Cue the Daniel Powter music.
Yesterday I faxed my RD about how the Arava was making me so sleepy and asked if I could try the 10 mg dose instead of the 20 mg. He called me back and said to take the 20 mg every other day until I feel ready to go back to everyday. Alright.
But this morning (still under the affects of yesterday morning's dose) I was so sleepy, dizzy, out-of-it (aside from all my regular hurts), that I couldn't drive, much less go to work. I told my boss I would be in by 10:30 or 11:00, but didn't make it in until 11:30, and then with a pounding headache. All sorts of minor disasters occurred this morning while I wasn't here, and I'm sure my boss thinks that's all my fault (there's enough blame to go around on these).
So with that brilliant start to the day, I finally hear from the attorney's office about our on-going negotiations to close on this condo (my first home purchase). We're down to the cost of repairs for windows with broken seals, plumbing and electrical issues. Nothing frivolous, not the appliances or the carpet, just basic stuff we have a right to expect. It's an estate, and we know the family doesn't want to do the repairs, so we're willing to take that aggravation on ourselves, we just want the money to cover the cost of most of the repairs (not even replacements).
Each time we make an offer, they take a week to get back to us and the offer is pitiful. We have been waiting for their latest response for a week, and they've come back with a low (not even half way) number and said they want an answer by tomorrow at 3:00 or they're terminating the contract.
So I feel like hell, look like hell, am mad as hell, and my job is going to hell.
Aw, I'm sorry it was a rotten day. But you made it through, and you're still standing! Cue the Elton John music, LOL!
A word of advice that's always easier to give than to follow,
Can you tell I'm the negotiator in my family? I learned from my Daddy, and he was awesome at it, LOL. My hubby just stands back and stays out of the way!
Well, THAT stinks! You need a hot bath, some aromatherapy candles and some Sting (that's what I listen to in the bath) or maybe Sarah McLaughlin (sp?). That sounds good, I may even do it when I get home! Haha. Hang in there, girl. Hope it gets better for ya!
[QUOTE=Hillhoney]so it's always better to stay unemotional and unattached until something is all yours. Go into any negotiations, whether it's for a car or house, or anything like that, as though you are negotiating for someone else, like your child, and you are going to get the best possible deal for them.
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Can I use this advice in how I handle men and dating?
We are trying to get over the emotional aspects here, more on the way they've acted, than our attachment to the condo. We are so annoyed we can't see straight, and I want to make sure we do what's going to be best for us.
I understand, believe me. And every circumstance is different. Just go with your instincts and you'll be okay. We all have those inner voices that we ignore, but they are usually so wise, LOL!
When my hubby and I bought our house we made an offer which they rejected, they made a ridiculous counter offer. At that point we walked away and said sorry that's just not acceptable. We were moving on, looking at other places when they came back to us with a new offer, which made much more sense and was really fair to both sides. We then accepted it without further negotiations.
The funny thing is, after we accepted their offer and signed an intent to purchase and put down a deposit, they found another buyer - outside of their contract with their realtors (their contract was expiring just about the time we came along). Then they wanted out of the deal with us and tried to do everything they could to get out of it, because if they negotiated with the other buyer without the realtor agreement they wouldn't have to pay commissions. But we held on tight, jumped through all their imposed hoops and got the house! We've been here 21 years now and still love it.
I hope you can get everything worked out and get a great deal! Good luck to you!
You would think the family holding the estate would just take a decent offer.
Perhaps there is a family member that wants to keep it. I think I would let the deadline expire....or respond with a last offer by 3. If they don't take it walk. (It is supposed to be a buyers market)
Hi, I don't know a thing about Real Estate buying and selling(except I can't stand it), but I do know it is one of the major stressors and that stress is very bad for this stupid disease we have. So, I hope you can step back a bit and let someone else take over some of the big anxiety stuff. You are for sure doing a lot right now, good luck, lv sarahI concur with hillhoney as well. Take back the control girl! I know this is your 1st house and you're probably really emotionally involved, I know I was when we bought our 1st house 1 1/2 years ago. It's so exciting yet very stressful. Take a breath and take it easy.Believe it or not, I'm not so emotionally attached to this particular condo. I was ready to walk away and so was hubby.
However, I am trying to be practical and take the emotion (that the sellers are greedy, nasty, unreasonable people) out of it. I learned a couple of things in the last 24 hours:
The "estate" is a brother and sister and according to the listing agent, the sister has been impossible from day 1 and won't budge an inch on anything.
Their attorney didn't share the repair estimates we sent with the brother and sister, so they felt like we were just trying to take advantage of them. In the meantime, they have just soured on the deal like we have. I have to say that the amount for the window repairs surprised us, so I can't blame them for thinking it was a little outrageous. And I'm sure they feel that since they didn't get their asking price, they shouldn't have to put out a couple thousand now.
In any case, hubby felt that if we got half the amount of the repairs, that at least we wouldn't feel taken advantage of. In the overall scheme of the sale, the repairs really aren't that much.
So....our real estate agent agreed to kick in the difference between their offer and the halfway point. I hate that it's coming from her and not them, but in the name of being practical, we agreed.
I had the attorney send a letter saying that after careful consideration, even though their offer doesn't cover half the repairs, that we are accepting as a show of good faith and to move forward to an amicable closing.
Now everyone repeat after me: Karma, Karma, Karma!
I told hubby that if he's still mad at the sellers (who by the way are actually getting a referral commision because the damn sister is a realtor) that AFTER they sign papers at the closing, he can just spit at them.