happened to me

so lets begin:

i get good grades, mostly

i got lots of electronic stuff, like a ipod touch, a wii, a xbox360. a DSi, PSP and a cell phone, and more

my parents seem to care about me

alot of ppl like me

i had a boyfriend for almost a whole month, before he broke up with me

and i quickly got another one

uh, im running out of positives, but atleast i listed a few

Ok~Let's go ahead and mention it....because so many of us here will obviously be thinking the same thing; Are you gay Star? I don't know about everyone else; but I have a few questions to ask you about that if that's the case; if you're comfortable with it. I wonder how this part of your life effects so many other things in your life. This might not be the right place to talk about that stuff.....and I'll leave that up to you.

Positive Thinking unfortunately does not come as second nature to the majority of us. You have to train yourself to do it....and even those of us that have been practicing it for a while have to work at it.

I've always had things in my life that happen to me where I tend to feel sorry for myself and feel like I can't ever catch a break. Quite often theose things seem to come in waves. What I've learned over the years (Or what I choose to believe) Is when I have something bad happen, at times I'll start worrying over it. Obsessing almost. During those times it never fails....more bad things will happen. It's always been my belief that this stress, that worry, that negitivity has only brought on more trouble, more problems.....more disappointment. I'll learned to spot the negativity in my life and quickly counter act it with something positive, even if it's just a positive image I'll repeat in my head often. I might be getting too deep here and I might be going over your head; and I'm sure there's other (very obvioulsy adults) that don't agree, but this is just a structure that I've choosen to build my life around now. It helps me cope with all the things that happen around me that very often are totally out of my control.

You're on the right track about listing the positives....but just let them be positive. Don't follow them up with a; "But". Just let them be positive.

yup im gay

hmmm, im gonna think of more positive stuff

altho its easier to list the negative stuff

but im gonna be thinkin about it

and when i got more

i'll add them to the list

I've never known anyone who was openly gay at your age. I know adults who have struggled with acceptance of who they are and at times it makes their life very difficult. I hope that that's not the case for you.

I'm sure if you think about it you can list lots of positive things in your life. Even if their small things....count them.

the blood didnt hurt so much today

until they took the needle out

then it hurt a little bit

im super tired today, waking up at 5:20

which wouldnt be so bad, except for the fact that i wake up during the night

4 times last night, thats more than usual, usually its twice and maybe 3 sometimes

im so hungry, my tummy feels empty

weird thing is, i have a tummy ache before i eat, cuz im hungry

and after i eat i get a different tummy ache, even tho i just ate

so idk, my tummy is messed up i guess...

Sometimes if we eat too much of the wrong stuff that happens.

Take a nap!! Wish I could.

thats what my grandma sayd

she was here a few minutes ago, cuz my mom went to the doctor

and my grandma sayd i should take a nap, maybe

so my mom went to the doctor, and now she has to check her blood pressure every day at random times

she used to have high blood pressure, so she has a pill to lower it, right

yeah so now a new pill she's takin makes her blood pressure really low

so she has to check it now

i checked mine, on her machine

and my blood pressure is high

but, it usually is high at the doctor's so im not suprised

Sometimes everyones can be elevated when we go to the doctor if we get a little nervous or something but if yours is routinely high it might be a concern.

[QUOTE=StarPerson121] well, i'll just have to try and be more positive tommorow

im sure it'll be easy to do

(i think that was a positive atitude type thing)

Star, you are a guy who likes poetry and such so I am posting this because I thought it might touch you the way it did me. It's a Miley Cyrus song, and I'm not a fan of hers particularly, but the lyrics of this song are wonderful:

I can almost see it
That dream I'm dreaming but
There's a voice inside my head sayin,
You'll never reach it,
Every step I'm taking,
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking but I
Got to keep trying
Got to keep my head held high

There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes I'm gonna to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

The struggles I'm facing,
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes they knock me down but
No I'm not breaking
I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I'm going to remember most yeah
Just got to keep going
And I,
I got to be strong
[ Miley Cyrus Lyrics are found on www.songlyrics.com ]
Just keep pushing on, cause

There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes I'm gonna to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes you going to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

Keep on moving
Keep climbing
Keep the faith baby
It's all about
It's all about
The climb
Keep the faith
Keep your faith

Can anyone say Chris Hanson? I'm not sure that this forum or any forum is the right forum for strangers to discuss sex or sexuallity with a thirteen or fourteen year old boy. I'm sure that no one here would want their underage daughter disussing sex or sexuallity with a 40 year old internet stranger. No offense, but I think some of you women need to check yourselfs. You may be embarrassingly part of a documentary or have Chris Hanson knocking on your door. It's strange that so many older women seem to have so much in common and such an attachment to a fourteen year old boy.

LEV

oh hillhoney ive heard that song before, cant say i liked it lol

i remember tho, on the last day of school

my whole class just randomly started singing it, and some ppl were even cryin

i sorta miss some of my school pplz, even tho they annoy me so much

ooh so had the diabetes lady call today

and now i NEVER have to call her

unless my blood goes over 200, so im free-er

yay, lol

i still gotta be careful tho (obviously)...

i cant eat sugary things yet...

i hope i can soon tho

he's a person who was on TV

and he did a show where he catched pedophile type ppl

thats what i figured out, idk maybe theres more...

so anyways, i kept my blood good tonight, it was only 140

yay, im ok still, startin the week with low numbers

I agree. That was all me and I wish I hadn't mentioned it at all. It's not appropreate and I apoligze to Star and will not discuss that moving forward.

That's my favorite Miley Cyrus song though and I think that's most approprate here and I think that was and great idea to post that. It's great advice for a kid like Star....and even the rest of it.

Again; Star, I'm sorry.

aww Lovie dont be sorry

u didnt do anything terrible

whatever ur sorry for, its ok

altho i wasnt mad or sad

J.R.~ Chris Hanson is from "to catch a predator" on dateline (I think it is dateline).

I think the bigger question is....where are star's parents and why in the heck is he so involved on a board where the participants are much, much older? I also think there is an odd attachment amongst some on here with Star, but I firmly believe it comes from a place of geniune concern rather than anything else.

Phats

I think Star comes in here, because, we listen and understand, He gets answers to his questions. No matter what the age, we all need to wine or just talk sometimes. Some more then others. Other teens go on with their lifes, they don't want to hear it. Most older people don't want to hear it, they have problems of their own. I am trying to figure out why a 14 yr old is hanging out on a support borad with adult men and women. I have a 13 yr old and he isnt into adults or their conversations. dramaSome of us are meant to suffer more than others. Luck of the draw I guess. But, I think We are made tougher than other people because of it. Everyone here is right. The stronger your immune system and the attitude can change the way the arthritis effects you. listen to your body, if it needs rest....make sure you get the rest. Good for you Star! I never had dates in school! was that person puttin spam in my thread? that didnt even have anything to do with what we're talking about. (u know what i mean, the last post on page 3, the LONG one)

This gets very off topic, so u dont gotta read it if u dont wanna.

u never had dates in school, oh. that mustve not been so fun. well, i think dating ppl is awesome. most ppl i know have bf's or gf's. i had two boyfriends this year. the first one didnt last so long, after he found out i was sick, he was gettin annoyed and didnt like me anymore, so he broke up with me.

the second one, im still dating, i havent talked to for a month or so. idk, he was going on a trip to another country for the summer, so he probably aint back yet. he never answers his phone, ugh...

maybe i should get a bf thats my age, i always get the older ones, which seems like they'd break up with me more likely. my bf right now, he turned 16 a while ago. but the problem is, there's no guys my age.

End of off topicness, lol.

so im going swimming today, yay. do u HAVE to wait an hour after u eat, cuz of cramps. or can u skip the hour, just wonderin...

ive already waited 40 minutes, so its almost time... i hope my friend doesnt bring her dolphin floaty, i hate it. i got a cool shark one, and its awesome. i hate the water, so super cold, but my mom's makin us use the pool, ugh...

this was all so off topic...

[QUOTE=levlarry]Can anyone say Chris Hanson? I'm not sure that this forum or any forum is the right forum for strangers to discuss sex or sexuallity with a thirteen or fourteen year old boy. I'm sure that no one here would want their underage daughter disussing sex or sexuallity with a 40 year old internet stranger. No offense, but I think some of you women need to check yourselfs. You may be embarrassingly part of a documentary or have Chris Hanson knocking on your door. It's strange that so many older women seem to have so much in common and such an attachment to a fourteen year old boy.

LEV

[/QUOTE]

I was wondering the same thing to some in PM.......

at first, i was wondering who Chris Hanson was, but i soon found out

what im wondering is... why was a person puttin spam on my thread???? AND i noticed ALOT of other spammers too, they annoy me. cuz theyre meanies and dont even care, they just wanna sell their stuff.

at least thats what i think... maybe

Star this isn't the place to talk about your sex life, You should not be on line or in any chat room talking about it. If you have been with someone that is 16 or older and you just turned 14. That was too young. You are going to get hurt or DEAD. You need help, be it a Chris Hanson or a parent, Do they know whats going on? You are way to young to be haveing any kind of sex with older people or young ones. Please take care of yourself. it wasnt me who started mentioning anything

when u think about it, Lovie had asked if i was gay

i answered her

then that last post, was sorta related to what jannabelle2001 had sayd

about never having dates

so it wasnt really what i was tryin to talk about

if u remember this thread was ORIGANALLY about me

complaining about all of my various health issues, not about sex and guys ok

so it just went that way, idk how

first, it was about me being so sick

then it went to having a positive attitude

somehow we went to talking about sexual orientation and things like that

this is gettin weird...

IF you get aides or an std, you will be a lot sicker then you are now......TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF. People are arrested very day for hurting children, You cannot and should not trust people on the internet or any where else, get to know a person before you trust them. Be safe. Don't let people use you.

PS: for some reason I thought you where 12 and turned 13 in July? Did you change your age or did I read it wrong?

wilma2009-07-28 20:04:58 [QUOTE=StarPerson121]it wasnt me who started mentioning anything Well I don't know why any of that matters, and I don't know why it bothers anyone that Star is here. He came looking for advice and support. That's what this forum is for, isn't it? Amen Karen!It dosen't bother me, I think he's a cute kids, thats the prolem, he a kid, I don't want to see him hurt. He has arthritis and this is a arthritis board, so he should be welcome here. He should be able to chat in here about differance things, just not this, We all know what can happen to him.Wilma's not totally off base here..

She has concerns for Star's safety.... and on the internet.... someone can represent themselves to be one of a bunch of things....

Do not give out any personal information to anyone on this internet board or any other.....

IT is not safe to be too trusting.

Just be careful...

Yes; I did ask if you were gay because it threw me a little when you mentioned your boyfriend. Looking back now it was VERY inapproprate for me to have mentioned anything at all and I did apoligize; but I'll do so again. I'm sorry to have brought anything up about that at all. That's no ones business but your own. Star never mentioned anything about sex. Nothing at all.

We've all heard the horror stories about the internet and it's not just with kids; it happens much too often with adults too. Theres are two teenage girls missing right now and they think it could be internet related. It's scary. I think everyone is just worried about you Star and warning you to be careful.

Lovie2009-07-29 08:05:37i know, Lovie

ur right

everyone's just warnin me

and thnx for apologizing again