from the kibbitzing, etc. on this board I've decided this isn't the time or place to ask my questions or ask for advice.
My last rheumy appt. has left me totally frustrated but this board for sure isn't the board it used for it used to be a board where there was empathy, understanding and positive advice.
There were posts giving the web addresses to other boards and I'm going to check them out, including rasushi.
Before I was even finished reading your entire post I was thinking you could come over and see our forum about RA and doctors. I myself have had some frustrating situations lately with my doctor. It is a disappointment because up untill about 6 weeks ago I thought he was wonderful. I just went today and saw a new RD. I think I like him..and will probably switch. If is so hard to see someone knew. After so many horror stories that you hear from others, it can be intimidating. But I am hopeful about this new guy, and his office is much closer. Plus instead of paying 10 bucks to park in the garage 2 buildings away, the new docs office offers free valet! woohoo for free valet.
Watchingwolf, please come over or just PM me here or there, or email me if you want to vent about the doc. I am sure I have felt your frustration and would love to listen and help if I can.
Hello? Wasn't this written by you today, Watchingwolf? How can you write that and then say the board isn't what it used to be. Furthermore, to say that this board used to be empathatic, understanding and give positive advice. What is going on? Phatgirl watchingwolf, I have enjoyed your company on this board. Kindly stay and make it better. Just like real families we have spats here. Just like real families there is a core of caring. This board has really helped me out of isolation...there are people who GET it.
I charish the friendships I've made at these forums and beleive you can screw up.....be forgiven and start over. Frankly I'm the type that will say something and then later wish I hadn't. Thankfully I've had friends at I guess three differnt sites that forgive me and move on. Forgive, forget and move on. Try and learn from your mistakes and go from there. (Meaning myself when saying that). You've been given suggestions to several great sites lately. I suggest you give one a try....but always feel free to come here too. Let's face it. We all visit other places.....no harm there. Make new friends but keep the old. One is silver and the other's gold. (Anybody learn that as a kid in girl scouts?) Wishing you friendship....Lovie. I'm real sorry to hear that Lorster. I actaully was a brownie......new made it to Girl Scout. lol Lorster...you're very much a part of the group here...and I mean that in a good way. You provide tons of info and always posting in a positive manner. This site needs ppl like you. So don't give up. I've been here for..hmm...I think 2 years...can't really remember, I know I lurked for a very long time before saying anything, and even now I don't say much, and I'm not in this so called group...but to be honest I don't really see a "group". People just need to remember that there will always be others trying to get ppl riled up. Either ignore or have a good time with themI don't like to think there's a "group" there's always going to be a few people who end up getting to know each other outside of the main topics, as they have things in common. But group....eh...I dunno. If we're going to say there's one, then there has to be several, or multiple. And that would just be high school all over again. (ick.) I've only been outa high school for 6 years now (oo that made a couple people feel old, didn't it? LOL) and I certainly don't wanna go back....I'm sure no one else does either...
Watchingwolf, I apologize if I misunderstood your post. I didn't see a "ha ha" or anything to indicate that it was a joke. To me, it looked like you were stirring it up again. Maybe I'm just hypersensitive... As for a group, I don't really think so. Of course, that could be because I'm not part of it
I know, I post what I feel and think, I'm sure most other people do to. I don't call other members at home or pm them. Not because I don't want to, I just don't. I don't hold it against anyone here who does. I say whereever you can get your support system from, do it. This is such a devastating disease on so many levels, any and all levels of support are important. I am also fairly new and am still learning everyone here. This board is awesome. I feel like it was a godsend when I was first dx. Phatgirl PS I agree with Kelstev....join them or ignore them. Its all in good fun, well most of the time. "Well I'll admit it's a little odd; but all I can suggest is make a
clean start. If joining another format to pose your doctor question is
what you need to do.....do that. But I'd suggest starting out as your
real self and make friends from the start." "I charish the friendships I've made at these forums and beleive you can screw up.....be forgiven and start over." "Frankly I'm the type that will say something and then later wish I
hadn't. Thankfully I've had friends at I guess three differnt sites
that forgive me and move on. Forgive, forget and move on. Try and learn
from your mistakes and go from there. (Meaning myself when saying that)." I don't think Lovie meant anything offensive. I don't want to speak for her, but I didn't see anything offensive in her post. I thought she was opening the door to a new beginning. Lets all do that, start over. I'm confident we can all get along... Phatgirl YICKS! I certainly didn't mean to offend you....I was indeed trying to open the door to a new beginning....here or at another forum I might be a member at. Frankly I thought of it as an invite; and now certainly sorry I did. WOW. I do belive you've got your mind made up. ALSO: If I'm not mistaken I said I hoped you'd still come visit here. Are you ladie's PMSing? Holy moly is everyone ever so sensitive around here!
watchingwolf, here is a link to a site that i am sure you are going to love. It was started by a digruntled group from here at AI Forum. They couldn't stand this site and so they started their own site. They are very much like you and I am sure that once you check them out, you will probably like them, not wish to return to this terrible arthritis forum again. Tell crunchy and arriscolwell, and grammaskittles and alan and the rest of the bunch that I am very happy to link you to their site. You have so much in common with them. There is so much organization there. Oh, if nobody is home, they are probably here. Well, this is probably going to be the last time we hear from you because you are going to be so happy at the new site. So good luck, take all the others with you that are disgruntled here. And as you leave may I sincerely thank you all for coming and finally going. Your new home has been built for a long, long time, don't you disgruntled members think that it's about time to finally move. Don't forget to take all of your friends with you. Oh, you don't have to write. http://rasushi.jconserv.net/index.php [QUOTE=joey2]Are you ladie's PMSing? Holy moly is everyone ever so sensitive around here! [/QUOTE] NO, joey2... seems you got it wrong... the guys are PMSing... they are the ones who started all of this mess. We women were just cruising along ok, with a few bumps here or there and now, it is a damn mountain of poop we are stuck in because guys... do not know how to keep there no good opinions to themselves... referring to MODR8R.
Phatgirl2: SO - HUSH YOUR MOUTH!! OR ARE YOU BORED AND TRYING TO GET SOMETHING GOING AGAIN?????????????
How can I say that? This was an attempt on my part that everyone would step back from all the negativity that's taken over this board and just "drop it all and not be drawn into these conversations again." As long as this continues the only outcome is that "everyone loses."
tried to redirect some interests but it seems to come back to some bad
blood out there. Some of us newbies don't understand the whole story and I
just don't feel I have the energy to want to know. I really feel like there is a
"group here" and I'm just not feeling part of it. This will most likely be my
last post unless things change.
However, you suggest that perhaps I make a clean start on another board and be the real me. Are you indicating that perhaps I shouldn't post on this board again? And how can you know the kind of person I am?
You believe people can screw up, be forgiven and begin again. In your opinion am I the exception?
Are you unique in the respect that you have said something you regret later? You say others have forgiven you and it's time to forgive, forget and move on.
People without regret and without a sense of deceny don't apologize. In other words people who can sincerely apologize do learn from their mistakes and go from there.
Yes, I'm offended by your remarks!
I thought she was being nice...........
Lorster: I don't really post that often in comparison to a number of others. Yes, I feel there is a group who have placed themselves upon a pedestal. Personally, I have better things to do with my time than "knock down pedestals." Besides being on a pedestal prevents you from being in touch with others and there's a possibility you could end up being very lonely.
This isn't for me because I'm a people person.
Lovie: Would really like to believe you but when an explanation comes forth later rather than in the initial statement it like you're saying I should be able to read between the lines.
For the record: The day before I lost my cool with ari33 I had taken my MIL in for her dialysis treatment, which takes up most of my day. Upon arriving home I slipped and twisted my ankle - it still bothers some. My daughter called later in the evening asking if two of their children could stay with us because the rest of the family was down with the nasty influenza. Moms are always moms so we had the oldest grandchild and the baby of five months who is teething. In trying to cope with the stress, even though I consented, I came to the board to get away from it all. And what did I see? The post from ari33 and the arthritis in her pinky finger.
Under normal circumstances I would have assured her as a member of this board I, too, would be here for her always.
With this I have decided I will be taking an undetermined break from this board. Each of you and any newcomers will continue to be in my prayers each day. Take Care
Is that really such a difficult concept to wrap your head around? I mean really. Just take a deep breath, and think about it.
By the way..........thanks for the plug. AGAIN. Do you not realize you're "spamming" our site as much as you claim we did?
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