I have a splint-cast on... it is restricting oxygen to my brain
Ok... so I guess everyone is off cooking dinner for tomorrow... so that is why I am the only one on the board. So the Trauma!!
Oh Crunchy, I'm so sorry to hear your nieces hurt you in that way. Teenagers can be so unpredictable and hard to fathom. Sometimes they just do and say the stupidest things - for no rational reason. (Wasn't there some recent research that shows their brains just don't work rationally much of the time?)
It's so hard when you know you're doing so much for them and they just don't seem to get it. And they may not get it for years. It may be a good thing that it's too late to call tonight. Maybe by tomorrow they'll realize what idiots they've been and you'll get an apology - or at least you'll be able to talk it out with them. You sound like you're being a terrific aunt to them. They'll realize that - sooner or later. Hope you can get some sleep in the meantime.
Thanks, I feel a bit better now...just getting off my chest helped. I feel like I am pulled in alot of directions as it is...and I dont have to include them in my chaos...but I always make time for them. I live 40 min away and if one of them wants to come over or needs a ride, I will go...with out hesitation. I buy things for them that they wouldnt have otherwise....and I try to make our times together fun...I just dont know what the problem is. I feel compelled to wash my hands of them. I have my own kids to spend time with. Sometimes kids need to realize that what they do and say brings on real consequences. It is a lesson that I dont have a problem teaching. Looks like I may be headed that way.
You're so right, it's a lesson everyone needs to learn, and better to learn it early and from someone who really cares about them. Sounds like you're a good and important influence in their lives. Hope they respond well to it. But don't beat yourself up if they don't. Save your energy for your kids!
Well I think I know what is happening....there was a bulletin that went out that when it was opened...it hacked your space and kept resending the same message out as a bulletin but in your name. I had to change my password to stop it. I sent a message to warn people...but I guess those two didnt see that and thought I was sending all of these spammy bulletins. Okay....that explains it...because of a bulletin that my neice just sent out...but I see that she read the personal message to her asking what the problem was...and she didnt respond or apologize. She has until tomorrow when I leave the house to go eat dinner and Grannys house....and then it is all gonna be different...The whole thing is juvenile but if they are gonna act like that...well let the punishment fit the crime!joonie, are you sure its the cast thats causing that problem? heheheh
jk have a great thanksgiving hun
Hang in there, I heard they turn into adults sometime before they reach 40........ I think it is, then rumor has it, it begins all over again!lol
I live with a teenager and a pre-teen. They are at best confusing. At worst CRABBY (I am lucky enough to have all girlsThen, they get past this point, and that wonderful person returns but so much better. Don't give up on them. You are what is going to make a difference in whether or not they make good decisions. Set the boundaries and show the love.
My mom used to say that when I turned 10, aliens stole me and replaced me with a messed up version of what she thought was her daughter. LOL Then she got most of me back when I was about 20. But for the most part it's just growing up I think.
Let's face it, a 13 year old is a far different person with far different outlooks and thought processes than a 20 year old. And there's something to be said for making it through all of that. Growing up is NOT a simple change. Come on guys, think back to when you were a teenager. It may seem petty and small now, but when your world turns from everything cotton candy and frills; to bills and hard facts in just a short ammount of time...well..there are BOUND to be some nasy attitudes floating around. That's just the way it is. It's like someone waking you up from the best dream in the world by throwing cold water in your face and nipple clamping you.
I guess at 23, my teen years are still fresh in my mind. But I've grown up enough to see how silly some of it was. That doesn't make it any less real, or any different.
Facts are facts. Growing up is hard. Period. There is a lot about this world that you have to take in, learn, adapt to, etc. Just because a generation gains more technology, or doesn't have as many "chores" or "responsiblities" (those are going to vary for each person..) doesn't mean the emotional aspect of growing up is going to be any different.
It's like a car wreck. If you're 20 or you're 80 it's still going to scare the $#!& out of you....LoL
Hugs from a new grown up -
Katie
after hitting 10 is traumatizing.
How come whenever I post something about making it through the teenage years, no one replies with anything more useful than "after hitting 10 is traumatizing" LMAOIt is traumatizing to be a teenager. There are times it is more traumatizing being a parent to 2 teenage girls at once. And then you blink and they are grown up and everyone has survived it.
Love them, listen to them, respect them, answer their questions honestly and at an age appropriate level, and show them what the future of adulthood is really like. But most of all no matter what...LOVE THEM!
oh yeah it is traumatizing after 10, that is when you get these 2 big bumps on your chest and when you run they hit you in the face.
Life as a teenage girl is worse than life as a teenage boy! Sorry... so graphic... too much chocolate aka sugar
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