Well i have just had a bit of a kick in the teeth. My very good friend moved away last year about 100 miles but left her daughter and grandson here and asked me to make sure they were ok and look after them if they needed anything. Her grandson is my godson so with no problem I make sure i phone and go and see them at least once a week , since then the daughter has had a little girl ( and i'm godmother again)I still see my friend from time to time and I spent a weekend with her a while ago.Well it is my godsons birthday on saturday and he will be 2 and they are taking him to Monkey bizz( a childrens playpark) and I havent been invited
If a "God Parent" doesn't qualify you as a close friend/Family I don't know what does. I don't know about you....but this pisses me off Pinn. You obviously have been a good friend to this family and this is how they repay you? You can come around and bring presents after they return home? Are they serious? They should be ashamed of themselves! AND; the daughter should be woman enough to stand up and tell her Mother that you have been a loyal friend to her and her children and she wouldn't feel right not including you.
I'm real sorry this has happened. I'd be real upset about this too if I was you.
I think I would treat this as though I were a bit dense..
Give your friend/ and the childs mom a call and say something like.."its so nice you are looking out for me, and worrry that the party might be too much for me, but I'm feeling fine so I'll be at the party with bells on.. I wouldnt miss my godson's party for all the world."
Unless she is an unfeeling bit** she will most likely give in, and hopefully give in graciously..
oh and if she doesnt warmly welcome your call just play the dense part and SHOW UP.. that's right crash your godsons party.. what are they going to do? call security?
Lisa, I'm really sorry this happened and I know I would be very hurt also. But I think you need to talk with your friend and find out what this is all about. Real true friends can talk over things like this and cry and move on. But if you don't openly and honestly discuss this, walls will be built between the two of you that will be hard to tear down.
Who knows what her reasoning was for behaving as she has. She may have something going on in her life you are unaware of, or she may be frightened about your illness and how to relate to the new you. People do mighty strange things when they feel insecure and uncomfortable. She knows how supportive you have been of her and her daughter and grandchildren - perhaps she's afraid she doesn't have it in her to do the same for you.
All real true friendships have moments of hurt and misunderstanding, but if both of you are willing to listen to each other and really communicate, you can work through this and have a much stronger relationship because of it.