My Mom is crazy ! First she is a drunk and self center mean drunk . This round all started because she went and brought my 15 y/o a truck. Never asked my husband or I anything about it just did it. N. ow this boy won't even have a driver license for 6 more months. This is my step son , His mother and my husband don't speak to each other. We have to meet at the police station to exchange Matt. I think we have been to court over custody 3 times. It is really crazy. Now, my mom got this truck that has 210 thousand miles for a 15 y/o. She put the truck in Matt's moms name. This is a women that doesn't own a car of her own.. Her house has been repoed and married a man who is a drunk .. Maybe he and my mom can becomes drinking buddies. Now our son , who didn't want a drivers license because 5 of his friends have died in the last year from car accidents has a "show truck with a kickin system" that he can't afford gas to drive . The truck has a V8 engine that is about 16 miles a gallon. No tell what insurance for a 16 y/o boy will be. He lives in a bad party of town so the system (that's a radio and speakers for us old folks) won't be there long. The only time my mom has ever seen this woman is in the court room when she was going to testify against her. This boys mom doesn't work . She had other children she lost custody of because she was a bad mom. What was my mom thinking. On top of that she has found god but he is at the botton of a Crown Royal Bottle. Thanks for listening to me rant......
Oh my gosh... stressed out is what you are. And have every right to be. What a mess. I went through something similar with my children when they were much younger... not a truck though. Bikes when they were being handed off. Their maternal father didn't want them any longer and thought that the bikes were ample enough to make it though life. What a joke.
On the mother front... my mother is phyco. No doubt. She doesn't drink but you would swear that she must. She has not said one word to me in the past 4 years (since my disability) and prior to that she was pretty hateful. I don't make an effort any longer to communicate with her because of it. I can't... it's takes too much of a strain on our bodies to go through the stress.
Try to remain strong... take care of yourself... pamper yourself !!!! You deserve it. You can't hold the world together. You can only do what you feel is right in your heart and to heck with what others think. (That has taken me over 5 years to get down pat and I still have my moments that I let others and their thoughts of me get to me).
Remember that we are all here for you... so vent, whine, complain, cry, scream whatever you need to do. It's UNCONDITIONAL here !!!! Thank Goodness !!!!
How grounded is your son? Can you talk to him about the truck and how to keep it safe?
When my son, much older, is out of town, he parks his car at a friend's house, my house or someone who he know is going to be home. We had long talks about the cost of insurance.
If your son is concerned about safety because of his own friends, then get him in driver's ed. Take him out or have someone you trust take him out driving as much as possible.
It may be irresponsible of your mom. But it's a done deed. See if you can turn it into a positive for your son. It may give you the opportunity to help him make choices unlike the ones of those around him.
He also has the option of selling it or storying it some place.
But it is a terrible temptation for a 15 year old. However, in New Mexico, you could get your driver's license at 14 with driver's ed. I waited until 16. So, it is possible for a young man to be responsible.
With my son, his dad and I are divorced. We help him with separate things, so we both support his efforts. I was the one that taught him to drive (poor kid) and his dad bought him a car (I really hinted). But that was for his 22 birthday.
My daughter still doesn't drive at 25 because she is on medications that would make it unsafe.
I do understand your concern. Gauge your son's responsibility and forget your mom's not thinking clearly. It's really your son that you care about.