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crunchy- i hope you feel better! take a bath if you can, or drink some tea & go to sleep when you get home. and think good thoughts! be glad your mouth sores are getting better & not worse.

I got in my car and headed home. It was 3:30 in the morning. My legs were really hurting. I called my husband to tell him I was on my way. Even though he was sleepy on the phone, I told him about the baby, I told him about watching the heart beat for so long before it finally stopped. We hung up the phone. And I cried. Only for a minute. I suprised my self. I guess my heart still beats afterall.

I'm sitting here on my exercise bike while reading the posts and I have to tell you...that made me cry.  How could a mother do that?  Oh I dunno....I guess I haven't been in situations where I'm desperate enough to do anything so horrible so I certainly can't judge anyone.   It's just so sad. 

Thank you for the story Crunchy

Crunchy- she is being punished.  Her life must be terrible for her to do such a thing. It might be drugs, alcohol, or fear but  it's done and she will live with this for the rest of her life.  Her punishment  started the moment she walked away from the dumpster. 

I'm glad that you stayed with the baby and I'm glad that you cried  No one should die alone. 

 I spent 20 years as a surgical nurse and I understand how each and every medical person in that ER felt.  There's a human story like this everyday and you learn to turn it all off but every once in awhile one will get through to you.  This was yours. 

Maybe your story will make us all better patients.  I know that I'm not a very good patient and I have to keep reminding myself to be nicer when I'm in pain. 

Crunchy,

I'm glad you were at this baby's side. There is some comfort in knowing that someone who cared was there when the baby left the world.

In AZ, we have safe places where an unwanted can be left, no questions asked, that will provide immediate care for the infant. Unfortunately, we still have babies that are just abandoned if with these in place.

It is very sad no matter what angle you look at it and I wished that baby could have been saved. It is easy to see that you are not jaded, not when you describe this situation or when you speak on other subjects.

A caring heart can be a heavy thing to carry in life. But thank God you have one!

Crunchy, what a story!

I was adopted at birth. My birth parents were very young, 16. But I wasn't aborted nor abandoned. I got very lucky & have a loving family.

It's nice to know that baby left earth knowing someone was there. It prob just wasn't his time yet.

I agree with all of you. You know the irony is that just hours before that baby was brought in we had patient that was pregnant and 12, yes 12 years old. Daddy was 15. Her mom was there too. The mother looked like she was proud. The way a grandma would be if her 21 year old daughter and son in law were expecting. One of my co-workers made the comment to me as they walked away "She acts like she doesnt even care that her 12 year old is haveing a baby" and my reply "thats probably why that kids pregnant in the first place" Later when we were playing out the scenarios that led the unknown mother to throw away her baby....I thought about what a kid might do in that situation. Instinct tells me that was not the case here...something about the way the baby looked and was dressed when it was found...but I could see it happening.

By the way, we do have protection for women who want to give up their babies to fire stations or hospitals here too. Drugs make people think only about themselves and getting caught.