Hey, look it is 3:00am and I am laying in bed posting and replying to posts and have been since 11pm.
Anyways...
I went to Freak-Mart in the town my mommy lives in to look for something and to get my daily exercise. So... I am lagging behind hubby and the kids as usual... and I am all hunched over, stiff-legged walk (right knee swollen and will not bend nor straighten and left knee is just stiff from me babying my right knee). There was this guy walking that was in front of me, he stopped to do something to his shoe or pants not sure, by this time hubby and kids are in wal-mart waiting on me to enter the doors and here I am still walking to the walk area... ya know the yellow area for peds. So... the guy stops and then I finally get to where he is at and he stands back up and says "I have a bummed foot, too." and then ran into the stop sign while looking back at me. I just said "Oh Yeah..." and then hubby and the kids came back out the door to make sure I was still coming.
I then felt like I was seen as easy prey. I mean the guy was not limping or anything that I could see. I have this fear that I will be kidnapped... have always had this fear since I was a kid.
I was walking around in Freak-Mart and when I would turn the corners I would look to see if that guy was following me. I lag so far behind hubby and the kids that no one even knows I am with them. I know this for a fact because I always get offered a buggy upon entering Freak-Mart and then I have to say "I am with them."
Oh well... just wanted to talk.
Bleargh scary. Sometimes we are easy marks because do we have a disability which slows us down. Lately I can't go anywhere without hubby, so he drops me off at the door and I go inside and wait for him to park the car. You may have to tell hubby (and these are men) over and over "Hey, please wait for me in case I get knocked down!" When I am able to venture out on my own, I have my cane and I will use it to beat someone upside the head if I have to.
Maybe take a seniors defense class. They are not as rigorous as a regular defense class, but they still teach you how to defend yourself.
It just sucks that people will prey upon someone weaker than them.
Oy. That is spooky.
I hate Freak Mart. (Besides the obvious freaks) Ours is always so packed that I'm on "heightened alert" the whole time looking out for carts, kids or people that might bump into me. A bump that to them means nothing, but to me means excruciating pain.
Can't Hubby and the Cubs wait for you? I know it's hard with little kids who can't wait to get in and jump on the rides. No matter what though, get a self defense whistle, at least. Amazon has them, search self defense or safety whistle.
I have my cane and a big attitude as you know. I've started using those carts so that Julie and I can keep together. I don't really have that kind of fear because of dangerous situations I've already lived through. I do park in handicapped and you should get a sticker so that the walk is much shorter. You have every right to expect your family to stay with you. That's pretty mean. How would they feel to be left behind?
You can protect yourself. You might also want to get some pepper spray. Be ready to shout out if someone is bothering you. If someone is getting close to you that is making you nervous, say very loudy, "Stay where you are." This might help alert other people to the situation.
But you need to discuss safety issues with your family. Your husband might still not get it but I bet your kids will.
Joonie, be firm with hubbie about staying with you. He is teaching the kids lousy stuff. We wait up for Grandma, or MaMa if she needs us too, or the little kids, the strong and fast are being rude leaving you behind. Speak up.I do not mind too much that they go inside the first set of doors and wait on me as I know it is cold and/or windy outside and son gets ear infections when he is outside in that kind of weather. They stay with me when the weather is not so cold. They usually wait for me at the crossing area, but when it is cold they go in to get warm and wait on me.
I do not think hubby remembers that once I have sat for a while I tend to gel and it takes time for me to work it out or that my knee is swelled and will not bend nor straighten. He is self absorbed always has been, but he had changed quite a bit to take what is wrong with me into consideration, but then I got "better" and was able to keep up with him and not be so dependent on him, and now he has went back to me not being so dependant on him, even though I am not doing as well. I know he knows I am not doing as well as I was, but I think he tends to block that out and think I will get back to where I was back when I first started Humira last February.
Hey Marian... just think... my husband was taught his behavior from his grandparents... talk about lousy teaching
Why arent't they dropping you off at the door? Especially in this cold weather!!!
Because when we go to Freak-Mart I consider it my daily exercise. So me walking from the car to the store and around the store to find a bench to sit on is my exercise. I know I need exercise and that is the only way I can get myself to do it. We do park within the first 3 spaces on a row, which on other rows it is the handicap spaces. It is just that I push myself to go even if I am not doing well. I know when I am slow, and I still go. I just try not to let RA take over my life it had one time before.Ok... I spoke with hubby today about my fears of being kidnapped or our one of our kids being kidnapped. And how I would like for him to stay with me when we are in town and it is dark. So... tonight we stopped at Freak-Mart and it was cold, we parked in the row closest to the doors and in the 5 parking space. He walled with me and I did not even have to say anything.
I think I might have explained my fear well enough this go around that it finally went thru his thick bull headed skull
So... I think today an understanding was made with hubby today.
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