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Just need prayers and good thoughts on this one. IT is a really weird feeling, never thought it would come to all this.Ex-hubby and I agreed we didn't want to be bestest friends with her and daughter can do as she chooses.

Just please send me some prayers and good thougths, I am so weary of my worl being turned upside down all the time.
jodeHow wonderful for you daughter! I have a friend who birthed a child and gave that child up for adoption. Nearly 40 years later that child made contact and it has been a joy for both of them and the child's mother has joined in and the trio have made several holiday trips and are all fast friends and support one another. It truly is a family affair.

Best wishes, good thoughts, and joy for all of you. Shug
It has been a true joy for my daughter. I am still trying to wrap my head around it. It is good, do not get me wrong, it is just that I just do not have the energy anymore for all this.

It is difficult when you are single and on your own navigating through all this. Now if I were with Tim, it would be so much better, he would be a good support for her and be excited for her as well and help guide me through all this.Sending prayers and good thoughts to all involved!

I'm sensing that you are not all that thrilled about this Jode. I may be filling in the missing spaces with facts that are not accurate, but it seems to me you adopted your daughter and are having a hard time accepting that she searched and found her birth mother. I've done a lot of work in the field of adoptions and know this is an issue when kids get curious in their late teens or early adulthood. Please keep in mind that you are the one who has been "mommie" for all the years and nothing can change that. I know it's hard to deal with stuff like this as well as all the problems with health that we all have to deal with. I'm single also and sometimes wish I had a husband or partner to lean on when things go sideways - which, for me, is frequently. If I can be of help to you, feel free to contact me. Also, I'm sure you can find many web sites that deal with the birth parent issue and you'll probably find lots of support there to help you "wrap your head around it." Hope this helps.I am fine with all this and very excited for her and anxious to meet her birthmom and to learn all the info that I am questioned for so many years. It is just sort of a shock still is all. I am ok with it an dgetting used to the idea. I was rather surprised by my reaction to be truthful...but have always wanted to meet her.

It just feels a bit weird right now, and exciting at the same time.

My daughter wants us to all be really close friends and that is what I am having trouble with, perhaps when me meet it will be better. I am truly excited though, for both of them, her birthmom has waited many years for this.When is your daughter supposed to meet her birth mom? My sister adopted a son as an open adoption when he was first born. His birth mother and father were both entitled to see him once a year for a visit. His mother continued that until she moved out of town. I don't think his birth father ever did make a visit. His mother (my nephew's bio grandmother) always came to visit when she was in town or my sis would see her when she and son went to Hawaii. Hope things are all that your daughter expects.Hi Jode,
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