Geesh I am a bit frustrated. Besides the weather and RA, I attempt to learn about my dog in Indiana...but NO...TIm will nto give me any info on her shots, health...nothing.
FOr heavens sake I can remember this crap when I would try to get info about the kids from my exhusband...am I really that horrible of a person?????? He is the one that gave me a hard time. Oh well. I need to let it go but I cannot. Not sure if Nibby can make it through another winter and he is not buying the good food for the dogs, the other dog gets to go live in the house with his daughter and SIL and Nibs is just left there...had I known this is how it would have all ended up I would have put up with the stuff until it all blew over.
:(What a low life scum to do that to the dog because of your differences. I detest anyone who can be that cruel. I'll bet life with him was a real treat. You are better off without him. Sorry about your pet. Is there some way you can get it?
[QUOTE=jodejjr]Geesh I am a bit frustrated. Besides the weather and RA, I attempt to learn about my dog in Indiana...but NO...TIm will nto give me any info on her shots, health...nothing.[/quote]
Jode, I think (always a dangerous undertaking for me) that I understand your frustration and your angst. I admit to not being familiar with whom Tim is, but suppose he must be someone that you were involved with. IIRC, you have mentioned "your dog" in a couple of recent posts, however I am forced to wonder why you are contacting someone that you are obviously estranged from. It has been my experience that the alienation and separation that merge into estrangement is both based upon and results in a lack of being forthright and forthcoming. Refusal and reluctance is, at least for the most part, a direct consequence of separation, especially emotional and mental separation.
I certainly can empathize with your desire for information regarding your pet, but if it has been longer than a few weeks to a few months that you have not had direct physical control of your pet, expecting information on any level is most likely a lost cause. However, contact animal control and/or the sheriff's office in the locale where Tim and your dog are living and ask them to intervene if you suspect abuse or neglect.
[quote]FOr heavens sake I can remember this crap when I would try to get info about the kids from my exhusband...am I really that horrible of a person??????[/quote]
Knowing that it sounds harsh and accusatory, if you need to ask such a question then that question needs to be honestly examined for veracity, factual evidence, and attitude. At least sometimes, when women ask that, or a similar question, the truth and evidence lies in our lack of self-awareness, self-astuteness, self-control, and often a powerful lack of self-worth.
[quote]...had I known this is how it would have all ended up I would have put up with the stuff until it all blew over.
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I am sorry that you are feeling :( and suggest you find a disinterested party, preferable a counselor or therapist to guide you through the treacherous shallows, sandbars, shoals, and hurdles created, reinforced, and then enlarged by mind, imagination, and illusion. From the posts I have read from you over the past months, as well as some of your posts from the past, it seems you have had, and continue to have a very difficult time with your mother and sister. Is it possible that the "hard time" leaches out and over other relationships and circumstances?
I bid you best wishes for peace, contentment, and weather-wise forecasting; both of the natural world and of the world wherein our familial ties and relationships lie.
Cheers, Shug
Ahhh Shug, I am sure you mean well, I think.
I am certain this too will be in my past at some point. I have had to put up with a lot of crap these past couple years and you would think, assume, expect that one could at the very least learn how the dog is doing especially when you offer to pay for shots and vet. Most of the time a friend will call or write me to keep me updated. It is Hagarstown, everybody seems to know everybody elses business anyway.
The trees are sure pretty this time of year. THe Rheumatoid is sure painful this time of year. I did manage to get most of the weeding and transplanting done, why I do it I have no idea, guess cause the property was starting to look like crap.
Thanks!
momof2...yeah well....actually he was a very kind, loving, caring and well adjusted man for so long. I honestly do not know what turned him so darned bitter. Deep down he is a huge sweetheart, dunno why he decided to do what he did. He is truly "my person". Knew how to handle me, knew how to handle everything when I was in pain, understood and studied RA and fibro. A great problem solver, took life in stride, ignored bitter nad nasty gossip, ect. Must have been the other influences in his life. I just do not know. I used to think I was better off without him like you said, but, he is "my person" like I said. I could discuss anything with him, I miss that.....oh well, "there is a reason for everything" so they say...yeah right! Just venting as usual.
I truly thought since he would not let me take the dog that he would keep me posted, not to be though. Oh well. Yes, I could probably get Nibs , prob the change would be too extreme and difficult on her at this point. She just needs to be looked at by a vet to check where she got hit by the car and her shots, probably wormed and check for ticks and fleas, heartworm...ect.
Anyway..........It feels good to keep in touch with my son and his wife, she is a sweety! Now both the kids get along and call eachother often. Makes a mom feel pretty darned good!
[QUOTE=jodejjr]Ahhh Shug, I am sure you mean well, I think.
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Jode, I assure you that I would not have responded to your post if my intentions were anything other than well-meaning. If you need to think about what I said and doubt my meaning, that reflection may be worth examining further.
As has recently been pointed out in another topic, being supportive and encouraging is more than the usual tea and sympathy routine. At least on occasion being supportive is calling attention to our weaknesses, our tendencies, and how we present ourselves. I am as blunt as an old spoon and yes, I know that I tend to irritate and exasperate many members with my straightforward approach.
It has been my experience that irritation and exasperation are often the result of hitting a nerve too close to the truth of the situation. However, I also understand than very often we post simply seeking the tea and sympathy available. I very often fail in that regard, and it appears that this is one of those times.
Cheers, Shug
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