Brett is going to an inpatient rehab on Wed. for thirty days. I know it is the right thing and I am glad he is going. Having said that, I am a bit worried about taking care of Kelsey by myself. He does an awful lot for me and Kels. Hopefully, he will come back and we can be a family again.
I know Emma. I would have kicked him out if he didn't but he wants to go. He IS motivated. He likes not drinking, he just needs to get away awhile. I am so grateful he is going, just a little worried. Now not as much since I went swimming. I think swimming is going to give me my body back
You and Kelsey will be just fine on your own. (Of course you will miss Brett and so will Kels)
Brett is sick with a progressive, incurable illness too - he needs treatment just like we do in a flare. I always found it hard to remember that it is an illness when husband #1 was drinking. Just looks and feels like rotten behavior.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
If I'm being too nosy just pinch me.
PS I love the 12 steps, I think everyone should do them, drinker or not. It is just a good philosophy of life.
My mom had the same response to Alanon. She called it the Divorce Club.
This is a positive step for your family.....you guys can manage alone for 30 days. Try not to let on that you are having a difficult time without him; it will just make him being away harder on him too.
Stay strong gril. You can do this!
So far I am just supportive. I only share these fears with you guys and my niece. I know it is the right thing Lovie and it will reduce the stress around the house. Thank God we are pretty well set up already. Glad I started swimming. I have to build that strength, I have been worn outThat really isn't so pricey if you have them do the big 'walk about' 1 or 2 times a months. You can get milk and bread and that stuff at either the corner stop and rob nearest you, or if you are super lucky to have a real mom and pop store call ahead - they'll bring it to the car and take payment!
Buy as many healthy frozen meals as you can afford - like veggie lasagna. Cook big batches when you feel half way decent and freeze the rest for 'a day off' later.
To be honest - not living with an active drunkard makes even tough stuff easy. It'll be OK....yeah I am a bit worried about you but I still think you will manage just fine.
Also, ask your niece to help. Sometimes, people are very happy to help you if you are very specific about what you need.
Thanks Lynk and Deanna, I will work on it when I am feeling better. Really hurt myself, did too much last night, I am down for the count today. Missed my pt appt. My niece goes to law school. She is in overwhelm. I won't ask her but I am trying to get hooked up for services. Right now I am still having trouble getting address changed for Kelsey's SSI and benefits. I keep being told it is done and then told by OR that it is not done. Until that happens, I cannot get any benefits. I am asking for a home visit. I hurt too much to drive. I need to get my SSD. I know I need it. I am going to talk to doctor Monday if we can expedite that. Then I will get benefits. I would get more benefits if I was not married but I love Brett. Only Brett can make me divorce him but I have faith he is going to make it after this rehab. He has justs been under so much stress. He needs to get away. I do too - lol. Get away from my own bodyI was checking around & saw your post. I'm so very sorry that you are having this problem with hubby. He needs understanding & plenty prayers to get him through this. I went through this with my brother several times. He is such a good person, but at times the pull of the bottle was just to much for him to handle. But I did find out that I couldn't baby him. They told me to tell him like it was, not to sugar coat things. He has been sober now for 3 yrs. I pray that he stays that way. This is his last chance with his wife. I can't blame her.
Sounds like your daughter is doing well. You gals will be okay!
I wish you all the best.
Trisha
I was thinking of going for the out of body experience myself. Man, if I could just leave it for a short time. You know, a vacation from the pain. Yeah, I like that idea.
And then, if they could do a body switch so that I come back into a healthy one, a bit better looking and a whole lot skinnier -- well, I just wouldn't complain about that one bit.