Here ya go girls. Why don't you just take your childish behavior to a OT thread and keep it out of the interesting threads. You've totally ruined a thread that was very interesting to many here. Keep your crap in a thread such as this so other's can choose to ship it if they want.
Thank you.
Even better, the 'Dayprol' forum hasn't had any interest in over two years - why not take all of the 'OT' stuff there, then relevent (RA) topics would be easier to find. Putting 'OT' in the subject doesn't stop it pushing other threads down and off the page.That's a good idea Tinker; but we've tried to steer things in that direction before and it doesn't work.
Truth is the majority of the OT threads are usually the ones that get the most hits; so it's obvious that their popular.....even the ones (or should I say especially the ones) that turn ugly.
I think many of us would just be happy if we could just get the bickering out of the threads that are informative. It's not uncommon for a thread to start off as one discussion and then turn to something totally different before it looses attention.....but the hand thread that I speak of has some really good information and more is added on a regular basis. I think I speak for many here when I say please don't screw up important subjects with this childish bickering!
Trust me; many people enjoy the threads with the crap in it. I'm guilty of enjoying some of it at times myself.....let's just make it clear where to find it and where not to for those that don't have time to weed through the mess everyday.
If you've got something to say in another thread that's totally off topic. Post a link to this thread and direct people here to hear your no holding back truthful comments. Some do in fact want to hear them.
You'll get plenty of attention here. Trust me.
Lovie,
With all due respect......why are you directing this thread and these comments to this thread only? What about the "bush" thread and the Al Gore thread.
I appreciate the fact that you like Roxy, but please, we don't need another mother. It is part of being on a board, sometimes you have to sift thru the crap to get to the good stuff.
Phats
The Bush thread and the Al Gore thread clearly states in the topic what it's about. That's my point exactly.
I haven't said anything about Roxy and her situation. I have no comment for the situation and I'll continue to leave it at that.
My point is that those threads waned from the topic. In fact, a couple of times, they got kinda nasty. My question was, why didn't you address those topics?
Phats
in a topic that has to do w/ politics it is expected that they vere twords the nastness at times. ITs a given. BUT in a thread about someones hands being deformed im not sure ANYONE expected that typed of thread to vere in the direction it did turn.KM:
It wasn't the topic, it was the poster. But, that is for another time
I will say that Roxy going into her personal situation was out of place in a thread about hand problems in which she started. I understand that was out of place.....I agree that was out of place. I hoped to move that stuff away from there. That's all. I could care less if you guys hate each other. Doesn't matter to me at all. Hate is a rather strong word. I don't hate Roxy, I don't know her, other than what she posts. Just wanted to clarify that point
Phats most of those long off topic threads are kept going by just a couple of people. Its a shame some of the arthritis discussions get lost to argue politics and personalities You all say if we dont like the thread dont read it .well DITTO!! If you dont like Roxys threads dont read them.Pass them over to another thread you would be more happier reading I wish I had the power to do that SOD. It's a great idea. I would relabel that entire front page of the board to reflect some of the topics so many seem interested in. I don't see any harm in posting the stuff......they always get lots of attention. I'd just like to seperate them. I think we can all agree on that. The only way we can do this it to all agree to direct certain comments and certain topics to a certain area. I have been happy to see lately a lot of OT labeled threads. This is helpful for those that want to avoid anything that is not RA or Arthritis related. It doesn't stop improtant topics from moving to the next page like Tink wants.....but it's a start. So...if Roxy wants to post about her personal life...maybe she should start an OT thread about it? That way everyone knows up front what it is about and it keeps the personal stuff out of the ra stuff and then the nasty stuff out of the important ra stuff. This way...roxy can post what she wants...keeps the topics on track...and anyone who wants to read about someone's personal life...they can do it on the OT thread.
You can always "bump" up a topic too. Just put "bump" or really anything else in the post reply box and hit post reply. Yes, there is freedom of speech. Which leaves everyone on this board free to post an opinion about any issue on this board. Isn't telling someone not to read something exerting control over them? These are suggestions and only suggestions. No one is trying to control where or what anyone posts. I just feel people are trying to find a resoloution to the nastiness. I don't really care who posts what where. I think people just want the nastiness left out of the ra threads. It discourages people from posting and it scares off new people. I get scores of PM's from new people asking me why things are so nasty. Not too long ago people asked that off topic stuff be posted as such and kept out of the ra topics. Some people here feel that a person's marriage and intimate personal life details are off topic from the ra and to avoid any nastiness, all they are asking is that it is posted as an off topic thread. And just like all of the other off topic threads, it will give you the choice on whether you want to read that thread or not. I am not a control freak. Farthest thing from it lol. The one thing I have learned from having ra as long as I have, there is no control in a lot of aspects of life. Things just happen and sometimes you just have to let them happen.
Hip hip hooray!!!!!! It works so much better when the personal posts are labeled as OT. I can chose not to read them, it was so frustrating to be reading a post about a RA topic and have the intimate details of someone's life pop up all the time uninvited. Let's hope we can keep it that way, then people really can chose what they want to read and what they don't. I know sometimes I just have the time and energy to read the posts that interest me and it was so hard to have other things popup on the thread totally unrelated. YAY!!! Thank you Gramma and Lovie!!!! Can you imagine a new member reading about deformed hands because they need info and BOOM hit in the face with someone's personal life like that !!!! Thank you again Lovie and Gramma!!!! I hope we can keep it this way!! It does seem to be catching on Daisy....and I agree it's a good thing. I see many OT threads. It's the regulars that ordinarily talk about personal matters; so I think most of the regulars will soon catch on to what we hope to acheive. Thanks to all who are participating. OMG!! Just saw this thread and the hand deformity thread too!! I havent posted here in a while because everyone was bashing Roxy so bad the last time. I came back cause I thought it was over but I guess not. I sure wished I had read this before I posted on the Love matters post. Wont post personal anymore. Sorry momof3 MO3.....that was a topic already for that very subject. None of us are opposed to personal information. Like I said before; they are some of our most popular threads. We're just trying to seperate them from other subject matters. That's all. Please don't worry. It's fine. [QUOTE=Gimpy-a-gogo]It's true, I've noticed there's been a reduction in activity on this site since the Whoa, and BASHFEST it was!!!!
And here she is again. Maybe she felt that the coast was clear.
You'll notice many of us have been supportive of her and others in all kinds of situations. All we're hoping to do is steer it in another direction. Roxy also agreed that this was a good idea. Look and see. http://arthritisinsight.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8118&a mp;PN=1 If she sees no problem with this solution I see no reason for you to. No ones upset about this solution. We're just hoping to make as many people as possible happy on a board that is shared by many. Well we'd love for you to join in more often George. I'm sure the few men we have here would welcome your support
Good to hear from ya. No, no....I'm refering to some of the personal mean spirited attacks we has a while back. We lost a lot of our regulars during that and even before that we lost some really strong members because they do get offended by it. Those threads you are talking about Loster are flagged OT or have obvious subject lines that make it clear what they are about. Honestly I haven't read enough of those to understand what you mean. I'm not one to talk politics because it's rare that my views are in sync with others. I steer clear of those for that reason because if I do read them I'll feel like I need to post an opinion that will only ruffle feathers. A good healthy debate is good for us though and I think it's good that you guys are doing that. If you are refering to me acting as if I own the board I don't believe that is the case. I've just been around here a long time and feel I can bring a suggestion to the group. If people choose to latch onto the idea and run with it: Great! If not, there's little that can be done about it. I've been coming here a long time and I enjoy it. Despite the occational off beat remarks I feel like we've got a strong group here. Just like in society there are always going to be some that rub you the wrong way. Act as if you were in society and bite your tounge or say things in a manner that you would if you were standing face to face with someone. That's just common sence.
Lovie why don't you give her her very own area of the board?
first Roxy bashfest.yes; I know that several of the regulars that use to be here are at other forums now and don't visit here at all anymore. It really offends some people. Some it doesn't bother at all.....and some like me are somewhere in between.
first Roxy bashfest.[/QUOTE]
If Roxy needs support then lets give it to her - why is there a need to be selective about the 'type' of need or the person who needs support.
Empathy is what it is called. Those without empathy often suffer from Aspergers Syndrome - read about it.
here are at other forums now and don't visit here at all anymore. It really
offends some people. Some it doesn't bother at all.....and some like me
are somewhere in between. [/QUOTE]
So are the regulars gone now because of the threads like Al Gore and I
hate the Bushs? I hope not. Or is it that some people actually think
outside the box and have a life beyond the RA? I know I'm going to get
bashed for this post so bring it on. I don't have a problem with Roxy
posting whatever Roxy wants to post. I don't have a problem with anyone
posting anything they want. If it somehow provides therapy, do it. If
people don't want to read it, then don't. To me, it just means we are all
still living and breathing with this disease. We still have enough life left
in us to disagree. Disagreement is not a bad thing. I learn much during
these disagreements. What I do disagree with is some of the blasts that
occurred on Roxys thread. It was downright mean. And once it started, it
deterioted. I think Roxy has enough on her plate, she does not need that
sort of treatment. No one does. I seriously question the people who did
blast her. If they don't like her thread, don't read it. I just think people
should be more honest in here, but then, this is the internet, lol. The
environmental and political threads get down right mean and that is what
those threads are all about. We are all able to recover and actually be
nice to eachother. Even me and Lisa get along (I hope) I also have a
problem with people thinking they own the board and can decide what
can and cannot be posted.
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