Ok I am mad at a total a
My daughter has already told my ex husband that when she gets married, she wants her step father and father to walk her down the aisle. Her father took a fit...even called me to tell me that there was no way this was going to happen. Well...I said to him...it'll be her day, so she will do it the way she wants.
A little over a year ago, my son was married. His wife had her step father and father walk her down the aisle. I'm not sure how her father felt about it, but I heard that her grandmother was furious and threatened to not come to thew wedding. My DIL still went through with her original plan, and the grandmother showed up, but looked very angry for most of the wedding.
As far as my daughter goes, she has told my husband and I that she feels closer to her step father...he's always there for her if she needs him and never ever lets her down. Her father on the other hand...well...completely different story. If she's asked her father to do something for her, she always makes a back up plan cause 99% of the time he ends up forgetting what was asked of him.
I don't think my ex husband will be able to threaten to not help pay for his portion of the wedding when the time comes, because I doubt he will even have anything to put towards her wedding. I know for my son's wedding, he didn't pay for much of anything.
I hope it all works out ok for your daughter....
the best thing is to not even expect anything from your ex husband....and let your daughter have her day the way she wants it to be. Hopefully her father will show up...and if he doesn't, then she'll know how selfish he is, since this is her day and he's made it all about him.
Good Luck!
Kelly
Husband A+ Ex-husband F-
Sounds like he is not worth your time or trouble, but so sad for your daughter at what should be a very joyful time for her.
That's how my ex would be. It sucks and it hurts. But I agree with the advice that it's your daughter's day and she should decide how she wants it to be. I think your husband is great though.Don't let your ex ruin everything for your daughter. It's his loss. As much as it sucks and hurts......you can't change somebody. Just be there for your daughter with a smile on your face and do your part as you always have.
CinDee
Gracious! This is horrible.
My husband and I already know that when my daughter gets married, goes to college.....or any other huge expense that may arrise it's unlikely we'll see a dime from my ex-husband.
Only thing that makes it possible for me to accept this is the fact that the poor fool doesn't have a pot to piss in. He's been so finacially STUPID since we divorced; I can only feel sorry for the man.
Doesn't make flippin the bill for everything any easier on my husband and I; but the way we look at it.....If we had given her life together like we so wish we had, we'd have to be responsable for all of the expenses anyway. Guess our situation is like that; or at least that's what we keep telling ourselves anyway.
BUT; considering your ex-husband has the money.....I think I'd absolutely flip out! I'm so sorry you have to deal with that....and I'm so sorry your daughter does as well. This should be the happiest time of her life and this is casting a dark cloud on the entire event.
Try not to let her see how furious you are. There's no reason she should have to feel guilty about this. It's not her fault her real dad's a jerk!
Keep your chin up. Lucky for you; you choose better the second time around.
Kids always lose in a divorce don't they?
Well under the circumstances, if the ex hubby/exdaddy will not help foot the bill, she should just go ahead and make her plans for her wedding as she wants and send the moron an invitation. If he does not wnat to go with tradition, then he doesn't get to participate.
Beware! he may make a fool and ruin the entire wedding...can she just elope????????????
Thanks guys , I am not as mad now but I will get even with that sorry ex . The wedding is on a National Guard Base , My Ex will need a pass to get on base