THe time has come when I have supposedly done my job as a parent, my daughter announced last night that she and her bfriend will prob be moving. It hurt a bit but like I told her, I have spent her life raising her for this precise decision, it was my job to assure that she learned responsiblity, to be kind to others, and make mature decisions.
THe only thing she kept bringing up is her pic with "Big Ugly" (an old truck where we used to live)for senior pics, she has finally stopped bringing that up but wants me to go back. SO we had a long talk about that and how he didn't want us around anymore.
Regardless, she is spreading her wings. It is snowing here and I am really in pain and then this.........I guess her announcement was a good thing, she has to move on, she has to be who she is gonna be.
Time goes by so quickly.
Then I got to wondering how badly my bones had eroded over the years and if I even have a future. Of course that just brings on stress, but darnit don't we have to think about that as well? I mean, what is the future of RA? Will any of us ever have days that are not so bad?
jode
Jode, Sweetie, try to think about your future with an attitude of expectancy. Know in your heart that there is still very much in store for you and that you certainly have a future and it's a bright one.
God still has plenty of good things in store for you my dear. Try to remember that and look forward to that. This is a new stage in your life and go into it knowing that it's going to be all that you've worked so hard for all these years.
All the years of struggles will pay off and the skies are about to brighten up for you!
Jode-
you have lots to look forward to, you can look forward to watching your daughter grow, knowing that everything you have taught her is falling into place, and if she makes mistakes, they will be her mistakes and she will learn from them. I hate the thought of my children leaving home too, my eldest is 18 and works full time for a lawyer, she is already showing signs of wanting to fly the nest but I think the home comforts are keeping her here
I agree with Lovie, dont dwell on what might happen with the RA , Take one day at a time and live that day to your best. I know it can be hard and the pain and inability to do much can be depressing but thats when your friends on here will be there for you.
Thanks for the help.....and the kind words, and the support, it does make a difference. THis is a good time but a hard one as well. I know her bfriend will take excellant care of her, he just abolutely adores her and is always "mothering her", I have full confidence in him and in her. It just seems weird. I am so used to her being either at her dad's or a relatives or at work or school.
We talked a bunch about all she will need for her apartment and we sort of giggled because I have been preparing for this since my son moved out buying her bit of things here and there. THen of course she has all my furniture from when I divorced because I live with my mom and my mom bought all new furniture when we moved to Michigan.
We figured out all we need for her are pots and pans and she would have had those had I taken my pots and pans when Tim and I parted.
She said I could help..."help" her decorate but the way "she wants it done"..which translated from Allyson language means I get to paint, clean and do laundry! lol THey are hoping to move near Lake Michigan because I guess there are full time positions there rather than the part time positions offered in this part of the state. I requested that she move somewhere "WARMER"...lol
Not an easy time for me but I am happy for her. I have worked with her for years for this decision she is making. I would have preferred her to go to college first but she wants to sit out a year and work to save money and be herself and not have deadlines and papers due. I can't say that I blame her there.
Thanks again for your support.
jode
I am so weary of this pain from RA and fibro..........the weather changed from over 60 and sunshine to a mere 30's and snow, like 2 or 3 inches of snow and ice. It is certainly difficult on this body of mine.
jode
We are freezing cold but without the snow since we are on the opposite side of the lake from you. My body wants to know who offended Mother Nature and why she is punishing us like this lol.
You have great adventures in life ahead of you Jode. You did a good job getting your kids prepared for the world. It sounds like she has thought this thru and it is not a spur of the moment decision. It is always hard when the last chick of ours leaves mommas nest. I can envision myself worrying all the time and calling a million times a week lol. My oldest daughter is on her own and we still talk daily. Either via the internet or on the phone. But not a day goes by that we do not talk.
It is so exciting for them to get their first apartment. I remember my daughter calling me and telling me that her and her then fiancee were getting their own place. What a milestone for everyone!!
The future holds great things for you still. Open your mind to it and those great things will happen!! But still mourn the loss of the baby chick leaving the momma nest!!
It's amazing isn't it how time flies. It seems just yesterday they were babies learning to walk. Now they are going to spread their wings and fly!
Oh my goodness, they do grow up so fast but I can remember times when I thought she would never grow up...I have learned now that it was just me being anxious, everyone goes at their own pace.
WE stil lspeak of living in Indiana and our lives there, the dogs we had and such though. IT was such a terrible thingt hat our lives changed so quickly as they did due to some adverse problems, but she is now happy that we moved because she realizes now that she was in a bad relationship with her bfriend when we lived in Hagarstown. I kept trying to tell her but of course, she would not listen. A leson learned for sure.
I am nto certain what my future holds, where I will be or who with, maybe I will Rheumatoid out, maybe not. IT is scary though especially at this time in my life, but this is the circumstance I am under at the moment. I will not have to worry so much about my daughter an dthat is a good thing, her bfriend will now have that job! lol Oh we all know I will worry about her anyway..........shoot I still worry about a lot of other kids i know. THat is just me. Prob do my tummy good if I woull not worry so much! *wink*
I think maybe I need a vacation, maybe wehen my daughter moves I will vacation on the lake.....I am certain it is cold there now though! I am sooooooooooooo very sick of snow! I am ready to head south if my daughter ever can find a job in the south....FLorida only of course. Of course, she may want to get a cruise ship job, now there is an idea!
jode
Jode, as a mom of 4 daughters, I just want to tell you that you have not yet