When you hear or read something that makes you want to react, perhaps something you perceive as inflammatory, what is your best tip for how to calm down and just let it go?
One suggestion I've heard is to write a letter (or in this case a post) and say everything that's on your mind, then delete it.
I find that sometimes doing something else for awhile to distract myself, and then deciding how important it is, can help.
What's your best tip for just letting go?
playing the mandolin...meaningless words melt when confronted by the magic of a few well played notes
Alan
I write something and then delete it like Sooz does. I also clean, read, and crochet.I seem to like to call my mommy and vent to her about things that bother me. It helps me to feel better, but if I still do not get it out of my system after I talk to her about it, I will type it all out in a post or MS word and then hit clear form, or close.
My AA sponsor told me to write their name on TP and use it :) And away go resentments down the drain ... lolCathy, that is pretty funny.Thinkthinn, I like the line in your signature. Sometimes it helps me to imagine (and sometime it takes A LOT of imagination) to try and see how the other person might see it. It always amazes me when hubby and I manage to start an argument out of nothing because we each believed the other intended something they didn't.
That's not to say that bad intentions are always imaginary in life, but sometimes how we're feeling and how we're reading (without cues of voice and body language) really affect things. And how the other person is feeling at that moment is affecting what they say.
If we take everyone here for their word, that they are suffering with at least one terrible disease, and many of us more than one, then let's make allowances when we can for how that wears away our patience. I know my fuse is a lot shorter than it used to be...