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THis is off topic, need your input please.

My daughter went to go visit our dog ,Nibby, where we used to live and to drop off a camera. Nibby was not acting right but remembered her but was not well and when I had asked my ex fiance' about the dog he stated that she was hit by a car. HE never took her to a vet. He reassures me she is fine and probably had internal injuries. But......she was never seen by a vet.

I want to get Nibby to get her some medical care and to live a life that is not full of struggle and suffering. Should I contact the Animal protection agency first or should I just ask him for the dog and if he says no go to the animal protection. I do not want this to be a threat, I just want Nibby to lead a healthier life.

Your input is much appreciated.

jode

Whether or not he can afford to take Nibby to the vet is irrelevant and if you can afford the costs involved in seeking care for Nibby I would suggest you ask him if you can take Nibby to the vet.

If he can afford to take Nibby to the vet but hasn't his home isn't the place for Nibby!!

If he declines your offer to take Nibby to the vet contact the animal protection agency in your area immediately if not sooner. As you say Nibby shouldn't be living in pain and misery and she can't tell anyone how she feels. She's entitled to vet care. Take Care

Thank you for the input! I recently had a birthday and have some birthday money left over. I have enough to drive to Indiana and to bring Nibby home, buy her some food and to get her to a vet. I already called the vet office here and just a reg exam including her shots ( pretty sure she has not had her updated shots) would be a bit over 0.00. At least she would get some meds for her pain and the vet would have a better idea of what is wrong with her.

Yes, to answer your question, my ex-fiance' has enough money to take a dog to a vet, even if it were to cost him several hundred dollars, will he ever spend that kind of money on a dog, doubtful, he has not as of last week. I have minimal cash flow and willing to give it all up for her. It doesn;t make me a "better person" just a different type of person.

Like I said, I do not want an argument or a huge battle about this, I am just concerned for Nibby's health which he insists is fine...I don't know of too many dogs that would be just fine after being hit by a car, but then again, I am no expert.

jode

Could you just ask to "borrow" the dog and then never return it? That's how I
got my cat (now deceased). I did it for the same reasons you are. Once it
turned out the cat was diabetic my ex-roomate didn't want it back.

Borrow Nibby? doubt that he would go for that, but if she is really sick.....trust me he will not want her........eeew bad memory trace. What is it about being ill and not wanted?

I know he really likes Nibby but then again I have seen him kick the crap out of her too, she could be a trouble maker but no reason to kick a dog. I know she gets full of ticks and fleas, probably has lost her hearing due to ear mites ( I was treating her for earmites when I left, I doubt if he kept up the ear medicine). No doubt she has worms, has had no shots for at least 3 years. He claims she is a "country dog and don't need all that".

I just do not know what to do. I guess I need to ask for the dog and go from there. Dunno.

jode

[QUOTE=jodejjr]ral hundred dollars, It doesn;t make me a "better person" just a different type of person.[/QUOTE]

You are a better person than him for sure. I love animals and cant see them suffer without offering help. Animals can not help themselves.

If you cant get the dog back then call the authorities.
You are thinking the right way.

That is what I thought, for all the joy and protection that dog gave us and she was just one of the family, I cannot sit here knowing she was hurt and nothing is being done about it. Thanks for the input, my thinking is right on track then.

jode

Jodi, get your daughter to go back and steal the dog, or better yet let it get in her car and act like she didn't know it was in there and then you will have your dog......

And her being a "country dog" and don't need all that is BS. I grew up on a farm and we had outside cats and dogs but they were taken care of. Jode, please do something for Nibby.

I'm a little confused Jode. Do you have the dog with you now? Sounded like it.

I say take her to the vet. Get her the treatment she needs and then tell the ex (IF HE ASKS) that she has problems that will require contined treatment. It's likely that he won't even want her once he realizes she may end up costing him money.

I hope she isn't really injured. Good Luck! You're a good person to care so much.

Hi Jode - I left my dog of 18 years with my ex husband when we separated because of my state of health, the fact I would be renting and she loved our cats & for other reasons thought at the time it was the right thing to do. The dog died 2 years later and when I asked my husband if I could come and see her to say goodbye (he lived in the country quite a way from me even though that is no excuse for my not keeping a better check on her). I saw him once go to kick her, he didnt actually connect with his connect but the intention was there. I have regretted it bitterly ever since and feel extremely guilty all these years later and always will.
Go get your dog, without his permission, anyone who kicks a dog doesnt deserve it anyway - if he objects threaten to take him to the animal cruelty authorities - he will back off.
Good on you, I know it has been worrying you for a while and what you want to do is the 'right' thing and you will be able to live with your conscience. Go for it Jude and good luck. I wouldnt worry about taking the dog to its vet, that will just end up complicating matters, bring it home and take it to your vet and give it a good home.
Congratulations on your courage.

For sure get the doggie. Nibby (what a cute name too) is showing signs of neurological trauma. When did the hit by car happen? How old is the dog?

If he refuses to give you the dog, you can involve the police and your local animal cruelty society. He can actually be arrested and fined or given jail time for neglecting to get the dog immediate medical treatment after the trauma that Nibby suffered. It is not only immoral, but illegal.

Jode, a very similar thing happened recently to my daughter and son in
law. Their neighbors have a cat who has had 2 litters of kittens in the
past year. They cannot afford to get her spayed I guess. a few kittens
died from the first litter. The other day, the cat had another litter and
one of the kittens was not doing so well so they took the kitten outside,
still alive and left it for dead on the front lawn. My 9 and 6 year old
granddaughters came across this kitten, struggling to breath so they ran
home and got my SIL to go look at the kitten. They came home and
called and asked me what to do. I said. Call the humane society and
have them come over and do something. Well, by the time he got back
over there, the kitten was dead. Turns out, this place is a meth lab and
my SIL didn't want to get involved and have something bad happen to him
and his family. What a mess. No wonder the kittens were not surviving,
being exposed to that. Some people should not have pets. If you cannot
care for them, get them medical attention, don't have them. It is very
sad.

I may just do that, go get her. I in no way shape or form want to hurt my ex fiance', afterall he was the love of my life, and I do know how much he did love that dog but he does have a temper. Nibby should be allowed medical treatment and not to suffer so. It will be a huge adjustment for her but I think she will be ok. I would not take her to the vet there cause I do not want to raise anymore eyebrows in such a small town. I honestly intend no harm or hurt feelings, but if you are gonna have adog there are responsibilities that go with that whether you have time or not.

Thanks for the input everyone! It has been a huge struggle trying to problem solve this.

jode