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I caught my mom stealing my drugs and going through my room......( nothing like going straight to the point huh?) I have had it. I went to my sis, she was little to no help stating that I should be able to figure this out on my own and I am a caregover and living here for free so I should weigh the problems.

Well...........I did weigh the problems and it is not worth my self esteem or my sanity so I am moving on. tough sh*t, my sis van take over, she can have the money, it is not worth it to me. She will have to deal with all this cause when a mom steals your drugs and refuses to bathe, to me that is a huge flag stating, this is serious!!!!!!!I need a life and it is time to move on. At first they wanted to blame my daughter but my daughter has not even been home for over a week.

I cannot believe this, my mother stole my xanax and my vicodin. I have it hidden now, so hidden that I can barely find it and I need a key to get to it. It this insane or what? I am nearly 50 I do not need this sh*t in my life! WHen is it my turn??????????

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! Input please!!!!!!!!!!

I will most defnately have to leave since I no longer have the support system I thought I had. I am moving far away too! this is just unbelievable! I just cry and cry!

jode

jodejjr39138.7306365741Wow. I don't really know your whole situation, but it almost sounds like an intervention is needed. Is this an addiction issue or an aging issue with your mom? Either way, it's so hard.

I can understand the need to move on, but OTOH (without really knowing you or what you are going through), will you feel good about yourself if you do?

There are some good public resources for women caught in the "sandwich generation" caring for both adults and children. Is there anyone near (clubs, groups, etc.) that might be able to offer assistance or advice?

Good luck with your decisions; I'm sure that no choice will be an easy one.

No I am so done. She has stolen my medication which she is prescibed but must be taking too many, the point is..who in the hell steals theor daughters' medicine??????????? My sis is not to be bothered with it an dwants to take the counselor route, I needed support from a sister. I am through here, I am sick of my mothers' stinch from not bathing, her filth in the kitchen from sheer laziness an dalways having to tell her where I am going. I need a regular life not this sh*t.

So the money is easier, at this point I would rather live in a cardboard box an dI may well be living in one.

jode

Anybody want a roommate? It will take me about 3 to 6 mos. to get all completed and to reduce my junk down, that will eb about the time my daughter graduates.

I am sick of being a slave.

jode

Gracious girl~I'm real sorry to hear about this.This will continue until you get out of this situation. Unfortunately, blood is
thicker than water and it is hard to "remove" yourself from these problems.
The only person you can really help is yourself. I'm not trying to sound
harsh but I was in a situation with my x husband one time and it took a
really good counselor to finally tell me to get into the drivers seat and stay
there. And I did and never looked back and life is so much better. A little
bit of self removal and it won't take long for these two people(and your
sister) to figure out that you are serious. So far, they are only threats and
mean nothing to those you are threatening. Act, and do it before you are
reduced to someone you don't want to be. The people you love and who
you are dealing can only help themselves. You have done what you can and
the best that you can. Remember that. Please keep me posted. I care.

Thank you all so much it is a difficult situation. I am giving myself a set amount of time before I make any concrete decisions. I will continue to sort and get rid of things and prepare the house the way I want it then go from there. Meanwhile I will remain away from my mother and begin being more assertive in making her bathe, confront her on the meds and going into my room ( which I will keep locked).

She is the one with the mental problem so I need to deal with that. IF she also has dependency issues to drugs, that will have to be addressed but I am not babying her. Until I gain employment of some kind I am stuck here and hopefully my sis will be more supportive cause I cannot do this on my own that is for sure.

I need to get away cause my mom is trying to be completely dependant on me and I cannot handle the burden.

THe ideal solution would be to move as far away as possible but I cannot afford it at this time.

jode